About my husbands beard

[ClickClackClock]

Morning all, just wanted some independent advise. My husband (together 15 years) has suddenly decided to grow a beard. We are two weeks in now and I hate it, not how it looks, but the way it feels when he kisses me. Now I don't want to do that at all. Part of me wants to embrace it as it seems too controlling to say "shave it off or I won't kiss you" but essentially I don't want to have to do something I find unpleasant. Some of my thoughts have been that it seems quite selfish to do something you know your partner hates (and he does know) but then the other more reasonable part of me thinks but surely what he wants is also important. Help!

YABU

His body, his choice.

Of course, that goes both ways and you’re free to not kiss him.

I totally understand how you feel Click.
I feel the same. My husband has, always had a moustache which is nice but then came the beard. I hate it too.
I know it's his choice and decision, but still don't like it. When he does shave it off, he looks 10 years younger, and gets lots of kisses!

You’ll get used to it.

I actively encourage DH to keep his beard, without it he looks about twelve. How about getting him a grooming kit so you know it's fresh, DH has beard shampoo, beard balm/oil and a little wooden comb he uses on it, makes it soft and smell nice

Husband knows I hate beards and won't kiss him if he grows one. It's his face and his choice but I can't can't. They feel horrible.

You’ll get used to it. When my partner started growing beards years and years ago I didn’t like it but now I don’t even notice it! He’s had all sorts from a goatee, landing strip (looked awful) to a full beard and everything in between!

You don't have to kiss anyone you don't want to. That includes husbands who decide to grow beards that you find icky.

It’s not controlling to not want to kiss him, what you want is important too.

Why should you be the one to suck up bristly kisses?

Disclaimer: my DH has a beard.

I had this with my DH - I get it's his body his choice blah blah blah but I HATED it and told him so

2 weeks is the worst part. It's like pine needles sticking into your face! Once he gets past that part it's much softer.

My husband's beard is a bit like this (although this guy's moustache is way more impressive!!) and it's nice and soft.

YANBU at all! My DH grew a lockdown beard and I absolutely hate kissing him now 😞

He bloody loves his beard though so there’s no way he will get rid. And I do get that it’s his body etc (I would be v annoyed if he tried to tell me how to have my hair or something similar) but I really hate it. I really don’t like kissing him and if he moans about the lack of kissing in our relationship now I can only say tough 🤷🏻‍♀️

My DH has a huge beard. It's itchy to kiss him but you get used to it. You can't dictate what he does!

Another couple of weeks growth and it won't be prickly lol.
I absolutely love my partner's beard and on the odd occasions he shaves it off I don't like it

Thanks everyone. I know I can't tell him not to. Is it wrong that I am wanting 'revenge' by thinking of doing something to my body I know he'd hate to increase empathy!? No idea what though, shame I can't grow my own beard :-)

Haha yes, what does he like that you can stop doing? Stop shaving your legs? Cut hair shirt?

YABVU!

There is nothing sexier than a bearded man kissing and snuggling your neck.
(Married to a bearded man for 31 years)

When my friends ex husband grew a horrible beard she made him put a paper bag over is head when they had sex 🤣

My husband stopped shaving during the first lockdown and I love his beard. I won't let him shave it off! The first few weeks are prickly but not anymore. And he just looks so hot! (Apologies if my daughters read this!)

My DH periodically grows a beard. He knows I don't like it. I express my opinion but don't tell him what to do.

@Keladrythesaviour

My DH periodically grows a beard. He knows I don't like it. I express my opinion but don't tell him what to do.

Same here - I much prefer him clean shaven, but he enjoys growing a beard occassionally and shaving it in wierd ways, which I hate.

He is a teacher, so often likes to surprise the kids by starting term as a beardy then coming back after xmas without it (when he looks much younger and a hundred times hotter in my opinion).

It is up to him, I still love and fancy him, like I did when he put on a bit of weight a few years ago. He has lost the weight and looks great, but I didn't go off him for a few stone or for a but of facial fuzz. After 30 years, I like to think we have a deeper connection than that.

Yabu. His body his choice.

My dh has a beard which I prefer to him being clean shaven but I don't tell him not to shave it off which he does occasionally.

@MintyGreenDream

When my friends ex husband grew a horrible beard she made him put a paper bag over is head when they had sex 🤣

I guess that's why he's an ex? He divorced her for being batshit?

YANBU.

Beards are disgusting (except maybe on Jason Mamoa). DH had a lockdown beard for a year. I never got used to it.

But we had a few weeks of great sex after he shaved it off as I felt like I got the real DH back and could finally kiss him properly.

YANBU I find beards gross, itchy and get terrible stubble rash and acne from kissing when they're first growing and prickly. It's up to him if he wants a beard but it's up to you if you want to kiss him.
You don't have to say 'shave it off or I won't kiss you' just say 'I don't want to kiss you because I don't like the feel of your beard.' Just the thought of it is giving me the ick tbh.

yeah don't blame you, I can't stand them either......I think it was reading The Twits when I was a child that's put me off them.