To wonder what happened with date?

[RainbowBriteUk]

I went on a date at weekend. He was as lovely as he's been chatting to (we met on OLD). The date was really nice and we've both said we want to see each other again.

However, on the date we went for a coffee and then later on we went for a drink at the pub. Both times we both went to get my card out/his change purse out and I said I'll pay and he just said OK and let me. I was a bit miffed at this. It was only just over £6 for both lots of drinks so it's not going to bankrupt me but at the same time I would've liked him to say that he would get them. Would this put others off to?

He let you pay both times? He's a tight git. He should have paid for one or the other (and you should have let him)

It would concern me. I'd give him another chance, and if it happened again drop him.

Yes. He should have at least bought the second round if you bought the first. Tight git. I hate meanness

Sorry, did you say his change purse? That would have done it for me!!

All in seriousness though, maybe give him one last go but next time don't offer to pay!

You did offer, so it seems a bit unreasonable to be annoyed he accepted your offer. If everything else was good then I wouldn't write him off just because of this. He may have thought you'd be offended if he didn't let you pay.

If he doesn't insist on paying next time then that's a different story!

he shoukd have BUT you did offer, personally im not one for mind games so if someone offered and i accepted but then they got mad at me for accepting then i would no longer be interested, let him take you on a date.. dont offer to pay and see what happens. if he pays then all is good, if he skirts around it almost waiting for you to offer then hes no good

Sorry, did you say his change purse? That would have done it for me!!

😂😂😂😂 I was thinking the same.

Change purse?

Sorry, did you say his change purse? That would have done it for me!!

😂

Sorry, did you say his change purse? That would have done it for me!!

I know, right?!

Well you did offer 😐

Yes. Very weird. Rude. Very ungentlemanly and a complete turn off, to be honest. How to make a good first impression - not!

Don’t make excuses OP. You can do much better than that.

Yeah I'd have been miffed at that. I wouldn't have offered the second time though, I'd have assumed he was getting.

.”it was only just over £6 for both lots of drinks”

What kind of bar does lots of drinks for 2 people for £6??

Don’t offer twice!

Why on Earth did you offer both times? You’d already paid once and the second lot of drinks were a similar price. Personally I think you lose whining rights as you offered.

Next time, if there is another, just smile and say thank you, you don’t need to prove them all the way that you can pay your own way, take turns, or let him pay if he wants to.

Can I offer a slightly different perspective - I've been on about 30 dates this year, and went through a run of about 10 where I got there first, and bought the coffee/cake/drinks. When I went on date number 11, I thought fuck this, and hung back.
So, I'd give him one more chance just in case!

It was game over at “change purse” for me.

You lost me at "change purse".🤣

You can’t offer and get mad that he took it. If you don’t want to pay hang back.

“You can’t offer and get mad that he took it”

Yes you can . He should have insisted.

@RainbowBriteUk

I went on a date at weekend. He was as lovely as he's been chatting to (we met on OLD). The date was really nice and we've both said we want to see each other again.

However, on the date we went for a coffee and then later on we went for a drink at the pub. Both times we both went to get my card out/his change purse out and I said I'll pay and he just said OK and let me. I was a bit miffed at this. It was only just over £6 for both lots of drinks so it's not going to bankrupt me but at the same time I would've liked him to say that he would get them. Would this put others off to?

No I would leave it there. Same with if it was a mate date, should be shared evenly IMO. He could have paid one and you could have paid the other. I'd me be worried he's only coming out again because it will be a freebie...

It's definitely not a good sign, but I'd try one more time - he might have interpreted the second offer as meaning you expected to fully cover this date, and he might expect to fully cover the next one instead.

If he isn't trying to impress you on the first date then he never will. I wouldn't bother with a second date - his tightness (and lack of appreciation) speaks volumes about his interest levels.