Page 5 | How much wine is too much

LalalalalalaLand123 · 16/12/2021 18:43

Your text is a bit garbled, but if you mean about a bottle each, that's a very normal amount among my friends, we often have more. Your non-drinking friend is bang out of order.

Mammyloveswine · 16/12/2021 19:04

@Samedaysame

Went out for a Christmas meal last night with 6 friends. One friend is a non drinker. We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us. This morning had a phone call from non drinking friend to say we all drank too much and 2 bottles between us should have been enough. We were not merry but nowhere near drunk, not noisy or disruptive. AIBU to think that this telling off is out of order.

I'd be telling judgey non drinking friend to fuck off as unless she was paying for it she doesn't get a say! Cheeky cow!

ChristmasFluff · 16/12/2021 19:06

She is not your friend.

I have recently become pretty much unable to drink, but I've found it has been exactly the same as when I was pregnant - my friends are hysterical to watch when they are drunk!

Random drunk people way less so - in fact they are annoying.

She has revealed herself.

TuftyMarmoset · 16/12/2021 19:22

@DressingPafe

Maybe she has concerns for her pissed up pals welfare. Many heavy drinkers are in complete denial

Then maybe she should decline invites to a boozy night out. She has no right to tell others how much they can drink.

What’s more likely, she’s a judgemental bitch who wants to police her friends, or that she wanted to have a nice meal out with friends, and was disappointed with their behaviour when they all drank a bit much and got a bit irritating as drunk people do?

Offmyfence · 16/12/2021 19:26

@PurpleDaisies

We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us

Are you still pissed?

Offmyfence · 16/12/2021 19:29

@PearlclutchersInc

Over a bottle apiece ...depends on the time it was over but there's a fair chance you were being loud and boring to the sober one.

Were you able to get yourselves home OK (another point?)

Well Op is alive and kicking and posting on MN. The non drinker presumably had made her list of calls to explain that they broke her unwritten rules, so would know if one was missing.

So yeah we can assume that they got home ok.

Your fine OP, I wouldn't invite such a judgemental bossy sanctimonious person again.

Offmyfence · 16/12/2021 19:30

@Hillarious

If your friend saw fit to comment, then it must have been too much.

Really, how do you know that?

I think she sounds like a judgemental bore if I'm honest.

She'd be left at home next time.

Offmyfence · 16/12/2021 19:33

@TuftyMarmoset

I think I trust the sober one to know how drunk the the rest of you were

Drunk people are really annoying, in her defence.

Best she stays home next time.

They won't be annoying then.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 16/12/2021 19:34

Me and my friend could quite easily polish that between us and get up the next day quite fresh!

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 16/12/2021 19:38

She'll know next time not to come.

Being lectured to by another adult is sphincter clenchingly dull.

FangsForTheMemory · 16/12/2021 19:41

I would expect half a bottle of wine per person with dinner, so a bottle each is quite a lot in my opinion. But if you were drinking that over the course of three hours, not so bad. It's not as if you're doing it twice a week.

TrufflyPig · 16/12/2021 19:54

I really don't understand why non drinkers who take issue with others drinking in their company go to events where they know there will be booze. If you find drunk people boring and irritating that's fair enough but why put yourself through it?

Also to complain about an evening out that you didn't pay for is pretty rude.

XiCi · 16/12/2021 20:48

Were you able to get yourselves home OK (another point?)
Are there seriously people that couldn't get themselves home after 3 small glasses of wine? Pretty unbelievable.

DressingPafe · 16/12/2021 21:19

I really don't understand why non drinkers who take issue with others drinking in their company go to events where they know there will be booze

Precisely. I don’t like stand up comedy. A group of my friends arranged a comedy club night. I politely declined and said I’d join them on the next night out. Simple. So all these people arguing “well drunk people are annoying” just don’t go then! Arrange your own alcohol free event and invite your friends to that.

milkysmum · 16/12/2021 21:24

I'm struggling to actually work out what you are saying with regards to how much you drunk to be honest!
I'd easy drink a bottle with a meal for reference though if that helps 🤷‍♀️

Thevoiceofreason2021 · 16/12/2021 21:29

A bottle is 9 units , so technically it is binge drinking. But 3 glasses feels like nothing - especially when catching up with friends. If she is a non drinker it can be a real bore socialising with people out on the lash. Maybe meet her for coffee or visit a gallery rather than include her in boozy nights out.

