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Original poster

Would you go to a wedding next weekend?

250 replies

weddingguesttbc · 01/12/2021 19:01

Am vaccinated and RSVP'd yes. Not old or CEV but I am wary.

Would you go? They've likely paid for me already. I have booked a hotel etc.

Doubts over whether it will even happen at this rate.

Do you think it will happen? (if it doesn't, I guess I wait for now and do nothing) and if it does, would you go?

OP posts:
TheBabyBoo · 02/12/2021 04:08

No.

Offmyfence · 02/12/2021 06:14

I'd go, without a worry.

simpledeer · 02/12/2021 07:08

I am a typical wedding hating mumsnetter so I would probably have found a reason to decline when first invited.

However, given the fact people are going down with covid like flies where I live, it would be very easy to be awaiting results of PCR test and be unable to attend wouldn't it?

If this is how you feel though, you should probably think twice about accepting invitations as it's not fair on host. In this case though, it's unlikely you will be the only no show.

JustDanceAddict · 02/12/2021 07:14

Totally.
I went to a function the weekend restrictions lifted. Ok, it wasn’t quite the same as it would’ve been pre-Covid esp as people were understandably wary, but it went ahead w no issues. Remember how much the bride/groom invests in these things - money, time, effort etc.,
A few people pulled out a couple of weeks before and the hosts were not happy.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 02/12/2021 07:18

Go

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/12/2021 07:20

Absolutely. I'm no more concerned about this variant than any other variant.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/12/2021 07:22

@SteggySawUs

Totally would go! I think people will stop going to things after about the 12th because they don't want to risk missing Christmas due to isolating, rate than fear of the virus itself. Enjoy!!
Sounds good to me, hopefully the markets pubs and restaurants will be quieter for me after the 12th Grin
Fairylights25 · 02/12/2021 07:33

Of course you should go.

chillied · 02/12/2021 08:13

@Skyll

I wouldn’t go for fear of catching COVID and wrecking my Christmas plans
Last two social things I've been to, everyone present has been contacted in the next day or two because at least 1 person present turned out to have covid.

Even if I don't catch it, that has a knock on effect on other meetings and social events. I felt it fair to warn people I was about to meet that I could potentially be in that pre-symptom incubation period; they chose not to risk it.

Depends really if you have any other social commitments in the 2 weeks or so after the wedding, that you might be more gutted to miss than the wedding.

It might be that this wedding is the key event you want to prioritise and be prepared to ditch some others if you then need to.

MrsBerthaRochester · 02/12/2021 08:24

Yes I would go but then I dont buy the whole plague narrative. People dropping like flies? Its simply not true. Its a mild illness for the VAST majority of people.

BringMeTea · 02/12/2021 08:26

No.

Keladrythesaviour · 02/12/2021 08:38

[quote GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]**@3WildOnes* I am not anxious about catching Covid though.*

Um... have you been living in a cave for the past 2 years? I've lost two friends to COVID and almost lost another who is now registered as disabled while she recovers. Which will take 18-24 months at best.

What is it that you're not anxious about?[/quote]
Probably the millions of people around the world who have had it, some multiple times, and suffered no longer side effects than a bad cold.

I'm very sorry you've lost people and I can't speak for the poster you challenged but covid, or rather the fear of covid, doesn't impact my day to day life. I've lost friends to climbing accidents, horse riding accidents and cancer, all well before their time. I still live my life as I did before.

Notahandmaid · 02/12/2021 08:40

Thanks @me4real

I would feel more relaxed for myself now having had it now (though my partner & I still felt rough for well over a week and I know you can catch it and be ill again).

However, I know you can still catch it after having it and pass it on and I want to keep my mum and others safe. Also, 150 people a day are still dying and no one seems to be battling an eyelid anymore. As my mum is CEV, it would most likely kill her.

Only yesterday my boss tested positive after being at a work meeting that I nearly attended but thankfully dialled into. That means the other six people who were there now have to get tested and will be worrying.

If I do anything that involves risk, I will then stay away from others for ten days after and will regularly test. Someone suggested looking at what the OP has on after the wedding and judging whether or not the wedding trumps anything after for ten days. If so, then it might be worth the risk.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/12/2021 09:01

So many people on MN seem to know young healthy people who have died from Covid. It's odd. I probably know upwards of 50 people who have had Covid now including myself (I work in a large factory) and I don't know anyone who has died or has long Covid, I have one unvaxxed colleague in his 50s who was in ICU recently but he's the only one I know who has been in hospital.

Cyrilgoggin · 02/12/2021 09:11

I would. I'm currently in Heathrow about to board a flight for a weekend visiting friends in Europe. The airport is busy, lots of people heading off on holiday or to visit friends and family. Life is going on.
There won't be any lockdowns because bloody Boris and Carrie will be organising their Xmas gatherings of their pals and cronies in Downing Street. Like they did last year while we sat at home like fools.

Live your life. Keep your distance from people if it makes you feel less anxious but go and enjoy yourself.

HesterShaw1 · 02/12/2021 09:12

@Waxonwaxoff0

So many people on MN seem to know young healthy people who have died from Covid. It's odd. I probably know upwards of 50 people who have had Covid now including myself (I work in a large factory) and I don't know anyone who has died or has long Covid, I have one unvaxxed colleague in his 50s who was in ICU recently but he's the only one I know who has been in hospital.
They are generally marathon runners too.
Brendabigbaps · 02/12/2021 09:16

I’m going to a family wedding this weekend.
It won’t be cancelled and I doubt I’ll catch the new variant.

Aposterhasnoname · 02/12/2021 09:18

Dear God, the worlds lost it’s collective mind. Again.

Yes it will go ahead, and yes I’d go.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/12/2021 09:18

@HesterShaw1 yes, you're right! That's always thrown in.

HesterShaw1 · 02/12/2021 09:20

Um... have you been living in a cave for the past 2 years? I've lost two friends to COVID and almost lost another who is now registered as disabled while she recovers. Which will take 18-24 months at best.

What is it that you're not anxious about?

You WANT people to be anxious? Even though they might not remotely be in the same situation as you are? I, just for example, have had Covid and it wasn't nice but I fully recovered like everyone else I know - and there have been a lot of them. Should I be as anxious as you are?

The country is in a state of perpetual nervous exhaustion. It's horrible :(

Original poster
weddingguesttbc · 02/12/2021 09:21

Ok, so the general consensus is it will go ahead? I do want to go. I just feel pessimistic at the news this week.

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20viona · 02/12/2021 09:23

Yes of course and I'd be fuming if people dropped out at this late stage without valid reasoning.

Everanewbie · 02/12/2021 09:28

Hi OP. This isn't going away. If missing weddings and parties forever more is ok with you, cancel. But I'd suggest in the world of triple jabs, anti-virals and the fact that for most its a mild disease on a par with a bad cold, personally I'd crack on, it gets easier.

Alltheblue · 02/12/2021 09:31

I wouldn't go.

There will be many cases of the new variant in the country. We cannot let it rip with no data showing less severity (although , we hope) vaccine escape and a population with waning immunity.

logsonlogsoff · 02/12/2021 09:33

I would h less you’re going to be flying shortly after? A positive PCR will prevent you from going on holiday…
Otherwise I would go. Wash your hands etc etc

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