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Failed 6th driving test. Can't bring myself to book test 7

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bellaella18 · 11/12/2021 15:03

Just failed my 6th driving test this morning. I'm absolutely gutted. I drove pretty well, completed the parking manœuvre correctly. However, when we got to the motorway, traffic was pretty slow and the examiner failed me for not having the appropriate distance from the car ahead ( he said I was too close, about a car's length instead of 2).

I feel embarrassed that I've let myself and family down again. I'm finding it so difficult to book another test.

Any help and support would be greatly appreciated.

OP posts:
dayswithaY · 11/12/2021 18:05

I passed first time by sheer good luck. I was a terrible driver as I was so inexperienced. People would honk at me at roundabouts and I never knew why. I never knew what lane I should be in and have really bad spatial awareness and no sense of direction.

I've been driving for 30 years now and I'm pretty good but it's nonsense to suggest that if someone fails multiple tests they shouldn't be on the road.

Nerves play a huge part in failing, especially now as it's so hard to get a test it really ramps up the pressure.

You are probably a more measured and careful driver if you've failed countless times, and you've had loads of tuition and scrutiny. Keep going, you'll get there.

girlmom21 · 11/12/2021 18:19

@dayswithaY while I agree with you that we shouldn't say people shouldn't be on the road because they've failed a few times, it sounds like you shouldn't have passed when you did and it's not presenting the argument you think it is Confused

dayswithaY · 11/12/2021 18:21

My point was, I passed before I was a competent driver. If you fail multiple times then you have had more driving lessons and more experience.

But please do correct me, I bow to your superior intelligence.

AliveAndSleeping · 11/12/2021 18:27

@Fuuuuuckit

Fuck me op, if you've driven so poorly that you've failed 6 times, are you sure you should be driving?

You're allowed 15 minor faults and still pass, let's be honest that if things are going so badly that you've exceeded this level, I'd rather you weren't on the road.

£62 a go for the test itself, plus 2 hours of instructor time, never mind lessons in between. The financial cost alone is staggering.

It's perfectly OK not to drive. I have friends who passed first time but have never driven since. I have friends who've had a licence years but hate driving. I have friends who passed but are terrified and daren't drive on their own.

Who is piling on the pressure OP? Driving is HARD, and not all of us get it. Surely it's safer to not be on the roads rather than because you feel forced to.

It's very easy to fail I'm sure if an instructor sat in our car on our daily drives many of would easily get to 15 minor faults or a major one. Including you.

Op, keep trying. Driving is such an asset to your life that it's worth trying again and again.

Two friends of mine took more than 8 attempts. The are both now the safest drivers I know.

sst1234 · 11/12/2021 18:28

Keep going OP. Do not give up. Book the next one straightaway. You will be glad you did when you get that pass certificate in your hand.

nodogz · 11/12/2021 18:44

Million per cent agree with the just keep going answers. Example:

I did two failed tests at 17. Threw myself into a massive spiral because I'd never failed anything before. Gave up.

Fast forward 10 years and I end up in a job where its essential I have a driving license. I say I can pass in four weeks and book loads of lessons.

Take test, remember pulling in to the test centre and thinking "it wasn't so bad, I'll just do this again until I pass" but I pass.

Learnings: the test is completely subjective. I drove best in my second test but didn't pass. I'm a better driver for passing when older and understanding bring a driver is a privilege. I've completed advanced driving through work and have impressed the instructors with my driving ability (ex-forces instructors coming over to shake my hand and to tell me how well I handle big vehicles). I'm good because I'm aware of my human capacity for distraction and I don't overestimate my skills.

Do. Not. Give. Up.

Delphinna · 11/12/2021 18:52

Passing the test is pure luck. You’re relying on nobody cutting you up, nobody stepping off the pavement in front of you, nobody beeping at you, not encountering any hazards on the road, the examiner choosing a route with clear signs and markings and not much traffic, etc. You just have to keep attempting it until you hit lucky.

bellaella18 · 11/12/2021 18:53

Thank you all for your suggestions. I unfortunately can't seem to manage my driving test nervs. Like today, I was feeling physically sick, I had to get out of the car and go for a walk to get some fresh air, 15 minutes before the test. I've been learning with a driving instructor and practicing with a family member and I'm completely fine in lessons, but I somehow lose all my confidence on the test. I've listened to a hypnosis video on YouTube, tried the rescue remedy but nothing seems to work. It's quite strange as I've never really felt nervous during other tests or exams etc.

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Brainfogmcfogface · 11/12/2021 19:27

Rescue remedy op. My driving instructor got me some before my last test, having failed a few times before, my nerves were just awful each time, even physically shaking on one try! May have been a placebo effect and not done anything for all I know but knowing I’d had it, it certainly helped on the day!

WrigglyDonCat · 11/12/2021 19:37

@Delphinna

Passing the test is pure luck. You’re relying on nobody cutting you up, nobody stepping off the pavement in front of you, nobody beeping at you, not encountering any hazards on the road, the examiner choosing a route with clear signs and markings and not much traffic, etc. You just have to keep attempting it until you hit lucky.
As an ADI I can confidently state this is nonsense.

