Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ enabled for each other?

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I know this isn’t really an AIBU. Discussion with a friend.

Do you and your partner both have ‘find my friend’ (or similar tracking app) installed so you can both see where each other are?

Interested to see views!

YABU: don’t be silly, that’s really intrusive and unnecessary.

YANBU: it’s perfectly normal, especially if you have kids.

I’m somewhere in the middle, depending on circumstances, although we do have ours turned on most of the time.

Ignore my last post @OneTC I've just found it in the place you attach photos and media. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Yep another I phone family here, we are all on find my friend. Dh cycles home very late at night (he’s NHS), I walk the dog in the dark on my own and ds is 13 and starting to go out with mates etc., so it’s really useful, we are all happy with it.

Yes. We both cycle and run alone. Although I’ve only used it twice. Once to find his phone he’d left in a taxi and once when he did have an accident and needed mountain rescue but was out of reception.

No because I have no idea how to enable it! I do have a find my friend for my DD's they set up for safety reasons, I never look at it but as students they want me to be able to trace them in emergency

We do, I think. I almost never remember about it, but sometimes it's useful to know how far he is from home so I can put tea on etc.

I certainly don't think it's a necessity and if one person in a couple doesn't want to use it it's a non-starter.

We're very boring and spend 98% of our time together and always know where the other is anyway, so it's not much use to us.

Ignore my last post @OneTC I've just found it in the place you attach photos and media. 🤦🏽‍♀️

It's a really useful feature I think, great for if you don't have a fixed meeting up time and you can just set yourself to findable (for one person or group) and go about your thing. Good for parks or markets and I'm more likely to be using it with mates than with OH

No, totally intrusive. I'll share my WhatsApp location if I'm coming home alone late at night but that's it.

@Sparklingbrook

DS has something that from what little I have seen there's like a cartoon map and the people that he games with possibly-he can see where they are and if they're online? There's a little cartoon figure sort of standing on the map.

Snapmaps on Snapchat

Yes we do (me, DH and our four teens). I don’t think it’s intrusive.

DS18 recently got a new phone and we didn’t ask him to enable it as he’s now an adult, but he just sent us a request thing after a few days.

I don’t use it for anything really other than to see it DH is on his way home so I know I can cook lol. If he’s working away I’ll sometimes check whether he’s made it there safe but that’s all we use it for!

The thing about "just send a text" is that it needs somebody to remember to send a text (or try to and discover that there is no phone reception- pretty standard with O2/EE/3 in a lot of the neighbouring more rural areas). At least we can see where someone was and when.

Also it isn't uncommon for one or more of us to be home at 5:30/6 and need to be out by 6:30/7pm. It's kinda helpful to know who is running to schedule. A couple of nights of reheated meals is okay, but we'd rather eat together.

We do. Primarily because we both cycle quite long distances alone, as do our children but also because DH travels a lot for work. (Well he did pre covid) It's more convenient to be able to have a quick glance at my phone to see how he is getting on than it is to be ringing each other, and he is often on work calls in the car anyway so isn't always easy to get hold of. If he is going to be arriving somewhere late at night he doesn't always call or text in case I'm asleep but if I wake in the night I can see he is in his hotel which is reassuring, especially if he's driving hundreds of miles in bad weather.

No, we have no use for it. DP works evenings so I know not to cook for him (or to plate up a meal for him to reheat later if I'm feeling nice) he works 5 minutes round the corner and I am asleep by the time he gets in.

Ds is a baby so doesn't have a phone.

We mainly spend weekends together, but if one of us does go out, there's no expectations set on what time they will return home. We just sort ourselves out food wise in those situations.

Neither of us exercise out on our own either, I really don't see how it would benefit our lives at all.

Ah thanks @RampantIvy that would make sense.

Yes. We got it so I could see roughly what time DH would be home in order to get dinner ready etc. Neither of us are regularly checking where the other is though.

No. Not even considered it.

@NeverForgetYourDreams

Yes we do and I use it to see if he's still at work so I know not to put the dinner on. DS has it too just in case something happens and then know where he last was (phone never leaves his side!).

Utter trust in each other. Nothing to hide. I don't care if he sees I'm in a shop or at work. Never bothers me.

Yeah same, I work driving a van he’s mostly working at home , I often can’t get to the phone to text saying if I’m going to be late as I’m 100 miles away so he can see that I’m going to be late home from work etc , makes life much easier for us

@iklboodolphrednosedpaindear

Yes, mainly use it to see when each of us are on our way home so the other can put tea on.

Agree with this. We have it on for whole family and I use it to see when my husband is on his way home so I can put the kettle on

We do, but only after DH left his phone in a taxi when he was drunk and it took me ages to manage to log into his 'Find My' on my phone to track it down for him!

After that we both added it and set it to be able to find each other. I can't say I've ever used it though and I'd be highly surprised if he had.

I wouldn't want it to track each other all the time, that'd be weird (for us).

We send our locations on Google maps if we need to find each other. Have never even considered a permanent tracker.

I insist DH has it. He has Parkinson's and has form for wandering off when we're out or not being able to find his phone. He can see where I am if he wants but I don't think he looks very often. We spend a lot of time together anyway

Yes DH and I have this function switched on and find it useful. He travels a long way to work and it's nice to know where he is. And if he calls me and I don't answer he can see where I am (eg home, supermarket or doctors) which would explain me not answering the phone. I can imagine it's invaluable in the case of an emergency too, luckily we haven't been in that situation touch wood.

I don't feel it's intrusive unless there is anything untoward happening in a relationship. We have nothing to hide and we're not controlling (!) so no issues whatsoever.

We’re just not techie enough. No idea what most of the stuff on my smartphone does... I have no apps.

And, I don’t care where DH is when he’s not at home. And vice versa. We’re off living our own lives, when we’re not together.

If I switch the kettle on as DH comes through the door it's boiled by the time he's taken his coat off. I wouldn't need to track him for that.

No.

We do- whole family on find my iPhone. DH has to travel a lot and will often ring me when he can’t find an address or isn’t sure where he is if he can’t pull over to check maps. Very useful for when one of us can’t find our phone too.