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To throw diamond ring away

203 replies

sweetpopcorn86 · 16/12/2021 19:00

I'm wondering...what did you do with your wedding/engagement ring after divorce?

OP posts:
Snuggledupforwinter · 16/12/2021 21:42

I got them remodelled into earrings and pendant in a style I liked (included some other jewellery he'd bought me).

ItsDisneyBitch · 16/12/2021 21:45

My exhusband ripped it off my finger taking half my skin with it so no idea. Hopefully at some point karma will kill him off by making him choke to death on a ring he accidentally swallows in a bizarre accident or something. But we can all live in hope.

Bobsyer · 16/12/2021 21:49

Firstly-you offer it back

You do not Confused. I think you're thinking of a broken engagement.

I would sell it. My understanding is that it's the ring and the setting that has the value rather than the diamond. Mine was only about £200 so wouldn't be worth much.

NeedAHoliday2021 · 16/12/2021 21:51

Sell it and buy a designer handbag or similar.

mrsfollowill · 16/12/2021 21:57

My friend cashed hers in about 8 yrs ago just for the value of the gold- in 1994 you could buy a plain gold wedding ring for £30 from H Samuels- she also had an emerald and diamond engagement ring- got £200 ish and put it towards her divorce.
Value of gold has shot up in the last few years- still wearing my wedding ring bought 1997 ish- cost us about £35 - same to buy now is at least £300. In your head throw it dramatically away but in real life just cash it in Grin

JaceLancs · 16/12/2021 21:58

I would keep, sell, gift to someone or donate to charity
I wear my wedding ring, engagement ring and 2 eternity rings on right hand - I’ve been divorced for years but still remember the good bits including my now grown up DC

user1471538283 · 16/12/2021 22:13

I sold mine and I really loved it.

HolidayTime2021 · 16/12/2021 22:20

@Bobsyer

Firstly-you offer it back

You do not Confused. I think you're thinking of a broken engagement.

I would sell it. My understanding is that it's the ring and the setting that has the value rather than the diamond. Mine was only about £200 so wouldn't be worth much.

You certainly do offer it back if it is an inherited ring. A family pice is on loan to you rather than being something that you own.
Hydrate · 16/12/2021 22:20

Both of mine (from previous engagements) were stolen! But I would have passed the first one on to my oldest son for him to either use as an engagement ring or he could have it melted down to be a part of a custom ring.

I have the one my father gave to my mother though, and am doing the same with that. Otherwise it goes into the will as part of our estate when we croak. My now dh never gave me an engagement ring, I just have a band.

HolidayTime2021 · 16/12/2021 22:30

[quote CommonRoom]@HolidayTime2021

If they refuse.-A work colleague brought hers in and tried to give it away
I called Oxfam- they sent a courier (she was very rich and from a very well known family)

sorry, bold fail.

If they refuse what? Bring it in where?
Oxfam send couriers if it's a well known family? Really? Oxfam pay for a courier to collect second hand things? Who are the 'well known families?' do Oxfam have a list of them by the phone so they can decide whether to use their courier service?

I can't make head nor tail of this[/quote]
Sorry I wasn't clear

My colleague was quite well known- even more so now.
Her father was an international household name.

On the day of her divorce she arrived at work with the ring.
She offered the very large diamond ring to anyone in the office who wanted it.
We were all a little stunned.
She said she wasn't taking it home and it must go today.

I called Oxfam and explained (we worked in Central London). They sent a courier round for it. They sent a lovely note later- it sold for many thousands over 25 years ago.

They didnt need a list. Hers was a name that you would instantly recognise. Worked in TV at the time.

So- donate it to charity if you dont want it- dont throw it away

unname · 16/12/2021 22:36

@sweetpopcorn86

Soooo my ex never actually gave me my ring back but he might do when the divorce is finalised....

If so, do you think it would a have a good resale value. Think he bought it for 3k

Don't have a daughter, only son

Keep the diamond for your son
Nat6999 · 16/12/2021 22:38

I sold my engagement & wedding rings the morning after I left my husband, only got scrap value but it was worth it.

Nat6999 · 16/12/2021 22:43

My engagement ring from you late dp is on a chain that I never take off.

TheDogsMother · 16/12/2021 22:55

We had our wedding rings made at Hatton Garden and used our previous wedding rings and my engagement ring as a trade in deposit. Possibly not for everyone but it seemed like a great way to recycle.

Bobsyer · 16/12/2021 23:11

@HolidayTime2021 what in the singular sentence of the OP makes you think it's inherited?

As that was a critical part of your reasoning maybe you should have included that in your post.

Stillcrikey · 16/12/2021 23:32

I thought the song said the diamond was to pay the divorce lawyer??

‘There may come a time
When a lass needs a lawyer,
But diamonds are a girl's best friend.’

Sell it or donate it to charity.

amiafreakofnature · 16/12/2021 23:41

I'm intrigued who the famous colleague is....

dcadmam · 17/12/2021 00:16

Kept it to give to my daughter when she is 18 or 21

ILoveAnOwl · 17/12/2021 00:34

Once the divorce comes through I'm having the stones redesigned into stacking rings. The sapphire will represent our son and the diamond our daughter. The marriage was awful, but our children are wonderful!

caringcarer · 17/12/2021 01:04

I went to the top of the cliff where he proposed to me and threw wedding ring in the sea. I gave engagement ring to my niece.

Snugglybuggly · 17/12/2021 01:24

Keep or sell

HollyChristmas · 17/12/2021 01:28

Gave to teenage daughter , then she lost it.

Imissmoominmama · 17/12/2021 01:37

First engagement ring, I gave to a charity shop, with the insurance certificate, so they knew it was real.

First wedding ring, I gave to our son (who I think has since lost it).

backtolifebacktoreality · 17/12/2021 02:22

@HolidayTime2021

Firstly-you offer it back If they refuse.-A work colleague brought hers in and tried to give it away I called Oxfam- they sent a courier (she was very rich and from a very well known family)

I may offer it back if i initiated the split. If they initiated it then there's no chance they would get it back and I'd probably sell the ring and keep the proceeds!

WeAreTheHeroes · 17/12/2021 04:16

My grasping XH asked for the rings back but backed off when I told him I'd already had them valued and they weren't worth nearly as much as he thought.