To feel really embarrassed after works Christmas parties?

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Last night was the works Christmas do which I'd organized. We had a good time and I stayed out quite late.
I'm looking back and cringing at everything I said. It was nothing too bad, I remember telling the big boss I loved beer 🙈😂 then having a good chat about music and chatting with my boss at length about films. I tried to join in some of the football chat and I don't think it went down too well.
I get very animated and chatty after a few drinks. At work I'm quite shy and get on with things.
I'm a little hungover today cringing at myself. I almost wish I hadn't gone!
Can anyone relate?

No not this year. There's a serious pandemic. I can't actually believe people are going....

You could have told big boss you loved him!!

I do this every time I drink, I have anxiety though so tend to overthink EVERYTHING!

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong - just a bit of beer fear because you came out of your shell a bit.

Sounds like everyone had a nice time

It's just the beer fear. I'm like this after every party. Usually with good reason. You didn't say or do anything bad believe me.

That sounds fine... Nothing near like the embarrassing things I've seen people say and do at work Christmas parties! It's normal to get "the fear'' the morning after drinking. It'll pass.

You mean “the dread”. I get this all the time but I’ve pretty much concluded that I’m never anywhere near as bad as I think I was. Sounds like you had a good time!

It's fine, you told him you like beer, you didn't try to snog him.

Beerfear, anxiety is a side effect of alcohol leaving your system.
Happens to everyone. (But 100 times worse in perimenopause)

@Moff2k we've worked together in person throughout this whole thing, take weekly PCR and are pretty careful due to the nature of the job.

A night out together makes absolutely no difference 🙄

Don't worry about it.

I was expecting far worse from your OP title.

You probably made a few friends, set up different work relationships.

It is beer fear, the gitters, ignore it.

You were fine! You should read the old thread about drunk people pooing themselves at Christmas parties to get some perspective!

I used to get The Fear every time after drinking, I was ashamed of everything, then I stopped drinking and guess what? I still get The Fear after a sober night out (albeit a milder version). Turns out it's just common or garden anxiety.

You didn't vomit, you didn't flash, you didn’t wee in a plant pot, you didn't call your boss a wanker - you are fine.

I wouldn't worry, you didn't snog or sleep with him🤣🎄

This is me. Every work do I feel a bit anxious, drink way too much and feel absolutely mortified afterwards. But I don't think I've ever done anything that bad, certainly nothing anyone has held against me. It doesn't sound like you did either. You'll feel much better tomorrow.

At a previous works night out I (not even particularly pissed alas) managed to head-butt/face smash a colleague in the balls ... I was sort of kneeling/bending over to speak to someone sat down and he walked toward us just out of my line of sight becuase I was looking down. I stood up and looked up very quickly and went face first with some force into his crotch

You're fine. It's just a little bit of The Fear. What you need to remember is that everyone else had also had a few drinks so won't really have noticed anything.

You've just reminded me of one I went to when I was younger where i snogged a co worker and fell down the stairs

It's part of being the big boss, having random members of staff be a bit drunk at you. It's quite nice in a way as it makes you feel like they think you might be human.

One member of staff had a very drunken rant at me one Christmas about the whole way the organisation was being run...some of it was fair some of it not. He was in work at 8am the next day so he got in before I did in order to apologise. He was v worried. But we sorted out a time for when he wasn't hungover to come in and really discuss it. Got on much better after that and some stuff changed, not everything he wanted. But some truth beer actually helped with that.

Oh and when more junior, in a different organisation, I did snog the boss. Been married for years now.

@Moff2k oh bore off
you obviously jumped on this thread just to say that
Zzzzzzz

OP I bet there are people this morning with more cause to be embarrassed than that ! don't worry about it !

At least you didn't get so hammered you made out with your teammate on the dance floor in front of everyone, including your boss, your boss's boss and, well, the entire company...

Boss brought it up with me at our next meeting,. and the following Christmas party 🤣

You have beer fear - don’t worry! It’s just your body churning out paranoia as it processes the alcohol.

It doesn’t sound like you did anything bad - most people get a bit chatty when they’ve had a few.

This is why I only get drunk around friends. 😂 I talk a lot of shit after a few gins.

I totally relate. I usually feel like I've made a complete twunt of myself - but I really haven't. And I know that if I had been sober, and done and said exactly the same I would be completely fine with it. (Well, most of the time... )

You are fine. It's all fine.

Gosh this is me! I always cringe at myself after a night of drinking, more so when it’s with people I work with!

Remember though, people aren’t thinking about you/what you said etc nearly as much as you think they are, if at all