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AIBU?

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To just leave him in bed

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 11/12/2021 09:49

DH went on a work Christmas party last night. Came home at half 11, has thrown up no less than 5 times, and is now snoring like a walrus.

He swears it was the prawns in the prawn cocktail making him sick and not the 5 beers and 3 vodkas.

We’re supposed to be Christmas shopping and putting the tree up today. Shall I just leave him in bed? Or maybe even LTB?

He goes out about four times a year, before the “he’s an alcoholic” brigade come out. And no kids he’s letting down, just me the big kid who was excited about doing our tree today.

YABU - wake him up with a glass of cold water to the face and go get your tree
YANBU - leave him to sleep it off poor lamb

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MistyGreenAndBlue · 11/12/2021 09:52

Personally I'd give him till lunchtime, THEN he gets the cold water to the face

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 11/12/2021 09:53

@MistyGreenAndBlue

Personally I'd give him till lunchtime, THEN he gets the cold water to the face

And if he’s not up by 2pm LTB? I think that seems fair

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BigYellowHat · 11/12/2021 09:55

Aww, he only goes out 4 times a year. Let him sleep it off, even if it’s til 2pm.

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 11/12/2021 09:56

@BigYellowHat

Aww, he only goes out 4 times a year. Let him sleep it off, even if it’s til 2pm.

But what about my treeeeee

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 11/12/2021 09:56

I may be an old sour puss (probably am) but I can't understand why people want to go out and drink so much when they have plans the next day.

This brings back memories of my wedding which was horrible because of the stag night the night before. The groom was unable to stand up all day and had to keep going off to be sick. I left the bastard a short while later.

It ruined my big day completely. I'd been planning it for months. I didn't want to be married to someone who was that inconsiderate.

2nd husband would do this everytime we had plans to do something together. Our first christmas as a married couple he spent the entire day in bed with a giant hangover.

I don't drink so it's twice as irritating.

It might be funny now OP but in 10 years time?

Redwinestillfine · 11/12/2021 09:57

Go out for brunch with a mate, have a great morning then text him and see if he's ready to do the tree. If not stay out and let him sort himself out

Valeriane · 11/12/2021 09:59

Let him sleep until say 1pm

Needsomezzzz · 11/12/2021 09:59

I think I'd let him sleep, while I played my Christmas playlist to help get him in the festive spirit when he does wake!

Lou98 · 11/12/2021 10:00

Honestly I don't think 5 beers and 3 vodkas is that much - if he only goes out 4 times a year though then that would explain it.

Personally, I would leave him in bed as it's not often he does it. Even if you wake him up he's unlikely to be in a fit state to go shopping and put a tree up 😂

You could always put your tree up later tonight - my DP and I did ours last week at 8pm once the baby was in bed!

Lou98 · 11/12/2021 10:01

@Shehasadiamondinthesky I'm sorry about your wedding but that's a completely different situation. They only had plans to put up a tree - that can be done anytime.

Equally, I don't personally get why people make plans the day after an event - it wasn't just a random night out, it was his works Christmas do.

Going out once every 3 months and having 8 drinks is hardly the same as going out every time there's plans the next day like in your scenario

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 11/12/2021 10:02

@Needsomezzzz

I think I'd let him sleep, while I played my Christmas playlist to help get him in the festive spirit when he does wake!

I think this is the best suggestion. I’ll move the speakers next to the bed, make him feel all festive

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Ponoka7 · 11/12/2021 10:02

The tree takes an hour max if you are both involved. Leave him as long as possible 12-2pm, he then doses himself up with painkillers and goes with your plans. I'd go shopping on my own and top the evening off by putting up the tree.

RealBecca · 11/12/2021 10:03

Im normally forst in the queie for the LTB crew!!

4 times a year...if hes generally otherwise a fab partner id leave him to it amd be super understanding, maybe make him a bacin sandwich when hes up to it and put the wife points in the bank for when you need them! Treat as youd like to be treated xl

M0rT · 11/12/2021 10:05

I'd go shopping now on your own, then bring back a bacon buttie or his hangover food of choice wake him up with it and do the tree.
Get a takeaway for dinner and make him watch Love Actually in penance

MasterBeth · 11/12/2021 10:06

If he’s drunk five beers and three vodkas, it might well be food poisoning that’s left him chucking up five times. Coming home at half past eleven! The dirty stop-out!

mildtomoderate · 11/12/2021 10:07

Just let the poor guy sleep ffs.

FabricedeSauveterre · 11/12/2021 10:07

Leave him to be ill. You don’t sound very considerate

ImInStealthMode · 11/12/2021 10:08

Aaah leave him for a bit to sleep it off OP. The tree can wait a while. It seems like he was fairly well behaved and home at a reasonable hour.

Is there anything helps ease his hangover you could supply? (Fanta & hula hoops work for me). As a PP states, this is a good opportunity to get some points in the bank for when you need letting off the hook for a day

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 11/12/2021 10:08

@MasterBeth

If he’s drunk five beers and three vodkas, it might well be food poisoning that’s left him chucking up five times. Coming home at half past eleven! The dirty stop-out!

I know, I was horrified that he rolled in at half 11. Must’ve been a shit party tbh

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 11/12/2021 10:09

Blimey some posters really don’t understand tongue in cheek do they.
Of course I’m not going to chuck water in his face, put speakers next to the bed or LTB. The mind boggles

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TimeForTeaAndG · 11/12/2021 10:12

If he doesn't drink regularly then it's very likely the beer and vodka but for a work do I'd give him a pass. Shopping will be no fun with him (the standing in queues and the slightly weird temperatures that shops have when you're hungover) so I'd go myself.

I'd imagine if it's just the alcohol he'll be fine this evening for tree decorating after some coffee/tea, paracetamol and carby food.

Haggisfish3 · 11/12/2021 10:13

Five times seems a bit excessive even for booze. Could well have been the prawns in which case he will feel shite.

Tivermeshimbers1 · 11/12/2021 10:14

If my husband came home and vomited 5 times after 5 beers and 3 vodkas I’d believe him that it’s food poisoning. Leave him be and put the tree up tomorrow

andtherewere2 · 11/12/2021 10:15

Yanbu
Poor lamb
He's out of practice going out only 4 x year getting drunk

Maybe you should suggest a weekly drinking session with whisky and poker at home with you, so that he can build up his tolerance.

In meantime Xmas shopping &🎄 can wait til another day, whilst Lenny Lightweight sleeps it off

Dried toast and sweet cup of tea at 1pm taken up to bed for him is what I'd suggest.

andtherewere2 · 11/12/2021 10:16

Oh agree with others that throwing up 5x is either alcohol or food poisoning. I bet he feels rough ...

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