To wonder what Adele meant when she said she "had to show up for herself every day?"

[MrsHookey]

Baffled. What does this mean?

I do quite like Adele. I don’t feel venom towards her. When anyone is overhyped and seems to be everywhere you look, it’s normal to get a bit fed up of seeing them.

I agree with the interpetations of 'making an effort'. But that's what every mother has to do really, for their child. So I'd probably say, 'I have to show up for myself every day, for my DC'.

Of course she wasn’t an actual child, children aren’t generally permitted to get married. As @DrSbaitso says, she means she was emotionally immature.

Lyric writer engages metaphor in song lyrics shocker!

It’s a lot easier to get up and pull yourself together every day when you have ££££££ in the bank.

Can’t stand this new Adele.

[quote Queenoftheashes]@Fritilleries yeah I agree with that. Something a bit off about it all and how she’s sort of using her divorce to promote her album. Like Taylor swift having to have break ups to inspire song writing but with a kid involved.[/quote]
Never hear these kind of comments made towards male songwriters...

@Bagelsandbrie

It’s a lot easier to get up and pull yourself together every day when you have ££££££ in the bank.

Can’t stand this new Adele.

Of course it is, it's better to cry in a mansion than a shack.

But money doesn't stop you feeling heartbreak, even if it does make the practicalities of splitting much easier. There are plenty of posters on here who are very well off, possibly not as much as Adele but definitely in the top brackets, who have still been devastated by their divorces.

If wealth was a safeguard against heartbreak and devastation, Hollywood A listers, and indeed bankers, would have the most wonderful mental health...

@Meecrowavay I’ve got various opinions on male singers as well, ranging from selfish to rapists to ruined game of thrones, as I fucking hate men. But this wasn’t about them. I bitch about men way more than I do women.

I reckon it could be just as hard to pull yourself together when you’re rich, or even harder. She could outsource everything and not actually do anything apart from lie around in bed or watch TV all day. She’s got enough money not to need to work, look after her son or do anything she doesn’t want to.

Why knock her for being successful? No one handed her anything on a silver plate, she’s achieved every fraction of success herself through her own hard work.

@TedMullins

I don’t have any particular feelings about Adele or her album (haven’t listened) but the spiteful comments just sound like internalised misogyny to me. God forbid a successful woman puts herself first, eh? She’s setting a great example to her son as far as I’m concerned, showing him that nobody has to stay in a relationship they’re not satisfied in. Why shouldn’t she still feel like herself after having a kid? More women should put themselves first and “show up for themselves” imo.

YY I agree with all of this. This place is full of misogynists atm and the one thing they hate more than women is successful women. The irony of complaining that a songwriter used a relationship as the basis for songs. It's almost as though they've paid no attention to music ever or maybe they think it's 'ok' when a man does it and it only becomes a problem when a woman does I wish they'd go to Tattle. They'd fit right in there. Screeds and screeds of pages tearing apart any woman even vaguely in the public eye.

Showing up for yourself isn’t about having a shower and getting on with things. It’s about remembering you made a difficult decision, in this case to divorce and have her family spilt and hurt her child. It’s remembering why you made that decision and that you are worth more than settling because it’s not abusive or terrible, that you’re leaving because you’re unhappy/ regret an earlier decision and you don’t want that life.
Divorce and splitting up isn’t reserved for when your partner is a cheat or violent. You can love someone and still not be happy in a marriage.
From how she has spoken about her son it seemed the damage and hurt it would cause him was her main concern so of course she could be tempted to go back to the husband and live unhappily for the sake of her child. But she would suffer. And as women we don’t have to settle into unhappiness just because we have a child with a man we no longer love/respect/ whatever… even if you have billions in the bank

Great post, @Frolicinameadow.