Gender selection

[Noyosoy]

Hubby’s friends have four girls and more money than sense (IMO). they are so desperate for a boy they have travelled to a country where you can choose the sex of the embryo/s implanted during IVF.

I find this just really gross and as someone who had no choice but to do IVF to have my kids (and it was SO shit!) find it astonishing anyone would go through it voluntarily when they are likely to conceive naturally. They have just announced she’s pregnant with their much wanted boy.

Opinions on this? Obviously happy that the pregnancy is going well, and know I’m being a hot judge but it’s really put me off them, I just think it’s a bit “ew”

Very Interesting to see everyone’s point of view, thanks.
Genuinely very surprised how many people think that this is ok 😳 each to their own I guess but it really doesn’t sit well with me.

Maybe I'm weird but I actually think this is fine. They have 4 daughters. and wanting a son isn't necessarily an indictment on the relationship they have with those girls.

They just want to experience raising the opposite gender and they're free to do as they please with their own money - I think of people who do much worse.

Appreciate people have their fertility issues, and majority of people seeking IVF tend to fall under that category, but it's natural to have preferences. So long as they don't mistreat the girls and give them all the love and care needed, I think this is fine.

So long as they don't mistreat the girls and give them all the love and care needed, I think this is fine

Thing is, anyone with so strong a gender preference that they’re willing to have four children, then go for IVF sex selection just to get that desired sex, won’t have a balanced view of gender. Wanting “the experience of raising a boy”- that’s all about what the parents want in their life, how they expect to raise a boy differently, and not about the child or treating the kids equally.

No way are they treating those kids the same. Or they wouldn’t have been so bothered about the gender.