Someone cutting you up and not because you have done something incorrect yourself, no problem if you deal with it safely

Someone stepping off the pavement - no problem if you react to it safely.

People beeping at you - no problem if you haven't done something incorrect to provoke this action.

Hazards on the road - just deal with them appropriately.

If signs and markings are not clear or visible, the examiner will give you guidance.

I have sat in the back in close to 700 tests, and examiners are remarkably consistent in how they apply their system of weighing faults. I have, on very rare occasions, seen things given as serious faults where I have felt that many DEs would give a driving fault. I have, much more frequently, seen what I felt was a serious fault be marked as a driving fault.

In a sense there is an element of luck in a driving test - in some ways quite a considerable one. Most people sitting a cat B are very inexperienced (not always though - people with lots of experience do take tests for various reasons) - as such the fewer complex situations you encounter the better as this is typically where tests are failed. But a well trained pupil who is in control of both their car and themselves should have a very good chance of dealing with these situations.

OP - if it was a following distance fault, then you almost certainly were not told that it was a 1 car length gap instead of 2. It was a 1 second gap instead of a 2 second gap. We measure following distance in terms of time rather than absolute distance so that it makes sense at all speeds. You would have had to be too close for quite a prolonged period of time for the fault to be recorded, or for it to have led to significant risk if it was only for a short time. I cannot emphasise enough the importance of space when driving. It gives you time to react, it gives you the opportunity to see further ahead and this is what keeps you safe - you cannot crash into air...

Coffeeonmytoffee · 11/12/2021 19:42

Just book it and don’t tell anyone.
Good luck. X

Wizzbangfizz · 11/12/2021 19:45

Took me many many occasions - just get it done!

Ilovechocolatecoins · 11/12/2021 19:57

@bellaella18 I passed my test on the 8th go. I sometimes think what if I gave up after the 7th. You will get there. Perseverance! I have my fingers crossed for you.
(I still hate driving but it’s easy for work, family and shopping).

DixonD · 12/12/2021 01:19

@Kendodd

God, do you have to drive on the motorway in a test now?

I'm with the others, keep going op.

No.

You are now allowed on them as a learner.

She actually meant dual carriageway.

DixonD · 12/12/2021 01:20

To elaborate, you are now allowed on a motorway on your lessons. They don’t take you on them for your test.

Veeveeoxox · 12/12/2021 01:25

I did an intensive 1 week course and passed my driving test first time I was a nervous wreck my first year driving because I hadn't had the exposure , I think when you pass OP you will be fine.

ilovesooty · 12/12/2021 01:31

I failed repeatedly through nerves. Anything where I have to demonstrate practical competence makes me shake. I got over it eventually and you will too. You can and will do it. Good luck.

Cloakedmerry · 12/12/2021 01:40

My cousin did 9 and felt embarrassed every time she failed, never anything to be embarrassed about everyone gets their eventually, she did pass 9th time, you’ll get their op, I used to tell her she was doing better then I ever could I can’t even pass my theory let alone my test 😐😂

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/12/2021 01:56

Keep going OP! You’ll manage it!

Does it help that every first time passer I know has either: 1. Written off a car, 2. Had their licence revoked within the two years, or 3. Been disqualified from driving?

People who take more tests seem to be the better drivers once they pass (I passed fourth time and have had three points once in 25 years, and never any kind of accident. I drive frequently)

Maxiedog123 · 12/12/2021 02:01

I passed on my 8th go. I used to get too nervous, the time I passed I had a cold and just went anyway as booked, didn't get nervous as didn't expect to pass/felt so crap so just drove the way I normally did and passed.

blameless · 12/12/2021 02:03

@WrigglyDonCat

The luck with a driving test starts with what time of day your test is set for and the location of your test centre. I live close to a busy test centre and every test route requires the driver to navigate a double mini-roundabout on an offset four-road junction. If the bypass is closed, all of the traffic on a London-bound dual carriageway is diverted through that junction with no directions for many baffled and consequently anxious drivers.
For a very confident driver, the hazards encountered arrive, as you say one at a time, however, the cumulative impact on a competent but nervous driver may be considerable.

@Fuuuuuckit

Please stay off the road, there is a reason you see so many accidents in your rear-view mirror.

Zippea · 12/12/2021 02:08

Keep at it - mine was 10th time lucky.

I took a break, changed driving instructor, told no one and finally got through it

For me, it was nerves in the test itself

Snoozer11 · 12/12/2021 02:42

Do NOT give up!

Snoozer11 · 12/12/2021 02:43

You're likely already a better driver than someone who's just passed first time. You just need to pass on the day.

Kanaloa · 12/12/2021 03:10

*Driving is a basic life skill.

Everyone should have to be able to drive, even if they choose not to drive a car*

Why should ‘everyone’ have to pump money and effort into learning to drive even if they don’t drive a car? It’s not a basic life skill. Being able to organise travel (whether that is driving, public transport, walking) is a basic life skill, but there’s no reason why people should ‘have to’ be able to drive. What an odd opinion.

OP, can you maybe take a break? The pressure might be making it harder for you. Maybe you could have a certain amount of time where you put all your effort into lessons, then try again?