Teenage girls are total dicks

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They really are. Selfish hormone driven cock wombles.

I think they should all be forced to live on an island and only be allowed to return when they are sane.

AIBU??

@josssie I really really hope I can do this for my daughter when she is a teenager. You sound like an amazing Mum!
I really struggled as a teen. I wish I had just one person in my life who would have given me advice and support on those things you’ve mentioned. My main goal as a Mum is to do what you’ve described!

@josssie well done on being mother of the year and sharing how your superior parenting has passed other mothers by

@josssie

Mine was never like this. I did notice other parents suffering, but noticed also the lack of interest in their children in senior school and kinda gave their kids a label... oh they're in their room all the time, they're lazy, can't be bothered, won't listen etc., I really enjoyed parenting my daughter at senior school, coaching and teaching how to deal with different situations, how to argue/stand her ground and not bite... how to be sassy and understand what's really going on with other people and why they're so bitchy... how to evade fights, how to network and make friends and why. How to negotiate, plan and think about her future, what type of job she wanted, how much she wanted/needed to earn if she wanted a nice house,car and holiday... and more... I know it's easier said than done and takes time to really find out what's going on with your child... but you definitely need an open mind and not judge... good luck, hope you get to enjoy it as much as I did and still most definitely do x

Jolly good.

My daughter wasn’t like this in her teen years

But I reckon she got it all out of her system between 5 and 8

Throwing glasses, attacking her brothers, attempting to throw her mattress down the stairs (she was thorough I’ll give her that) the tantrums, throwing stones at people….

I reckon by the time she hit her teens she was just knackered and didn’t have the energy anymore

Condolences op 💐

My 15 year old girl is lovely. She’s polite, Caring and trustworthy. My 14 year old boy can be a dick sometimes but just because he’s a know it all.

Thank god that @josssie is here to tell us all where we're going wrong. Aren't we lucky.

[quote teateaandcoffee]@josssie I really really hope I can do this for my daughter when she is a teenager. You sound like an amazing Mum!
I really struggled as a teen. I wish I had just one person in my life who would have given me advice and support on those things you’ve mentioned. My main goal as a Mum is to do what you’ve described![/quote]
I did all of this. It made no difference at all. You might get lucky, and you might not.

I had no problems with my DS, who was the most delightful, funny, amusing, chatty teenager who never put a foot wrong either socially or academically having been a horrendous small child I'd like to be like @jossie and say that this is a tribute to my spectacular parenting, but I'd be talking rot.

I still get unreasonably hormonal at 39
I was a horrible teenager
Anyway will let you know in 10 years when I compare DS to DD.. (I have a fear DS will be a selfish sarky moody prick of a teenager... as he already rolls eyes at me at 7 when I ask him to help with anything..but hope he proves me wrong)

Mine is lovely 🤷🏻‍♀️

Laughing at the NATALT posts.

OP. Or as it’s nearly the weekend maybe

@WeepingWinnie ok just pray for me then! 😂 I guess it’s only a few years 😬

Laughing at the NATALT posts.

What's so funny? The OP gave no information and asked if she was being unreasonable. It's a question that will result in people saying that their teen wasn't like that.

DD 15 is so funny, I am loving watching her try her first heels (1.5 inches ankle boots) and her first little black dress, complete joy. Also a bookworm like her mother. My cup runneth over.

@SunShinesBrightly

I probably wouldn’t say it in those words OP 😳 but yes, teenage girls can be as challenging as teenage boys!

You say that as if it's a given that boys will be awful.

Mine are 17 and 13 and mostly, they're great...a huge laugh to be around etc but they're quite self-obsessed!

It's hormones personality and to an extent how far what they want to push the boundaries in terms of what they want to do.

Parenting competition let's goad if lovely male or female then you got lucky is all!

I'm finding it easier to navigate my teens far better than when they were toddlers... maybe it's just me.

Toddlers are just a mind fuck, teens at least leave you alone. I can have such a laugh with my 15 Yr old dd, when she's "on one" I can avoid.. she's a good kid all round though.

Ah. My DD is 12 and we are getting started with the withering looks and sulks. An hour later she is my beloved little girl again and the apple of my eye!

DS is 10 - I know it is the golden time and it can't last. He is funny mature polite helpful and still thinks I am wonderful, he still looks lovely and sweet, lithe and supply like a tall foal with perfect skin

I think of him turning into a spotty gangly sulky messy lad with huge smelly feet and questionable smelling sheets! Ah well.

One day he will be a big tall 25 year old and I hope he will turn up smartly turned out in a nice shirt and jumper and take me to the pub for lunch on my bday

I was a horrible teenager. Dd1 is lovely (16) so I thought I'd got away with it. Then lock down coincides with year 9 for DD2 and she went almost overnight from being the happiest loveliest girl to tbh a nightmare. She is rude, entitled, lazy, disobedient, over dramatic, she knows it all, yet will contribute nothing. I love her. But she isn't likeable at the moment. It's hard work and it's bought me to tears many times. I see the occasional flash of the girl she used fo be and it gives me some hope that kid will return to us one day. For now it's just a matter of keeping hold of one end of the rope, however much she pulls away at the other end, and however much it's hurting my hand.

YANBU.

I was a twat. Surprised my parents didn't send me off to an island. I cringe when I remember what I was like at that age.

I have two DDs currently 8 and 6 and I am absolutely dreading the teenage years

You have every sympathy but my DD is bloody lovely, I literally don’t know what we have done to deserve her. My DS however was a total dick at that age but luckily at 18/19 seems to be turning a corner!

Good luck, teens are tricky x

Half my team/colleagues have teenagers.
I have two.
I keep suggesting we set up a teenage support group - trouble is we are all too knackered due to some/all of the following:
Early mornings getting them up for school and/or if they get up without prompting being shouted out when they can’t find essential items,
Late nights due to frequent taxi ing or if lucky this is one of the times your teenagers might decide they need a chat.
It goes in phases/waves I find.
At the moment mine aren’t too horrendous but my goodness it can change instantly!
It’s hard work to sometimes meet in the middle and compromise. You can end up arguing over something that in the scheme of things isn’t a big deal but it can be part of a whole load of things building up. If you “let it go” you wonder if this is a slippery slope.

They all are, and always have been. I know I was. My parents were SO stupid, for instance, when I was 15. By the time I was 23, I was amazed at how smart they had gotten over the years.

Mine two 13 and 15 are messy and bicker but also fun and kind. They are not rude to us or vile. Neither Dh or I were as teens either. Difficult teens aren’t a given.

I have found my people - where did my sweet, quirky and helpful daughter go