How much wine is too much

[Samedaysame]

Went out for a Christmas meal last night with 6 friends. One friend is a non drinker. We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us. This morning had a phone call from non drinking friend to say we all drank too much and 2 bottles between us should have been enough. We were not merry but nowhere near drunk, not noisy or disruptive. AIBU to think that this telling off is out of order.

Too much wine means being loud, falling asleep or being sick. Talking over people and generally annoying. For most people it is more than a bottle.

Tell your friend to stop being so rude. Thank you for dinner is what she meant to say.

It's not a small amount but it's not her place to tell you off like a child for doing something that is legal and she didn't pay for. You could always tell her she doesn't have to come next time?

What next? Telling you you've eaten too much or spent too much on your clothes?

I’m another lightweight who would be virtually comatose after two bottles of wine. And sick as a dog the morning after.

I don’t drink often or very much when I do. I don’t like getting drunk or being around drunk people. Over the course of a long evening, I could easily have 3 large glasses of wine which is a bottle. If I drank that in an hour, it would be a different situation.

She sounds very judgement. You aren't well matched as friends.

Non drinker doesn't get a say in how much other people drink!
5/6 bottles between 5 people is fine, especially with dinner.
There is 6 in our book club and we'd often drink 9 bottles between us...... can keep going until 2am easily

I don't drink much these days (generally 0-3 units over a weekend and none in the week). I can still sink a bottle of wine over an evening on occasion though. If I took my time and had food, I'd be merry, but certainly not very drunk. I couldn't drink 2, though I would have been able to once upon a time!

@OhLookMoreShit

Fuck me if she thinks that's a problem she should spend a weekend round mine, I'd be shipped off to an asylum 🙈

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@PurpleDaisies

We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us

Are you still pissed?

I'm off to get pissed, so I can understand it. Back in a hour or two.

More than a bottle per person sounds a lot to me, but its not really her place to criticise

@DressingPafe

Maybe she has concerns for her pissed up pals welfare. Many heavy drinkers are in complete denial

Then maybe she should decline invites to a boozy night out. She has no right to tell others how much they can drink.

THIS. ^

When someone comments on how much booze their friend/friends are drinking, it very rarely comes from a place of kindness and worrying about their welfare. It usually comes from a place of judgement and sneering.

They are the same types as the ones who feel the need to comment on, and judge what someone eats, (along with their weight.) It's rare it comes from a place of concern and kindness.

As I (and some others have said,) when people sneer and comment at people who drink, it's often because they are teetotal and secretly hate being teetotal.

@PurpleDaisies

We had 6 bottles of wine between 5 and half bottles between 5 of us

Are you still pissed?

I did wonder 🥴

@girlmom21 they drank around 1l of wine each. I’d say that’s a lot. However, I don’t understand why a non-drinker would go to a boozy meal.

[quote rubyglitter]@girlmom21 they drank around 1l of wine each. I’d say that’s a lot. However, I don’t understand why a non-drinker would go to a boozy meal.[/quote]
Eh? Your maths is off. 750 x 6 = 4500 = 4.5l

Eh? Your maths is off. 750 x 6 = 4500 = 4.5l

You forgot the last step.

4.5l between 5 people is 0.9l each.

0.9l is approximately a litre each.

@PurpleDaisies

Eh? Your maths is off. 750 x 6 = 4500 = 4.5l

You forgot the last step.

4.5l between 5 people is 0.9l each.

0.9l is approximately a litre each.

Exactly. There were 6 bottles of wine shared between 5 people.

I think it's fine. Your friend doesn't drink so she really has no idea. I would invite her out again after her telling off. I had 2 bottles to myself on Friday evening! Maybe she could ring me up and shout at me.

Your friend is a fun sponge.
HTH.

Your friend sounds miserable - how is it any of her business what you and the others drank? Did you comment on her meal?!

I’m tee total (recovering alcoholic), but I think she was very rude and judgemental. It’s Christmas, you were out having a meal and some fun, you drank a few more glasses than is recommended. No big deal.

I’m not really into being around big drinkers these days, but I’d politely make my excuses if I felt it was all getting a bit boozy. I wouldn’t castigate my friends!

To be honest, if you usually drink wine you can feel slightly tipsy after a full bottle, if you never drink wine like me you'd be hammered after one glass.

One bottle each with a meal though at Xmas and I wouldn't bat an eyelid at them, a bottle of wine every night of the year... different story....

I think it’s weird that she commented at all tbh. I’ve never really drank alcohol, I’ve tried it but don’t like the taste so I’m the sober pal that comes along. It’s never occurred to me to comment on how much alcohol my pals drink. I’m wondering if the friend that mentioned this has had an alcohol issue in the past?

It would be the last time I invited her out, let alone paid for her meal. Bloody rude to comment on anyones food or booze consumption.

It would too much if you drank it every night, but definitely not at a one off boozy Christmas lunch, I could drink 2 bottles over dinner (yes I’d be pissed, but capable of getting myself home and off to bed)

Your friend is extremely rude. Your husband paid for everyone as well - imagine saying anything but thank you!

I've been out with people drinking and turning into boorish twats, being inconsiderate to those around them, and revealing their true often racist/sexist views. The next day they always manage to think they were just outgoing, bright, witty, and gay.

Your friend should avoid you when you're high on alcohol.