To not want step kids playing in my bedroom

[TheAlwaysUnreasonableStepMom]

Hey all I have a question.

Am I being unreasonable to not want my partners kids playing in my bedroom when they come. They play fight, jump on and off my bed and generally mess about in there because it's the biggest room. They're 8 and 9.

I intervened today when they asked their dad if they can play in there, I interjected and said no they can't.. I have lots of laundry I need to put away so I'll be going in there shortly and the bedroom isn't for playing in. He overrode me and said it was ok and he'd just move the laundry out of the way.

I know it's him being the ass here, but is my position unreasonable? Am I really being petty for not wanting kids jumping all over my bed and throwing crap around the room?

OP given that he openly overruled you, what's he like the rest of the time? I suspect he plays the Disney dad, they can have anything they want and do whatever they like, without any boundaries on anything. In which case your problems go deeper than jumping on the bed. And it won't get any better.

He should not have said yes after you'd said no, undermines you greatly. You need to discuss that aspect of parenting with him.

As for rooms, my mother never let us go into her room. She definitely wanted to get away from us 😔

I never had no go areas for my kids and same for my gas.

No jumping on beds over age 5 though - that will damage the bed.

Nothing better than snuggling up to watch bluey on TV in my bed cos the TV downstairs has golf/cricket/football on lol

Gas? Gks lol

I do t let my daughter 'play' in my bedroom so no, YNBU

@Ozanj

It doesn’t seem like you have kids. But if the plan is to add a few later then you need to relax this rule because you won’t be able to your kids from your room. 100%. And discriminatory rules make the difference between a great stepmum and a piece of shit.

What a crock of shit. My DC are not allowed to just go and fuck about in my room. There are many things that my DC are not allowed to do all of which they comply with. How badly behaved are your children that you have this strange outlook