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Would you go to a wedding next weekend?

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weddingguesttbc · 01/12/2021 19:01

Am vaccinated and RSVP'd yes. Not old or CEV but I am wary.

Would you go? They've likely paid for me already. I have booked a hotel etc.

Doubts over whether it will even happen at this rate.

Do you think it will happen? (if it doesn't, I guess I wait for now and do nothing) and if it does, would you go?

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Johnbowlby · 02/12/2021 09:43

I wouldn't go personally. I do know someone who died of covid, I do have a family member who has not recovered from Covid a year ago and because I work on a bereavement helpline, I can guarantee those of you that seem to be suggesting people under 40 aren't dying of covid, that you are wrong. Covid has devastated families. It is absolutely fine to choose to go to such events, but please don't talk flippantly about covid. Around 800-1000 families lost someone last week alone

tearinghairout · 02/12/2021 11:11

I agree with Johnbowlby about not talking flippantly about Covid. If you get it, it may be mild and you feel fine after a week. Great. Or it could develop into long Covid, like it did with me and has with thousands of others. I'm self-employed, lost thousands of pounds because I had to turn down work and give it to colleagues, felt as if I was breathing through a duvet for nine months, brain fog. It's been over a year now and I am still exhausted even changing a duvet cover. Can't walk far. So for DH and I, it's the fear of catching a dose which then turns into a post-viral syndrome. It could happen to anyone.

ImInStealthMode · 02/12/2021 11:39

@Waxonwaxoff0

So many people on MN seem to know young healthy people who have died from Covid. It's odd. I probably know upwards of 50 people who have had Covid now including myself (I work in a large factory) and I don't know anyone who has died or has long Covid, I have one unvaxxed colleague in his 50s who was in ICU recently but he's the only one I know who has been in hospital.
I'm the same as you @Waxonwaxoff0.

I know numerous people of all ages who've had covid, but just one death. That was a distant relative who was already terminally ill and approaching the end. Of course because he tested positive in hospital he was marked as a covid death when in actual fact he wouldn't have survived more than a day or two longer had he not had it. I do wonder how many of the deaths registered as Covid are along the same lines.

Notahandmaid · 02/12/2021 12:01

But equally there will be deaths from Covid that fall outside of the 28 days as well.

MrsBerthaRochester · 02/12/2021 12:01

Pretty much everyone I know has had it and it was the mild illness that it is for the VAST majority of people.
I dont know anyone who has died from it. Noone in my social circle knows anyone who has died from it. Hardly the plague is it?

GabriellaMontez · 02/12/2021 12:13

I wouldn't hesitate

Notahandmaid · 02/12/2021 12:15

You are very lucky @MrsBerthaRochester

Chely · 02/12/2021 12:24

Yes I would, not been to a wedding for years. Not been anxious at all during the pandemic though and had a baby during too.

Hope you have a lovely time.

ParkheadParadise · 02/12/2021 12:27

Yes, I would go and enjoy myself.

Pottedpalm · 02/12/2021 13:12

We are going to a wedding on 11th, in the wilds of North Yorkshire

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/12/2021 13:13

Yes I’d go

We need to have some fun and an element of normality

I’m triple vaxxed and have always kept to the rules/ been careful when out and about, but we need to have a life

DockOTheBay · 02/12/2021 13:20

I would absolutely go. Life has to go on.

If you decide to cancel now, very last minute, you must offer to pay to cover the cost of your meal etc. Its only fair on the bride and groom.

Skysblue · 02/12/2021 13:25

I would probably go to the ceremony, wear a posh silk mask for the ceremony, attend the sit down meal (if there is one), then sneak away. If asked the next day you can always claim you had a headache and went to lie diwn.

So basically I’d go but try to limit my germ exposure to those eating near me and not a whole dance floor.

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weddingguesttbc · 02/12/2021 13:30

I need to stop reading the daily Mail and their awful headlines. They've called the new variant 'Emiricon'

I will go. Stop reading the DM and hope the rules don't change in the next week or so.

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Rachie1973 · 02/12/2021 13:52

[quote GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]**@3WildOnes* I am not anxious about catching Covid though.*

Um... have you been living in a cave for the past 2 years? I've lost two friends to COVID and almost lost another who is now registered as disabled while she recovers. Which will take 18-24 months at best.

What is it that you're not anxious about?[/quote]
You’ve been very unlucky then.

Most people who catch Covid experience mild symptoms and recover quickly.

OnGoldenPond · 02/12/2021 14:22

It will happen and yes of course I would go. Why wouldn't I?

5keletor · 02/12/2021 14:32

Hmm I don't know. Personally I wouldn't, but mainly so I didn't have to sit through a wedding. 🙈 Regarding covid, I'm not sure. I'd probably avoid it, especially if there were so many people there.

Everanewbie · 02/12/2021 14:39

Give me a good bout of covid any day over the miserable life so many on here want to live.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/12/2021 14:45

@Everanewbie

Give me a good bout of covid any day over the miserable life so many on here want to live.
Me too!
TheLovelinessOfBaublyDemons · 02/12/2021 15:32

I'd go because we've been trapped indoors for so long.

thevassal · 02/12/2021 16:16

@Everanewbie

Give me a good bout of covid any day over the miserable life so many on here want to live.
Exactly. I think if you do decide not to go you should at the very least send the couple the cost of your attendance as well as any present you were going to give them.
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weddingguesttbc · 02/12/2021 16:28

Do you think they will bring in plan B soon?

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Scbchl · 02/12/2021 16:34

Stop reading all the media and listening to the press conferences its complete scare mongering. The guy who discovered the new variant, said no one has died and its extremely mild. Doesn't sound any worse than your typical cold. Things are getting ridiculous now.

lynntheyresexpeople · 02/12/2021 16:36

Absolutely! Am bridesmaid in 2 weeks and I cannot wait

twinmum2007 · 02/12/2021 17:29

Yes. If you were prepared to go before they found the variant then why change now?