Offmyfence · 16/12/2021 21:30

@Thevoiceofreason2021

A bottle is 9 units , so technically it is binge drinking. But 3 glasses feels like nothing - especially when catching up with friends. If she is a non drinker it can be a real bore socialising with people out on the lash. Maybe meet her for coffee or visit a gallery rather than include her in boozy nights out.

Or maybe she arranged that, rather than berating grown adults as she doesn't approve of their behaviour?

TuftyMarmoset · 16/12/2021 21:42

@DressingPafe

I really don't understand why non drinkers who take issue with others drinking in their company go to events where they know there will be booze

Precisely. I don’t like stand up comedy. A group of my friends arranged a comedy club night. I politely declined and said I’d join them on the next night out. Simple. So all these people arguing “well drunk people are annoying” just don’t go then! Arrange your own alcohol free event and invite your friends to that.

It was a meal out not a pub crawl!

PappaPaddy · 16/12/2021 21:57

[quote LittleRoundRobin]@Samedaysame

I don't get this bit sorry...

We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us...

'6 bottles of wine between 5' and 'half bottles between us...' Struggling to make sense of that.

Anyway in answer to your question, 6 bottles between 5 people (if that IS what you meant,) sounds about right for a night out. 3 glasses each roughly, with a couple of people having 4 glasses? Not too much IMO.

Also, like some teetotallers (not all) your friend sounds like a judgemental bore. I know a couple of teetotallers and they always have something to say about ANYone who has a drink. In addition, they are boring and snarky and make it obvious that they actually want to drink alcohol - and are just projecting.

I don't think your friend is jealous - as a pp said - but she is boring and judgemental.

A friend of mine is married to a man who doesn't drink, and she can just drink a solitary glass of wine, and he starts barking 'piss-head' and 'lush' and 'alkie.'

It's got to the point now where she won't drink in front of him now, and won't have alcohol in the house. She just goes to a friend's house to drink. OR goes to the pub with her sister or one of her mates. I couldn't live like that personally. I would find it very hard to live with a man who doesn't drink alcohol. I don't think a teetotaller and a drinker are compatible long-term tbh.[/quote]
I may be wrong, but it reads like 6 bottles of wine was purchased, but only 5 and a half bottles was consumed. Leaving half a bottle left at the end of the night 😮

housemaus · 16/12/2021 22:09

@Mysterian

I've been out with people drinking and turning into boorish twats, being inconsiderate to those around them, and revealing their true often racist/sexist views. The next day they always manage to think they were just outgoing, bright, witty, and gay.

Your friend should avoid you when you're high on alcohol.

This is peak Mumsnet.

"People who get high on alcohol are secret racists" 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Nowomenaroundeh · 16/12/2021 22:09

What a lovely person. She was treated to a meal out in a nice restaurant and instead of phoning to say thank you she phoned to pass judgement on your alcohol consumption.

If she had phoned and said "listen you were rude to me last night..." that's a different story but she only seems to have commented on how much you drank. What business is it of hers? Rude cow.

Mysterian · 16/12/2021 22:11

You really shouldn't use quote marks when you're not quoting what somebody actually said.

scarpa · 16/12/2021 22:12

A bottle of wine is 3 large glasses.

Would I drink that regularly? No, because my liver blah blah - I actually drink maybe once every 6 weeks

Would I easily drink that during the course of a meal with friends? Yes, Christ, it's not the prohibition!

Signed, someone who managed to drink a bottle and a half of prosecco last weekend with her friends - over the course of about 6 hours to be fair, and with a lot of food, but still - and miraculously woke up with no hangover and therefore never ever dares drink again in case the universe decides to even the score

housemaus · 16/12/2021 22:13

@Mysterian

You really shouldn't use quote marks when you're not quoting what somebody actually said.

You really shouldn't be a judgemental weirdo who apparently only socialises with racists and/or thinks people who drink 'often' have sexist or racist views*, but here we are!

*if this isn't the case, why are you mentioning it other than to imply OP and her friends may also have turned into boorish sexists? Weird take imo

Winter2019 · 16/12/2021 22:33

Your friend is being totally unreasonable! I mean 2 bottles between 5,is she for real?! What's her business anyway?!