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To ask when the last time you feel attractive was?

155 replies

Lockeddownagain · 17/12/2021 22:03

I've realised that the last time I felt attractive was in 2006
I wondered if others feel like that too

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cheeseislife8 · 17/12/2021 22:03

2009ish? It's been a while

Libertybauble · 17/12/2021 22:07

Sometimes I do cause in my head I still look like I did in 2006 - then I look in the mirror and see a fat tired haggard panda eyed woman looking back at me and I don’t any more!

In low lighting with nice makeup I look ok. But in the harsh light of day - definitely not. Zoom and Teams calls and being confronted with my own face several times a day in calls don’t help, either.

the80sweregreat · 17/12/2021 22:08

About 1986 ? Lol 😂
Ish

shivermetimbers77 · 17/12/2021 22:10

2012 .. and then it all went rapidly downhill from there!

Elfonthesofa · 17/12/2021 22:12

This is so sad.

For me, I've felt attractive this year. I'm not sexy or attractive really. But with my heels on, bit of make up and my hair done, I feel good.

Benjispruce5 · 17/12/2021 22:12

Today. I’m 50 and I’m not kidding myself but I’m feeling well and that’ll do me. It’s better than the alternative!

sbhydrogen · 17/12/2021 22:14

Saturday! 😜

EssexLioness · 17/12/2021 22:15

Yesterday. Sorry if that sounds vain, it isn’t meant to at all. I am in my 40s and not stunning or anything, but I think I look quite nice when I make an effort. My husband tells me all the time that I look nice/ sexy etc. I actually feel better about my looks than I did when I was much younger (and slimmer)
I have recently lost a lot of weight and am now a healthy weight. I had to replace all my clothes with a new wardrobe and had got a completely new hairstyle that really suits me.I have spent many years hating my figure and how I look and now I feel confident and good about myself. I was only popping out for errands so just had on jeans and a fitted jumper but I was having a good hair day and tried on a new lipstick.

ProudThrilledHappy · 17/12/2021 22:17

2008? Pre-pregnancy

vampirestockingfiller · 17/12/2021 22:19

Yesterday. Nice jumper, festive shiny eyeshadow and I'd washed my hair. That'll do me.

Fetchthevet · 17/12/2021 22:21

Never! I'm not attractive in any way. It makes life harder but I'm used to it now.

tunnocksreturns2019 · 17/12/2021 22:23

Oh literally never

RavingAnnie · 17/12/2021 22:26

I like this thread. Glad it's not just me! I developed chronic illness about 5/6 years ago, put on three stone and combined with it bring my late forties, I don't think I've felt attractive since my early 40s.

I occasionally think I look ok and then catch myself in a different mirror and as PPs have says, realise I look like a fat middle aged woman with a double chin who's jowls are going.

Tbf it's not just the physical appearance but feeling unwell, not yourself mentally and a deteriorating body does not make you feel attractive or sexy in any way whatsoever.

Lorriestakingppe · 17/12/2021 22:27

I'm sort of alright from the neck down fully clothed, in the semi dark... Confused

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 17/12/2021 22:27
  1. My ex husband had made me feel like shit about myself and I met a very hot guy at work who couldn't keep his hands off me. I genuinely felt attractive and was getting a lot of attention from various sources. I lost a bit of weight and felt healthier.

Then it all started to go downhill. I took a promotion and became seriously exhausted from the 4-5hr daily commute on top of long working hours. Then I had a baby and went back full time. I'm due my second soon and I look and feel like shit. I'm classed as obese and can't see that changing any time soon.

DBI78 · 17/12/2021 22:28

Wedding day 5 years ago

Newpuppymummy · 17/12/2021 22:28

Gosh probably 1994 for me. Which makes me super sad

DeedIDo · 17/12/2021 22:32

About 4:30 today when I sprayed some perfume and put some lips on before I went out to my local.

I'm past meno, have shed the excess weight, have lots of interest from men, life is good.

coogee · 17/12/2021 22:34

I feel attractive now.

Of course, I could be deluded.

noblegreenk · 17/12/2021 22:38

I last felt attractive on a regular basis before dd was born. So that would be 2018. I do sometimes feel attractive when I'm dressed up for weddings and nights out, but these occasions are few and far between nowadays!

JeffThePilot · 17/12/2021 22:38

Never

again2020 · 17/12/2021 22:43

Mildly attractive, in October at a friends hen do.
Properly, in 2013. I aged quite a lot after turning 30 and when I had DD.

colouringindoors · 17/12/2021 22:43

Over the last six months. New man regularly tells me I'm beautiful 😊

Before that, married to ex, last I remember was my wedding day in 90s when my brother told me how beautiful I looked.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 17/12/2021 22:44

I feel attractive most days. I'm about a stone overweight, I'm fairly pretty (or so I get told) but I'm certainly no beauty queen. I am confident though and that attracts people. I'm 31, have more confidence in myself now than I did in my 20s.

TheHungriestMama · 17/12/2021 22:44

@EssexLioness how did you lose the weight? I can never make my efforts stick if that makes sense. I get to within 2 lbs of my first goal and then go back up 4 lbs so constantly up and down

Also, I felt attractive last week but always aware of the fact I'll feel (and therefore look) a lot better 2 stone lighter

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