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To feel really embarrassed after works Christmas parties?

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again2020 · 16/12/2021 09:58

Last night was the works Christmas do which I'd organized. We had a good time and I stayed out quite late.
I'm looking back and cringing at everything I said. It was nothing too bad, I remember telling the big boss I loved beer 🙈😂 then having a good chat about music and chatting with my boss at length about films. I tried to join in some of the football chat and I don't think it went down too well.
I get very animated and chatty after a few drinks. At work I'm quite shy and get on with things.
I'm a little hungover today cringing at myself. I almost wish I hadn't gone!
Can anyone relate?

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SarahBellam · 16/12/2021 13:49

You didn’t shag him and nobody died. Sounds like a great night out!

89redballoons · 16/12/2021 13:54

Sounds like the beer fear

At a works do several years ago I told someone in HR that my supervisor was "sexy, but a terrible supervisor". I still cringe thinking about it. Hopefully she was as drunk as me and doesn't remember...

Snowmanuel · 16/12/2021 14:01

This is classic hangxiety. Don’t worry about it.

CarrieMoonbeams · 16/12/2021 14:07

Ach, that's nothing OP!

The funniest one I remember was the HR Director's secretary, who was a very well spoken lady, very conservative dresser, serious etc etc. Just before the meal was served, she climbed on to the table, and did this horrendously loud but warbling rendition of:

"Thank you for the food we eat,
Thank you for the world so sweet.
Thank you for the birds that sing,
Thank you God for everything"

And instead of "Amen" at the end, she went "BOO", and lifted up her top, exposing her red lacy bra. I was the only one who clapped.

She was very sheepish for weeks afterwards, bless her.

LakieLady · 16/12/2021 14:09

You can remember what you did, so you can't have been that pissed and none of it sounds dreadful.

DoucheCanoe · 16/12/2021 14:14

@CarrieMoonbeams that created an amazing visual 🤣🤣

silverbubbles · 16/12/2021 14:18

Don't worry - this happens to nearly everyone. It sounds like you were lovely and I am sure everyone enjoyed getting to know you a bit more.Just be thankful you didn't try to snog anyone

thickthighs73 · 16/12/2021 14:20

@FlowerFlour

You were fine! You should read the old thread about drunk people pooing themselves at Christmas parties to get some perspective!

I used to get The Fear every time after drinking, I was ashamed of everything, then I stopped drinking and guess what? I still get The Fear after a sober night out (albeit a milder version). Turns out it's just common or garden anxiety.

You didn't vomit, you didn't flash, you didn’t wee in a plant pot, you didn't call your boss a wanker - you are fine.

Lol I need to read that can you post the link please

SagittariusDwarf · 16/12/2021 14:21

I think it sounds like you have nothing to worry about! I do relate tho, I have behaved questionably (aka raucously drunk) at various work dos in the past, and always made a point of forcing myself into the office the next day rather than wfh, so as to address/dissipate anything there and then rather than have the paranoia hanging over me all weekend. Nothing ever actually needed "addressing" tho, it was just paranoia from memory loss (as a result of too much booze) on my part.

youvemademyshitlist · 16/12/2021 14:22

I wouldn't worry too much about it, the vast majority of your colleagues are probably sat at home cringing about all the things they said or did and haven't given a single thought about what you did or said.

At least you went out and had fun unlike some of the fun sponges on this thread

youvemademyshitlist · 16/12/2021 14:22

@CarrieMoonbeams

Ach, that's nothing OP!

"Thank you for the food we eat,
Thank you for the world so sweet.
Thank you for the birds that sing,
Thank you God for everything"

And instead of "Amen" at the end, she went "BOO", and lifted up her top, exposing her red lacy bra. I was the only one who clapped.

She was very sheepish for weeks afterwards, bless her.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 16/12/2021 14:25

Beer fear

DontKnowWhatToThink7 · 16/12/2021 14:25

You sound exactly like me when I have a few drinks. I also suffer terribly with "The Fear" and over think everything. It doesn't sound like you have anything to be embarrassed about at all, it all sounds quite innocent.

Floyi · 16/12/2021 14:44

@Gonnagetgoing The Brits are well known for their drinking problem, unlike other nationalities.

zingally · 16/12/2021 14:59

This is the reason I don't drink alcohol at work socials.

SituationCritical · 16/12/2021 15:00

I went to a Christmas Party years ago in my early twenties with a bunch of professionals who you wouldn't ever imagine being the slightest bit drunk or badly behaved. It was carnage! Food thrown everywhere, wild dancing (I was shoved over on the dance floor by a man a few months from retirement who was then escorted out), people throwing up, crying. I was the only one sober enough to remember. They all came back to work with no hint of shame and it was never spoken of. So you have nothing to worry about!
Hangxiety is a bugger, one of the reasons I'm pretty much teetotal! Seriously, don't worry about it at all. Nobody will remember it in a week or so.

Peppercorn9 · 16/12/2021 15:03

Another who agrees with @Moff2k

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 16/12/2021 15:55

All I can say is Police parties were legendary, and this would be extremely tame by comparison.

Cam2020 · 16/12/2021 16:34

I work for a hedge fund. We have a big flashy black tie ball in a grand hall that I can only describe as Hogwarts. You would think that this would be a classy affair. Nope, we’ve had people wetting themselves, a married woman openly snogging two different men (though not at the same time, she wasn’t that bad), someone threw up on the dancefloor, causing a multiple pile up of people in their DJs and cocktails dresses falling in a pile of vomit.

😱😂

flowersforbrains · 16/12/2021 16:45

[quote Floyi]@Gonnagetgoing The Brits are well known for their drinking problem, unlike other nationalities.[/quote]
At least we know how to party.

I'm laughing at some of these comments. I've been to many funny Christmas dos over the years. Quite missing all that now!

LittleGwyneth · 16/12/2021 16:53

I get The Fear so badly, but I'm sure you were fine!

Pinkclarko · 16/12/2021 17:12

Probably been said but you should read the amazing thread from a few week back where people shared embarrassing stories from work nights out. Guaranteed to give you perspective

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 16/12/2021 17:22

@Moff2k

YAWN

Life is not infinite, how long do we have to cower away from seeing other humans?

grooveonthemove · 16/12/2021 18:37

My boss hosted a Christmas party at his house a few years ago, I wisely declined the invitation as his parties were notorious for getting out of hand. The following morning was horrendous - a few members of staff called in sick including one guy who accused colleagues of spiking his drink with rohypnol and pulling his teeth out with pliers This was all very awkward until CCTV footage from outside my boss's house clearly showed this guy stumbling around and faceplanting the patio - his incisors were found in the pool the next day

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