So sad about my school choice

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I live local to two schools, one of which I went to as a child. I picked the other school for my children because I stupidly listened to people saying the other local is a better school etc . In hindsight it is not any better and I feel my children would have been a lot happier in the other school and I have so many happy memories of my days in that school. My daughter askes me what school I went to and it breaks my heart when I tell her, it makes me so sad that she doesn't go there, wearing that little uniform which is still exactly the same as what I had when I went to that school.

Everyday when I see them in their uniform I feel so sad. I feel like I've let them down and I'm so down about it. It would have been lovely for them to go to the same school as I went to, my daughter especially would have been so happy to know I went to the same school as her and I know that school would have been a way better school for them.

I made the wrong choice and I'm so sad.

I think this is more about you than your DC.

Its not the school, its the parents. Snobby Twitter-educated parents are everywhere, so there's no hiding away from it op. The whole "clique" culture is in most schools, if not all. Those cliquey mums at baby group turn into the cliquey mums at the school gate who filter down their cliquey mindset to their children. Times have changed since we've been in school.

Do you invite them to play?

Sounds very much like your looking for issues to try to justify the ohner school being better to be honest.

@MotherOfCrocodiles

I hear you, it's not rational but I was kind of sad when I picked the green uniform school for my kids- another local school has red uniform like I had as a kid. Ridiculous but I feel nostalgia when I see the red uniform kids!

I think you are processing something about your daughter becoming her own person separate to you, not living the childhood you imagined based on your own childhood, but her own life that she chooses.

Over time I think you will come to be so fond of your children's school. Maybe even more so than your own old school. It's like the other roads you didn't travel (did you imagine having children of the other sex, or with a different age gap?). The feeling of thinking back on the choice will fade.

This!

You are processing some kind of lost stage of your life, or your child’s growing up or something. Your feelings are prob not about the school itself.

You need to address these issues with someone professional. Utterly bizarre.

OP, I’ve been feeling the same as you but I’m glad to read the replies are, which have helped me to see sense.

I still live in the same house I grew up in, so live within walking distance of the school I went to.

we chose to send our daughter to a school 5 miles away, so we have to drive. It IS a better school than my old school (which since I went there has been knocked down and rebuilt). She did go to the preschool attached to my old school.

I hate that I can’t ever walk her to school, like I did. My heart sinks when we drive past it in the mornings.

On the other hand, she has a lovely close friendship with her class of just 11. The school is rural and parking is never a problem. The teachers are lovely and it really feels like a family. I wouldn’t give that up just so I could walk her to school, as sad as I feel about it.

If your children are happy, that’s all that matters.