MIL asking DD what is your mummy cooking for tea?

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MIL regularly face times DD she seems to always throw in a passive aggressive comment such as what is your Mummy cooking for tea? (I ordered a pizza )So she then passively aggressively comments that's unhealthy. Why does she never
ask "What is your daddy cooking for tea ?"
I'm a student nurse doing an integrated masters with two assignments due in I also work on the nursing bank , her dad works from home in a low stress role. The funny thing is I do like MIL just not the expectation that her son should be waited on and not expected to help.

If I ever have a son I will not be asking my GCs what their mother was cooking for tea.

AIBU?

H ban mine has done the same. Its plain nasty and rude.

As grown women we can roll our eyes and ignore, but the problem is that the patriarchal attitude is being "taught" to our dd's by these little micro aggressions. Each time MIL (who is lovely btw) has said or implied to my dd about looking pretty for the boys, mummy's job is to do all of the cooking, don't worry, you'll find a nice rich husband whilst your db goes to uni, I have challenged it and spoken to my dd and ds about equality and expectations. It takes a village to raise a child, and attitudes like this can and do rub off.

Yabu in the fact that your MIL is from another generation.

Don't be so foolish as to think when you become a MIL you won't also say politically incorrect things that were fine for our generation. The generation below us have a problem with the t.v show Friends.....and on and on it goes.

It is probably because this is how your MIL was brought up! Until fairly recently, women were expected to do for their husband and their children. Men got off with working. If women wanted to work, they had to be prepared to do all the work in the house as well.
My man got a shock when I moved in as I expected him to do the housework as he spent more time in the house than me. That was 35 years ago... Most people included my mother backed him when he protested. My answer... He better get used to living in a manky house because I was not working full time and doing housework. For the first year, he did nowt, but neither did I. Then he learned!!!

When DH and I first moved in together his DM took me aside and said, "when you're ironing his hankies, it's best if you..." I cut her off, saying "can I just stop you there". She runs around after her DH like a servant. She's learned now that I'm not like that with her precious son.

I disagree with those excusing such comments as being just a generational thing.

Have these MILs (and other women) really not followed their children’s worlds? Their school days and exams, university paths, noticed the changes in gender roles? Did they not have even a brief chat about their children’s property purchases and the cost of their mortgages? Were they then unable to do the simple maths that would help them realise that both son and partner would need to work full time to afford this? Have they never watched the news or tv dramas or soap operas and noted that roles have changed? I could go on.

I think it’s something else.