I'm being taken for a mug aren't I?

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Been seeing this guy for about a month, not long at all but things have moved quite quickly. See each other a lot, talk on the phone for hours every day etc. So it's been quite intense

He's a bit down on his luck right now, was made homeless by his ex, is in a flat now but struggling to get back on his feet etc.

Twice in the last week he has asked to borrow money from me. £15 the first time, £10 the second. I've said no both times.

He knows I'm a single parent and don't really have cash to spare. I thought we were getting on really well but this seems like a massive red flag to me, he's trying to use me isn't he?

A time when he’s “down on his luck” is not a sensible time to be looking for a new partner. That he thinks it is, is a red flag in itself.

I wouldn’t date someone who needed to borrow money from me.

I'd still love to know whether or not this man has an actual job too?!

It sounds like he saw you coming and chances are you’re not the only one.

I would never ask to borrow money from someone I had just started dating. I’d be really embarrassed and I don’t know any men that would ask either. For him to not be embarrassed is a massive red flag.

The next couple of times he asks say you don’t have it. Then you’ll see if he genuinely likes you or not.

Why doesn't he get himself a second job if he's short of money? As a PP has said there are plenty of jobs around at the moment if he really wants to make life financially better for himself. I've held down two jobs (one full time, one part-time evening and weekends) when finances were tight. I'm glad you said "no" when he asked to borrow from you - well done! Keep your boundaries high and strong OP!!🌹