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How much wine is too much

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Samedaysame · 16/12/2021 14:23

Went out for a Christmas meal last night with 6 friends. One friend is a non drinker. We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us. This morning had a phone call from non drinking friend to say we all drank too much and 2 bottles between us should have been enough. We were not merry but nowhere near drunk, not noisy or disruptive. AIBU to think that this telling off is out of order.

OP posts:
GreenLunchBox · 16/12/2021 14:45

@PurpleDaisies

We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us

Are you still pissed? Wink

This is what I was wondering 🤣
girlmom21 · 16/12/2021 14:45

Was her DH there too? Reckon he acted like a twat when he got home?

sbhydrogen · 16/12/2021 14:45

A bottle each sounds like a standard amount of wine to me, especially with a Christmas meal. As long as you weren't ripping into her about not drinking, your friend is BU.

Looks back fondly at the time I went out with two friends and we got through five bottles between us...

girlmom21 · 16/12/2021 14:46

@PurpleDaisies

We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us

Are you still pissed? Wink

I thought she meant they ordered 6 bottles and there was half a bottle leftover?
TrufflyPig · 16/12/2021 14:46

Sounds like her problem not yours. Unless one of you caused an issue for her as a result of drinking then she is being unreasonable.

I'm assuming she agreed to come knowing there would be alcohol, if it was a problem for her she could have chosen not to attend.

sonjadog · 16/12/2021 14:49

She sounds miserable and judgmental. What you drank was completely normal for a Christmas meal out.

thepeopleversuswork · 16/12/2021 14:49

For a Christmas drinks I don't think that's excessive. It might be if you were doing it three times a week.

Your friend sounds like a joy sponge and unless she's a recovering alcoholic or someone offended her she needs to keep her beak out.

LittleGwyneth · 16/12/2021 14:51

Never ask about alcohol on Mumsnet. The answer is always that you drank too much.

Your friend sounds judgemental and dull. Your drinking sounds completely normal for a night out before Christmas. I wouldn't invite her next time.

Sirzy · 16/12/2021 14:52

I thought she meant they ordered 6 bottles and there was half a bottle leftover?

Now THAT would be unreasonable

Turkishangora · 16/12/2021 14:53

It's fine for a Xmas meal. She's out of order telling you what you "should" have had. Really can't be arsed with mood Hoover's like this.

I have a few friends that don't drink, the majority are fine. One doesn't drink due to it being a problem for her and she's become nightmarishly sanctimonious and judgy about everyone else's alcohol consumption to the point I've begun to avoid her. If you can't cope with others drinking don't go out with them

LakeShoreD · 16/12/2021 14:53

Your DH paid for everyone, including her, and she has the audacity to call you up the next day and complain about your alcohol consumption 😱
She’s so rude I don’t even know where to start.
And as for whether it’s a lot, yes it is a bit, but that’s fine for a special Christmas meal because if you can’t overindulge at Christmas when can you!!

Youdoyoutoday · 16/12/2021 14:54

Your friend would be majorly pissed off with me and my mates!

She sounds like a fun sponge and that she has her own issues with alcohol! Don't let it put a dampener on your happy memories of a good night out!!

Youdoyoutoday · 16/12/2021 14:54

And what @LakeShoreD said!!

girlmom21 · 16/12/2021 14:55

@Sirzy

I thought she meant they ordered 6 bottles and there was half a bottle leftover?

Now THAT would be unreasonable

Ha, I agree. Rookie error.
MaryHingey · 16/12/2021 14:56

Drinking or not drinking, I don't think I've ever noticed what other people are doing
I've been told I drink too much and been told I don't drink enough, pah, each to their own
It was very rude of her to comment though regardless

codexa · 16/12/2021 14:58

I don't care how much anyone drinks on a special night out. I don't drink myself and TBH it is great fun noticing how the decibel level rises with each glass taken!

Ignore wet blankets and as long as you are safe and not messy or sick, do what you want. Merry Christmas!

TuftyMarmoset · 16/12/2021 15:04

I think I trust the sober one to know how drunk the the rest of you were Wink
Drunk people are really annoying, in her defence.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 16/12/2021 15:04

That sounds a hell of lot especially for women. Does your usually mention your drinking. If not I'd listen to her.

XiCi · 16/12/2021 15:04

She sounds insufferable.
I thought at first she had sat with a water all night and was moaning at splitting the bill with the wine on it but the fact your DH paid makes her comments even more bizarre and rude.
Suggesting a maximum of 2 bottles between 6 of you over the course of an entire evening is just laughable.

DoodleBelle · 16/12/2021 15:05

Sounds fine over a nice Christmas meal! She sounds judgemental

PurpleDaisies · 16/12/2021 15:08

@LittleGwyneth

Never ask about alcohol on Mumsnet. The answer is always that you drank too much.

Your friend sounds judgemental and dull. Your drinking sounds completely normal for a night out before Christmas. I wouldn't invite her next time.

People keep saying this.

Look at the thread. It doesn’t match up with “everyone will always say you drank too much”. Almost everyone has said the opposite.

pointythings · 16/12/2021 15:10

It would be too much for me these days because I'm a lightweight, but honestly your non-drinking friend sounds like a sanctimonious tosser. For a special occasion this is really not a big deal.

XiCi · 16/12/2021 15:15

Is she really a friend? To accept a lovely meal paid for entirely by your DH only to call you the next day and berate you for having 3 glasses of wine. Especially when she knows full well you are usually the designated driver and it was a much longed for, relaxing night out. What a twat. I honestly wouldn't bother going out with her again. Absolute cheek of the woman!

XiCi · 16/12/2021 15:17

@GhoulWithADragonTattoo

That sounds a hell of lot especially for women. Does your usually mention your drinking. If not I'd listen to her.
What 3 glasses of wine with a meal over the course of an evening? I think you know damn well that isn't a 'hell of a lot'. But if it makes the OP feel bad about herself it's job done eh
Shiningpath · 16/12/2021 15:19

Unless it’s a quick lunch, or you’re massive lightweights who get lairy after a glass, a bottle per person at a celebratory meal is not excessive. Your friend sounds very judgemental.

She also sounds very ungrateful.