AIBU to think my landlord needs to grow up?

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On Tuesday just gone (16th) my landlord came to pick up the rent for the month and suggested to me that she needs flyers handing out to shop noticeboards and homes for her new business and asked whether or not I would be willing to do it for her, a few thousand in return for £20.
I explained to her that it wouldn't be as easy to just do all of the flyers immediately because I have to support my partner 24/7 with both her mental and physical health. I explained that this meant that my partner would need to come with me in her wheelchair and that'd make it less easy due to my partner's bones being affected by the cold weather so we couldn't spend as much time out of the warm home we have, more than anything.
My landlord accepted this and just requested that I update her on how I get on, where I've managed to get the flyers to, so she knows where her business is coming from.
Within 5 hours, I'd managed to get them into around 25 out of 30 stores canteens, noticeboards and counters, so I let the landlord know.
Thursday (18th) comes around and my partner having being out for those 5 hours on the Tuesday meant that for the Wednesday (17th) and Thursday she felt like she was practically comatose in her bed, unable to move about due to pain everywhere.
The landlord decided to point out to me that the weather's been dry and is due to be dry all this week, but I had to point out to her that dry weather doesn't mean it's not cold.
My partner was getting a bit annoyed by this (naturally I talk to her about anything that goes on in our lives and affects us.) so my partner called up the landlord.
On the phone call to the landlord, the landlord proceeded to tell my partner that I'd not once mentioned the difficulties that my partner would be facing and the landlord then said if we're not willing to post the flyers (which we had been doing) than she would just get someone else to do it and expects to get the flyers back (which obviously we can't do) as well as £15 out of the £20 she gave us originally for doing it.
I've made up my mind to just give the £15 to the landlord and tell her to get someone else if that's what she really wants, rather than telling lies about not knowing of my partner's disability and causing stress as a result.

Am I being unreasonable to think my landlord needs to grow up?

This definitely doesn’t sound right. CAB advisors can help with pip navigation

Well this being mn I assume you have declared that money earned..

Meanwhile back in a compassionate world I hope you and your dp find more support soon.

@Waahingwashingwashing

This definitely doesn’t sound right. CAB advisors can help with pip navigation

CAB have previously tried but because the GP don't have logged on their records what happens 24/7, their information doesn't match up with ours and so PIP tells us it's a rejection and we appeal but despite our appeals, we seem to end up getting nowhere without a diagnosis.

But the CAB have specialist advisors whose job is to bridge that gap for you?

@Santaischeckinglists

Well this being mn I assume you have declared that money earned..

Meanwhile back in a compassionate world I hope you and your dp find more support soon.

I'd like to plead the fifth when it comes to money earned. I appreciate your support and I hope my partner can get better support for her needs too. Thank you.

Also gp should take history of experience 24/7 from you so I’m really confused what you mean by gp don’t have experience 24/7 logged?

@Waahingwashingwashing

But the CAB have specialist advisors whose job is to bridge that gap for you?

Someone needs to point me in that area, because all myself and my partner have ever experienced is volunteer workers who just tell how to fill in the form, pay the money to the gp to get a 'letter of confirmation', send it off with the form to claim and wait, when it gets rejected appeal it, wait. Keep appealing it and when you can't anymore, make a new claim. Can you PLEASE send over one of those better specialist advisers, that'd be very helpful.

@Waahingwashingwashing

Also gp should take history of experience 24/7 from you so I’m really confused what you mean by gp don’t have experience 24/7 logged?

As in the gp doesn't experience what my partner goes through 24/7 as they're not around us all the time, all they see is my partner struggling when she's talking to them in the health centre, that's all they note, it's not just a case of me saying "this is this, this is this, this is this, etc" because to make use of a great idiom; 'it has to be seen to be believed'.

TL:DR.
Why didn't you just say no, sorry, don't have time.
Does any of this have anything to do with the rent increase?

If you google you should find them :)

Various disability charities also have them :) and some food banks have specialist volunteer advisors attached as well.

The CAB link is here www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/sick-or-disabled-people-and-carers/pip/help-with-your-claim/fill-in-form/

Heee is an example of another organisation that can assist dependent where you are www.ruils.co.uk/media/2446/pip-guidance-v1.pdf

There’s also Facebook groups (but I’m not on Facebook so I can’t help with those I’m sorry)

@PAFMO

TL:DR. Why didn't you just say no, sorry, don't have time. Does any of this have anything to do with the rent increase?

I didn't say no because I clearly thought it was different to what it was and that was my mistake. Thankfully we haven't had any rent increase. We've only ever had a rent reduction because of mice and one very obnoxious rat.

Also please don’t shout at me by using capitals. I’m trying to help and it spikes my anxiety when people shout either in real life or online. Thank you.

@Waahingwashingwashing

If you google you should find them :)

Various disability charities also have them :) and some food banks have specialist volunteer advisors attached as well.

The CAB link is here www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/sick-or-disabled-people-and-carers/pip/help-with-your-claim/fill-in-form/

Heee is an example of another organisation that can assist dependent where you are www.ruils.co.uk/media/2446/pip-guidance-v1.pdf

There’s also Facebook groups (but I’m not on Facebook so I can’t help with those I’m sorry)

We've gone through the CAB and found them not to be as helpful as you've experienced (I'm guessing) which is a shame, but we've never heard of ruils before and we'll give them a try. Thank you.

So is your partner in a wheelchair but has no diagnosis?

Hmm. Sounds like your partner needs a second opinion from a different GP.

@Waahingwashingwashing

Also please don’t shout at me by using capitals. I’m trying to help and it spikes my anxiety when people shout either in real life or online. Thank you.

I apologise for me appearing to shout at you, I'm not sure what made you think I was shouting at you, I was not as far as I was are but I shall make deliberately sure not to do it again as I wouldn't want to make you or anyone else feel any way other than positive. I hope you feel better.

Also you could try disabilityrightsuk and advicelocal.uk/

@HollowTalk

So is your partner in a wheelchair but has no diagnosis?

Yes, I purchased the wheelchair myself for her because of how bad she was struggling.

Using capitals online is considered shouting :) perhaps you weren’t aware. Thank you for your consideration I appreciate it.

@A580Hojas

Hmm. Sounds like your partner needs a second opinion from a different GP.

We've tried all the gps in our catchment area, outside of moving to a different area or winning the lottery and going private, there's not really much other choice, but we keep trying anyway and we appreciate the support. Thank you.

@Waahingwashingwashing

Using capitals online is considered shouting :) perhaps you weren’t aware. Thank you for your consideration I appreciate it.

I had no idea that wasn't even a thing if I'm honest. It is true what they say, you learn new things every day.

Even without a diagnosis the gp should be recording your partner’s account of their experience.

You should ask them to do this

Tell LL you will not be finishing the job and advise them not to ask again.
Definitely taking advantage of you.
LL collecting cash rent isn't unusual as long as you have a lease, ask for a receipt, then no issues.

Yabu for agreeing to do it for £20 the first place. If you really need the £20 that much you'd be better going out by yourself while your partner keeps warm at home.

@Waahingwashingwashing

Even without a diagnosis the gp should be recording your partner’s account of their experience.

You should ask them to do this

We did and they suggested off the back of it that she go in for an mri scan, so she let them know that usually her physical issues kick in more when she's moving about and requested that she not turn up until it's specifically time to be scanned. Then she turned up and they made her sit down and wait for half an hour but didn't see anything wrong with her as her body relaxed in the mri machine.