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warning at work for swearing
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Slavetolove · 05/12/2021 18:49

I was called into the office for a warning the other day. I'm a support worker and was speaking to another member of staff when clients were in their bedroom. I can't even remember the conversation at all but I think I said the world fuck/fuck off but not towards the staff member, it was just in conversation.

I swear, but I'm strict on myself to not swear in front of clients. The member of staff reported me. I was ripped a new one. Because the clients were in the house it was meant it was around them and because its their house. The owner had a huge go at me saying there would be no way I would be allowed to swear in his house.
one member of staff said she said "bloody hell" in front of a client yesterday but nothing was said.
im so embarrassed. I'm bloody good at my job.

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SamMil · 05/12/2021 20:04

You're in a vulnerable person's house to help take care of them. I'm sure hearing people effing and blinding from the other room isn't particularly soothing for them, or reassuring about the type of people in their home.

I think your work are correct to be strict on this.

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Luckymummytoone · 05/12/2021 20:06

I wish my colleagues would get a warning! The swearing is awful. HCP too so yes I agree, sorry!

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Iamkmackered1979 · 05/12/2021 20:09

I think swearing at work isn’t nice, sounds horrible however I work with kids in a health setting so it’s a def no no except in the tea room after a really hellish shift sometimes.

Hope you feel better op, it’s done snd I bet it never happens again, move on and forget about it.

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Jng1 · 05/12/2021 20:10

I think a lot of (younger?) people don't understand how offensive people (especially older people) find swearing. I hate it. It always sounds coarse, aggressive and angry and it makes me feel slightly unsafe (might be to do with the people who swore around me as a child?).

Definitely unprofessional and you need to work on making sure it doesnn't happen again. Perhaps your colleague didn't feel able to address it directly with you, but felt they needed to report it in case it happened in front of the client next time and they made a formal complaint?

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billy1966 · 05/12/2021 20:10

What an awful colleague to do that OP.

Learn from it and watch your back around that awful colleague.Flowers

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LettertoHermoine · 05/12/2021 20:11

Ridiculous! Bad luck to the one who reported you.

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Comedycook · 05/12/2021 20:14

You were very wrong to swear in that situation but I wouldn't have reported you

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Cactusandmarshmallows · 05/12/2021 20:16

This thread is a reminder for me to swear less. I find the more I do it the easier it is to accidentally slip into the wrong conversations. I know others are better on that front but im not

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SivvyPlath · 05/12/2021 20:16

You colleague sounds like a jobsworth

Totally agree

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nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 05/12/2021 20:16

God, he'd hate working where I do. We eff and blind like sailors. I don't remember the last time we went a day without someone being called a cunt.

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brushandmop · 05/12/2021 20:17

In my workplace, its swearwords non stop. Not at each other but in general. It's a professional setting but no clients in house so its just the team members. It's a bit precious to report you for one word.

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WhoWants2Know · 05/12/2021 20:18

I've caught staff doing much worse in residents homes.

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Suzanne999 · 05/12/2021 20:19

As you can see, it was inappropriate. Learn from it and move on. If you feel it will close the episode speak to the business owner again, say you’re sorry, you realise it was wrong and will never do it again. If you love your job and you’re good at it, they won’t want to lose you.

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Benjispruce5 · 05/12/2021 20:20

You got a reprimand, not the sack. Put it behind you and move on.

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loveandkindness · 05/12/2021 20:20

What a sly little snitch that member of staff is. It sounds like it was a one-off. You sound like a nice person, someone who obviously cares or you wouldn't be contrite now.

I hate snitchers!

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tttigress · 05/12/2021 20:20

I personally wouldn't have reported you, but I think swearing in all work places is becoming increasingly frowned on. I don't really see what the client's or if you swore directly at your colleague have got to do with it.

I would have thought saying fuck in the work place was not a good idea whatever the context.

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Bluntness100 · 05/12/2021 20:21

You couldn’t even write your op without swearing, so if you’re saying your also uncouth at work. I suspect most of us will believe it,

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Bluntness100 · 05/12/2021 20:22

@loveandkindness

What a sly little snitch that member of staff is. It sounds like it was a one-off. You sound like a nice person, someone who obviously cares or you wouldn't be contrite now.

I hate snitchers!

Grow up.
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ShaneTheThird · 05/12/2021 20:26

Massive over fucking reaction

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TooBigForMyBoots · 05/12/2021 20:26

Don't swear in work and wire your other colleagues off about the jobsworth.

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TheVolturi · 05/12/2021 20:27

Your colleague sounds like a knob.

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TheVolturi · 05/12/2021 20:29

Ps I worked in a secure NHS unit as a sw and swearing was part of the daily language by most staff and clients.

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peboh · 05/12/2021 20:32

Would I have reported you? No. However at the end of the day you swore in a clients home, that's unprofessional. So your manager isn't being unreasonable.

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HollowTalk · 05/12/2021 20:32

@frecklemcspeckles

I was at a hospital appt recently. One of those ones where you're sitting around during treatment for a few hours. The HCAs were at a workstation on a ward with around 5 or 6 patients all getting their treatments. One of them swore constantly as they talked about their work and I remember thinking it was such a bad look when elderly unwell folk were around. I think your colleague was probably a bit ott reporting you if noone was actually around but it's possible they think you may do it in front of residents too which isn't right. I'm sure you're so embarrassed now but hopefully you'll remember never to do it again.

I would have reported this in writing.

It's a completely different situation to the one that the OP is in though. I wonder whether she was as quiet as she thought she was.
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TheOccupier · 05/12/2021 20:33

Lot of perfect people on this thread, clearly!

Not ideal but sometimes these things happen. Were you reported by a colleague? Were the clients even aware? I don't think it's a big deal really.

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