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Original poster

To be peeved with my sister and fucking make up?

109 replies

QuestionableMouse · 19/12/2021 10:04

We've brought the kiddos away for the weekend and are sharing a hotel room.

We were late getting on the road yesterday because it takes her so long to get ready. Today, we're probably going to miss breakfast anywhere because it's taken her over 45 minutes to put her face on and I've had to do everything (tidying round/packing up- we're checking out today and staying with family tonight, getting the kids ready) while she sat there doing makeup.

Aibu to be a bit annoyed? It's the same every time we go anyway!

OP posts:
Totalwasteofpaper · 19/12/2021 10:06

Most places do breakfast until 11 otherwose there are lots of all day cafes/ restaurants

Make your peace this it on this trip for your sanity and the kids and just resolve to ALWAYS travel separately in the future.

BaronessBomburst · 19/12/2021 10:07

Go for breakfast without her!

Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 19/12/2021 10:08

I can't leave her cause we're in my car!😕

OP posts:
Thatsplentyjack · 19/12/2021 10:08

Why are you waiting for her? I would go without her and take the kids. If she wants to take that long to get ready, she should get up earlier.

EllieSattler · 19/12/2021 10:08

I'm saying YABU only because you've said it's the same every time, so you should have expected and prepared for it, and you haven't just fucked off and left her to it.

EllieSattler · 19/12/2021 10:09

@QuestionableMouse

I can't leave her cause we're in my car!😕
You can leave her because you're in your car! She can get a taxi to catch up when she's ready. Guaranteed if you leave her once she'll be ready on time in future.
Bloballbovish · 19/12/2021 10:12

In future, make sure the hotel room is in her name, then get yourself and your kids sorted and go out the room with your stuff. Even if you're sharing a car, leave her to sort herself out. Hotel room in her name so she gets the late checkout fee if there is any.

I'd start making sure I went in separate cars to places with her then you can arrive and leave at your leisure, she can sort her own kids out after she's slathered her face.

As for today, I'd just make loads of disparaging sisterly remarks about how shit her make up looks, just to piss her off! 'So were you going for the Bobo the Clown look today then?' stuff like that.

pinkyredrose · 19/12/2021 10:12

If it's the same every time you should've expected it!

Bloballbovish · 19/12/2021 10:12

Missed the update about your car, yes go! Take your children and your luggage and go go go!

Mrsjayy · 19/12/2021 10:13

Why won't you tell her to move her arse 🙄

2pinkginsplease · 19/12/2021 10:13

Leave without her, if she can’t be ready for a certain time then leave. I wouldn’t have anyone holding me back just because they are taking too long to get ready.

She can catch up when she’s ready.

Roundeartheratchriatmas · 19/12/2021 10:13

Go without her. She can bring her kids later.

NovemberNovemberDarkNights · 19/12/2021 10:13

YABU only because you know she's like this, but continue to go away with her, then expect her to be any different. Why didn't you just take the kids down to breakfast?

Obviously she's a bit of a twat, but it's how she is, don't make other arrangements with her or plan around what she's like!

TooWicked · 19/12/2021 10:13

It's the same every time we go anyway!

Well then you knew what to expect. No sympathy. More fool you.

stalkersaga · 19/12/2021 10:14

You being in your car is exactly why you can leave her! She's not beside the car to go for breakfast at a given time, it leaves without her, end of story.

abigailsnan · 19/12/2021 10:15

Surely you must know what she is like when you go away together ? Surely she can put on some tinted moisturiser and do the rest after breakfast... unbelievable

FluffyBooBoo · 19/12/2021 10:15

Of course you can go for breakfast without her! You surely aren't so far away from anywhere that you can't find somewhere close enough for you to either walk or arrange to pick her up near the hotel?

WeatherwaxOn · 19/12/2021 10:15

I used to have a friend like this. Well over half an hour spent applying make up to go to the corner shop.

Just leave her to it.

BridStar · 19/12/2021 10:15

I stopped waiting for people years ago. Take your kids to breakfast. You're an adult, other people don't dictate your schedule.

Dozer · 19/12/2021 10:15

On this occasion can appreciate it would’ve been hard to do what suited you/your DC as this would’ve impacted on her DC too. After it’s over would express your annoyance. Then wouldn’t do things like this with her again unless she had her own room/transport etc.

Dozer · 19/12/2021 10:16

Would defo have gone to breakfast without her.

MushMonster · 19/12/2021 10:16

If possible, get the kids down with you for breakfast? Or are they too small for you to take on your own?

invisiblereally · 19/12/2021 10:31

OP
Take yourself your DCs (& hers if you can) to breakfast
Clear up your own stuff, dump hers on her bed if you're sharing a room.

Give her a time each day that you are leaving by. For breakfast for the outings or whatever . If she's not ready you leave. She'll soon learn to get up earlier.

Best though to Stop sharing a room with her, book separate rooms. Hers in her name with her credit card , yours in your name with your credit card.

And if she keeps you waiting around Kate to leave for home or from home, you no longer extend her offer of lift. She makes her own way to & from places "as you make everyone hours later , we will meet you there"

Clymene · 19/12/2021 10:34

I would have gone to breakfast with my children and tidied up my stuff.

You're not staff.

Pinkypenguin · 19/12/2021 10:43

You have to learn from this. Next time give her a fifteen minute warning that you will leave by x time whether or not she is ready and she'll have to get a plastic sandwich from a garage if she's not ready in time, while you and your children have your lovely breakfast.