To ask when the last time you feel attractive was?

[Lockeddownagain]

I've realised that the last time I felt attractive was in 2006
I wondered if others feel like that too

About 5 minutes before the hairdresser gave me a cut three inches shorter than I asked for and as it grows out I look like Willy bloody wonka.

When your dh says it’s not that bad you know it’s really bad.

I’ve had to stop colouring my hair due to allergies. I think I look good when I make an effort with my makeup and style my hair, nice clothes, but my experience when I’m out and about is the opposite. I think because of the greys it’s assumed I’m bloody ancient and about to kick the bucket any minute. I’m 48

Never. Honestly.

Age 16 to 18 only so 2000 to 2002

Summer 2020 - I'd lost some weight and was in a great place mentally, even through the lockdown with four kids alone! Exercise and good weather helped. Sadly lockdown 2.0 really knocked me for 6 and I have put weight back on and feel sluggish and horrible in myself. Bad diet and lack of exercise due to decreased motivation.

Today. And if I don't feel that way I'll do better tomorrow. It's all inside.

Last night.
I havent thought about it today though.

Whenever I have a zoom meeting as I have make up filters on zoom.
On teams I look like the haggard knackered woman I truly am.

In summer where I put up pics of my oldest's bat mitzvah and lots of people said I looked lovely! I generally just don't care whether or not I'm attractive, so don't think about it but it's always nice to be complimented.

Face on, good angle, and discounting my increasingly hefty body... I can see I have a nice face.

The last time I felt fully attractive it was 2019 (I was 40) and I was physically fit, active, slimmer...

To whom? I looked ok to me until Monday when I caught Covid. Right now I look like Shit's less pretty sister.

Around 2016/2017 before I had DC (2019). Since the day I brought her home, I have felt unattractive. Gained almost 4 stone over that period of time. I'm generally miserable about it but can admit that I have been comfort eating to block out other issues I have been dealing with. Sending you hugs, OP. You are not alone.

I made the active decision this year to sort out my plummeting mental health and body image.

Through HOURS of counselling about my childhood etc and an actual investment in myself, my outfits, hair etc for the first time since my teens I’m on the road to learning to like myself again.

It’s hard but so worth it. I’m so sorry everyone feels so badly you are attractive and you are beaitud 🥺

2017. Id lost 3 stone in weight, I liked the colour of my hair. I liked how my clothes fit. My DC were school age and I had time to do things like paint my nails and use tanning products , curl my hair and whatnot.. Then dc3 came along and it went to shit

Today but only because my Botox has kicked in 😂

Last week, when my Ex who has spent the last 9 years making me feel like I'm a piece of shite reluctantly told me his friend thinks I'm incredibly beautiful and wants me to do some modelling work for her (all legit).
It really hurt him to tell me that!
My confidence is way too shot to bits to take up the offer and I'm very much not remotely classically beautiful, but it was a lovely moment!

Never felt vaguely attractive, but that's because I'm ugly.
My nose is too big, I've got Dumbo sized ears that stuck out at right angles.
I've got goofy front teeth and can't smile to save my life.
I'm at least 3 stone overweight and too lazy to change it.
I've got an ugly personality as well, I'm negative and miserable all the time.
I'm truly ugly, inside and out.

I find people who are kind really, really attractive, regardless of their physical attributes. So, some of you who don't feel attractive, just remember there may well be people finding you attractive, you just don't know it!
As for me, I managed to take a random selfie last week and I was pleasantly surprised, although I don't look that good normally.

Such low sef esteem on here.
l feel attractive most days, why not ?
l look after myself , mentally l am in a good place, that helps, but l have worked on it.
l am on my own, but get lots of nice compliments from males and females, and l give plenty back, l think being kind as well as upbeat/ happy/ confident in your own skin can be seen as attractive, not all about looks.

Before I got pregnant/had dc so around 2005.

luckily i lower the bar for myself as I go along, so at 51 years old I'm going to say, yesterday. (I am going to put some make up on now though)

Today and every day I can remember. I don't think I am amazing looking but have good bones and am (and have always been) a healthy weight. I recently started colouring my hair again. Never been short of male attention is anyone else brave enough to post a picture I wonder.

Every bloody day!

I'm in my late 40s, am I the same as I was when I was 20? No.

Am I still as attractive? Yes.

I was putting my big pants on near the mirror and had a bit of a prance. Declared myself sexy.

Fear is the mind killer!

It does pain me to see so many women with such negative views of themselves, and lots of qualified statements of 'I think I am but'.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with declaring oneself the best thing since sliced bread.

I think it's essential for a healthy life to have a positive relationship with yourself.

Right now! I'm 42 and happy with my looks. Took me a long time to like what I saw in the mirror, probably early 30s when I really began to love myself. Now I'm 42 and very aware of ageing, but also that in ten years time I'll be wishing I look like I do now...so trying to appreciate it.