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To feel really embarrassed after works Christmas parties?

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again2020 · 16/12/2021 09:58

Last night was the works Christmas do which I'd organized. We had a good time and I stayed out quite late.
I'm looking back and cringing at everything I said. It was nothing too bad, I remember telling the big boss I loved beer 🙈😂 then having a good chat about music and chatting with my boss at length about films. I tried to join in some of the football chat and I don't think it went down too well.
I get very animated and chatty after a few drinks. At work I'm quite shy and get on with things.
I'm a little hungover today cringing at myself. I almost wish I hadn't gone!
Can anyone relate?

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BlaBlaSmthSmth · 16/12/2021 11:37

@BlaBlaSmthSmth

"You're getting a hard time here. I agree with you. I wouldn't be going to a works party at the moment"

They're getting a hard time because of their snotty post which was completely irrelevant to the OP.

Sorry that was to @notanothertakeaway
hangrylady · 16/12/2021 11:38

@Floyi

Why is it the ultimate of cool for Brits to get drunk at a party. They can never 'remember' what they said or did, just letting our hair down etc. all relayed to an audience to show just how 'happening' they are.

Why can't you drink moderately and just be yourself? why would not being drunk mean you can't have fun? this false ideology seems so enmeshed in everyone.

'happening'. Oh my god GrinGrin
FrankGrillosWrist · 16/12/2021 11:43

I used to shag the boss every Christmas, although we argued constantly at work & I walked off the job regularly. So nothing bad there, compared to some of the unrepeatable things that I did whilst drunk.

flowersforbrains · 16/12/2021 11:46

That's very tame.

I know a director with a wife and kids. One of his staff sidled up to him at the Christmas party and told him that she wanted to f* him. He was literally terrifed of her after that. It became the running joke. Very funny!

flowersforbrains · 16/12/2021 11:47

@FrankGrillosWrist

Is your name Kim? If so, we all knew!

gggrrrargh · 16/12/2021 11:51

I still cringe about 2007! Got very drunk at a local pub, had a 90 minute snogging session with a lad outside, but right in front of a huge window so everyone I knew inside was watching and commenting..

RainbowBabyForChristmasPlease · 16/12/2021 11:58

@Moff2k I agree with you too.

SloeFox · 16/12/2021 11:59

@DoucheCanoe

I do this every time I drink, I have anxiety though so tend to overthink EVERYTHING!

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong - just a bit of beer fear because you came out of your shell a bit.

Sounds like everyone had a nice time Xmas Smile

Sounds like this to me too.

I also have anxiety and recognise the worries and constant thoughts.

CasaBonita · 16/12/2021 12:00

At an Xmas do many yrs ago, I pulled my trousers down and danced on a table, then later pissed myself. I was fucking mortified and cried for a couple of days after!

blacktreegreysky · 16/12/2021 12:32

Nothing you have said sounds remotely cringeworthy. I thought you were going to tell your boss you loved them (which is cringe), what is wrong with saying you love beer? Its my favourite pub drink.

I, when I was young and pissed, told my boss at my leaving do, so I am told, that the reason I was leaving was because of him, because I fancied him so much I could not bear to be near him. None of this was true. None of it. I didn't even fancy him at all. Now THAT's cringe. Just as well it was a crappy temp job that didn't matter!

I stopped getting hammered on nights out after that Grin

Peanutmnm · 16/12/2021 12:34

Totally fine OP. I bet they loved meeting chatty you.

MrsLarry · 16/12/2021 12:40

@Moff2k

No not this year. There's a serious pandemic. I can't actually believe people are going....
Well, people are, so stop being so judgmental.....and miserable!
Gonnagetgoing · 16/12/2021 12:41

@Floyi

Why is it the ultimate of cool for Brits to get drunk at a party. They can never 'remember' what they said or did, just letting our hair down etc. all relayed to an audience to show just how 'happening' they are.

Why can't you drink moderately and just be yourself? why would not being drunk mean you can't have fun? this false ideology seems so enmeshed in everyone.

