To wonder what Adele meant when she said she "had to show up for herself every day?"

[MrsHookey]

Baffled. What does this mean?

She has become a caricature of herself in recent years. To me that just sounds like ‘therapist speak’.

@RamsayBoltonsConscience

I listened to the new album yesterday, I thought it was awful!

Just like every other one then , I just don't get the hype with her myself .

She's been in America too long, coming out with shite like that

Err its horrible life coach talk. What most people call, getting on with life like every other fucker.

I don’t have any particular feelings about Adele or her album (haven’t listened) but the spiteful comments just sound like internalised misogyny to me. God forbid a successful woman puts herself first, eh? She’s setting a great example to her son as far as I’m concerned, showing him that nobody has to stay in a relationship they’re not satisfied in. Why shouldn’t she still feel like herself after having a kid? More women should put themselves first and “show up for themselves” imo.

She's irritating now. She certainly wasn't 'still a child' when she had her baby. She was mid-twenties FFS! When my Mum was 24 she was married with 2 children and living abroad in a strange country - and my Dad was often absent for weeks at a time (he was in the RAF).

And considering her multi million fortune, and that she employs housekeepers, drivers, PAs and nannies she is utterly spoon fed and cushioned from real life.

Well said @tedmullins some of the comments here are so bitchy! All the Pearl clutching about a woman putting herself first and getting out of an unhappy relationship... Happy mother, happy child surely. The problem with her pouring her emotions out in her lyrics is that people think they can judge her on her life decisions. Isn't their own life interesting enough without throwing stones?

Some people can’t handle the fact she came from humble beginnings in Tottenham and is now gorgeous, rich, successful and confident. They preferred it when she was overweight - at least she didn’t have everything then.

They don’t realise that’s the reason they don’t like her now though, it’s unconscious.

@Smokeahontas

Get out of bed, have a shower, get your shit together.

So, what we all have to do then?

My workplaces plays radio 2 and they play her track 2-3 times a day, it’s utter durge. I’ve been married, had children, divorced and her shitty music means nothing to me. At home I listen to gold or LBC!

@TedMullins

I don’t have any particular feelings about Adele or her album (haven’t listened) but the spiteful comments just sound like internalised misogyny to me. God forbid a successful woman puts herself first, eh? She’s setting a great example to her son as far as I’m concerned, showing him that nobody has to stay in a relationship they’re not satisfied in. Why shouldn’t she still feel like herself after having a kid? More women should put themselves first and “show up for themselves” imo.

It's more exasperation than misogyny. Plenty of women don't feel themselves once they've had a child. Life changes, it's meant to.

That yawnfest music doesn't write itself.

It’s Californian therapy-speak for being an adult and getting on with life which is something that people who are not multi millionaires have to do every day.

One gets the impression that Ms Adkins isn’t the sharpest knife in the drawer.

She's a multi millionaire, has a huge career, a child...... and does fuck all but moan.

We all go through shit - only difference is that some of us have to get on with it, instead of sitting inside our heads feeling sorry for ourselves.

I agree, @RubyTuesday70. Whatever you think of her music, and I’m not a fan, she really doesn’t do herself any favours with her constant bleating in interviews.

@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil

Some people can’t handle the fact she came from humble beginnings in Tottenham and is now gorgeous, rich, successful and confident. They preferred it when she was overweight - at least she didn’t have everything then.

They don’t realise that’s the reason they don’t like her now though, it’s unconscious.

Bollocks. It’s more to do with the fact she’s now so far from Tottenham I doubt she could find it with the help of a map. A PP nailed it - self-indulgent naval gazing. It’s just boring.

I think what’s getting on peoples nerves a bit is that she is asking for some sort of special understanding from her son, re her divorce because she ‘was still a child’, when she blatantly wasn’t. She was a very rich, adult woman.
Fair enough, get divorced if he isn’t making you happy. But own your decision

Never been a fan of her music but used to like her humble charm. Now she seems pretty self absorbed, and living the whole LA lifestyle.

Mid 20’s is fairly young to be married though. If I’d have married the person I thought I was in love with when I was 24, we’d definitely be divorced by now and I’d be considering it a bad decision that was made when I was too young to know better. Of course I know some people get married at 18 and live happily ever after, but that’s not the norm.
I am not a fan of her music at all, never have been, but I can’t see how she’s any different from other artists in using her personal experiences in her music?

@thisplaceisweird
Well, if your standard for people primarily involves how much money they make, we probably have limited common ground...

My tuppence is when I was really depressed in a dark place I had to show up as DM every day, masked faked face, I was in robotic mode for 2 years.
You know who you are but you just can't get there.

Not a fan either.

Mid twenties isn’t that young. I got married at 25 - seems to have worked out okay. I was also a parent and a teacher - hardly a child!

I guess she meant she had to keep on trucking through tough times for her own sake as much as anyone else's, and not lose her identity.

Mid 20s isn't a child, but I must say I wasn't anywhere near ready to be married at that age. If I had, it would likely have been a disaster.