Teenage girls are total dicks

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They really are. Selfish hormone driven cock wombles.

I think they should all be forced to live on an island and only be allowed to return when they are sane.

AIBU??

Thank you tara

can afford to wait and OP can’t or whatever and then someone will pop up with a comment talking about how 45 year old men will be going through all kinds of fertility issues and such as I’ve mentioned

Although on the feminism board you’re usually told that you don’t care about men 😀

But yeah, there are all sorts of weird and wacky opinions on here (in my opinion obvs 😀)

Boys can be just as bad but go through it when they are older. My DS was horrendous at 17, 18 and 19 and I really didn't think our relationship would recover but it did.

@Peopleoverstuff I hear you.

Thank you Benjispruce5. Same to you

'Have to say I de believe in "natural consequences", so if a child empties a box of cereal on the kitchen floor for fun, then they would be handed a brush and we would sweep up the cereal together.'

That's the ideal scenario @speakout 👌 What would you do if a child screamed : I'm not doing it, threw the brush at your face, laughed, and ran away?
Because in the ideal world they'd listen and clean up, whereas we're talking about difficult behaviour. And whether you just blame it on the hormones and shrug your shoulders.

That's the ideal scenario @speakout 👌 What would you do if a child screamed : I'm not doing it, threw the brush at your face, laughed, and ran away?

If they do that they have lost control of themselves and all sense of right/wrong.

In that situation I would leave them to cool down. Get on with my day and let them approach me - it won’t be too long before they need money or a lift somewhere.

Give them the chance to explain and tell them calmly that if they do anything like that again you will not engage with them and you will not be doing them any favours. Ask them why they reacted in that way.

The difficulty is working out what is behind the behaviour- have they have genuinely lost control? Is there underlying frustration or upset and they don’t know how to deal with it? Or are they just behaving like an entitled brat? Some people will only behave badly if they know they are going to get away with it.

DS (15) is currently hard work atm (undiagnosed ADHD, just starting the process ) and he’s also being a pain at school.

Nothing I say to him atm is right and we’re often at loggerheads.

I will say however, if we have locked horns and he’s been his usual argumentative self, he will, 9 times out of 10, come back to me later in the day, give me a hug and tells me he loves me. This is when I know that the wonderful person is still hiding inside his hormonal, confused body.

[quote lousanne]@RufustheFloralmissingreindeer please don't mistake fear of parents with fear of consequences. The latter is important to learn how to make good life decisions.

Teenagers must have a fear of consequences of their decisions. Because a lot of life is doing what we don't want to do.

We don't speed because we don't want to get a speeding ticket. We don't slack at work all the time because would get fired. We don't eat junk 24/6 because we would get sick and overweight. We don't overspend on credit cards because the debt agency will be after us.

Because as a teenager I've learnt to do what is required of me even though I don't want to - it has been easier to apply this to adult life.

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And we don't do things that our mother doesn't like because she will hit us, apparently.

For those of you who have lovely teen DDs and think you are getting away with it:

I was a delightful teen who was close to my DM, worked hard at school, had some problems but shared everything with my parents.

Just as my DM was breathing a sigh of relief I hit my 20s and decided to do belated teen nightmare and we spent about 5 years barely on speaking terms.

So it might still happen to you yet, sorry.

So it might still happen to you yet, sorry.

Or, most likely, it might not.

Or, most likely, it might not.

I agree.

I would call it an adult relationship dysfunction.

Both DCs went through a stage where ttheir hygiene sucked. I did keep on at them, but eventually they realised that good hygiene is a good idea, and I no longer have to prompt themm to shower, etc.

@TurquoiseDragon oh I hope this rings true in DS case!

Actually, thinking back it took forever for him to manage to be able to wipe his own bum! Used to be ‘finiiiiiiiiished Mum’ with what seemed like forever!! So I’m hoping I can look back at the ‘when did you last have a shower’ at sometime in the future, with fondness

@MissPeregrine My youngest, DS (17), has now settled into a routine of showers 2-3 times a week, particularly the night before college. I admit it took him about 3 years before he came round and I could quit nagging. I did start to leave him to it and he began to notice his own body smell. That had the effect of kicking him up the bum as he realised if he could smell it, so could others...

I clicked on this expecting howls of outrage, I'm very impressed by the honesty in the first few posts! As a teacher I taught all girls, all boys and mixed secondary pupils and I will categorically state that all boys were by far the easiest to deal with, there wasn't the simmering resentment among them, the sheer nastiness on a personal level towards each other and towards me that comes when teaching girls. Of course there were some splendid rows but they would argue, have a fight then it was over. I had girls who could remember in forensic details of a telling off I gave her in Year 7 on the day they left in Year 11!
I know that's got a lot of generalisations but it was ceertainly my experience.

@Imissmoominmama

When my DD hit 14, I remember apologising to my mum for everything I’d done as a teen. You don’t realise what a twat you’re being until you’re on the receiving end!

I'm sure a lot of grandmothers sit back with a quiet smile when their grandaughters are giving their mother a hard time!

I have to say there are some real smug tears in this post

You can NEVER say it won't happen to you.

My two can be total dicks, but then again, so can I.

On the whole they're pretty damned cool people, the vast majority of the time!

As I said upthread my love for my two has no limit. They are intelligent, hard working, beautiful and caring. But, we get to see them at their worst as we are who they can offload to. That’s ok. There are consequences to bad behaviour and they are told when they’re out of order, but it still happens from time to time. I keep their loving words in Mother’s Day cards etc and read them when in need of a reminder.

You can NEVER say it won't happen to you.

And you can NEVER say that it will. 🤷🏻‍♀️ People are always so keen to bring others down when they're being positive.

Oh god yes. Honest mum friends have saved me. Thank god my mates aren’t the smug bastards who have posted about their angels on this thread 🙄

@whenwillthemadnessend

I have to say there are some real smug tears in this post

You can NEVER say it won't happen to you.

Well i can

When it comes to teenage girls at least….shes only got a few weeks left of teenhood

(Disclaimer….as ive already said she was a fucking nightmare between about 5 and 8)

I did a parenting class and was told that she was as good as gold at school and with other people but was probably finding it exhausting and would act out with us because she knew we loved her…she knew she was safe

They may have been trying to make feel better 🤔

SoupDragon

I don't believe in punishment.
My teenage years were dire. Physical fights with my mother.
I vowed I would never parent in that way.
What is so wrong about that?

Oh and I should say that just because she isn’t a total dick…doesnt mean shes an angel