Oh bore off! I've seen countless other nationalities get very drunk and not 'remember' what they did at parties.

Being drunk and not remembering what they did when drunk isn't just confined to Brits you know! Wink

Mulhollandmagoo · 16/12/2021 12:41

@ufucoffee

It's just the beer fear. I'm like this after every party. Usually with good reason. You didn't say or do anything bad believe me.
Me too!!!! its awful, but I'd assume people either barely noticed or feel exactly the same as you do today! don't worry about it
Gonnagetgoing · 16/12/2021 12:45

I've embarrassed myself a few times but I also had the much older (early 60s?) financial director man (no way did I fancy him) - corner me in a taxi, blind drunk, trying to snog me and me pushing him off, with the receptionist in the same taxi trying to pull him off - they lived near each other and got same train home. I just brushed it off and laughed about it and didn't mention it again!

jpbee · 16/12/2021 12:47

Yes this exact thing happens to me every time I go out anywhere and have more than one drink. Usually the feeling wears off after 24-48 hours so just bear with it.

Od130990 · 16/12/2021 12:48

@Moff2k so it's perfectly acceptable to work together sharing the same office, shop floor etc daily for 8/9/10 hours but not socialise with those same people? Op sounds like you let your hair down & enjoyed the evening ( beer fear ) is awful you'll be over it soon enough! Everyone from your workplace is probably thinking along the same lines as you 😆

GrumpyTerrier · 16/12/2021 13:16

I was once working at a christmas event for the police where people were drunkenly giving colleagues blow jobs under the table during the meal. At least you didnt try that.

Honestly dont worry, sounds like you were nice and chatty and fine.

StruggleStreet · 16/12/2021 13:26

Don’t worry OP, guaranteed there will be someone who has embarrassed themselves far more than you. There is always one at every works do.

I’m Head of HR and have to deal with Christmas party fallout every year, you’d be amazed at the things people get up to.

DickMabutt73962 · 16/12/2021 13:28

@Moff2k

No not this year. There's a serious pandemic. I can't actually believe people are going....
⭐️🏅Hmm
FrappuccinoLight · 16/12/2021 13:35

Don’t worry, they were all probably more drunk than you were.

TatianaBis · 16/12/2021 13:41

If you didn’t snog your boss and photocopy your arse, you’re ahead.

Dotty808 · 16/12/2021 13:45

Bit judgy

Apiddleawiddle · 16/12/2021 13:48

As a teenager I got drunk, peed on a hill while facing uphill, fell and flashed my mates and passing cars, almost caused a road accident with said flashing, started crying and ran into a field, friends came looking for me and thought I was a puddle then realised puddles don't sob, emptied my purse all over the floor looking for change for the buses that weren't operating anymore, had to be carried home, crued about my lost bag (which was on my back under my hoodie), puked in the sink and blocked the sink, was told to unblock the sink so scooped it all out with my hands while a friend is crying laughing at the fact I don't chew my food enough and woke up next day and realised the back of my hoodie was covered in shite. To top it off, being 15 at the time, my mates told the entire school and I was known from then on in as buffy brown. A tale to warn my kids of the consequences of underage drinking. So tbf op, no, I can't really relate to being embarrassed about being overly chatty while a bit drunk 🤣

AstroBunny · 16/12/2021 13:49

All sounds pretty tame to me! It was probably refreshing for your colleagues to see you come out of your shell. Imagine if everyone behaved at the Christmas party how they behave at work. How boring.It’s a party after all, not a wake.

I work for a hedge fund. We have a big flashy black tie ball in a grand hall that I can only describe as Hogwarts. You would think that this would be a classy affair. Nope, we’ve had people wetting themselves, a married woman openly snogging two different men (though not at the same time, she wasn’t that bad), someone threw up on the dancefloor, causing a multiple pile up of people in their DJs and cocktails dresses falling in a pile of vomit.

You really have nothing to worry about Grin