‘I’m not a Christmas person’

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I keep hearing this a lot recently.

If you’re not a Christmas person, why?

Completely understand that it’s difficult for some people at this time of year with loved ones having passed etc. But if it’s not something understandable like that, why don’t you like Christmas?

I love it more now I have a Dd, but even before that I loved the lights, tree, presents, food, going out etc-what’s not to love?! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@WildFlowerBees

I like the season rather than the day. I like the winter, the glow of all the soft twinkling lights, the scent of Christmas candles, mulled wine and just the general cosy feeling all these things bring, things that only really happen around Christmas.

Christmas Day is a boring pain in the arse and by Boxing Day that lovely cosy feeling is whipped away.

I hate the season and think it's far worse than the day itself.

I used to love Christmas and the excitement of the build up to it. Then we lost our 2nd Baby on Christmas Day 2018 and our 4th Baby 10 weeks before Christmas Day 2019 now Christmas just seems totally pointless

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby

I used to love Christmas and the excitement of the build up to it. Then we lost our 2nd Baby on Christmas Day 2018 and our 4th Baby 10 weeks before Christmas Day 2019 now Christmas just seems totally pointless

I am so sorry for your losses Hoping

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby

I used to love Christmas and the excitement of the build up to it. Then we lost our 2nd Baby on Christmas Day 2018 and our 4th Baby 10 weeks before Christmas Day 2019 now Christmas just seems totally pointless

I'm so sorry

@Babyghirl

I use to love it but now I dread it, 4 miscarriages and 1 cp over 3 years and I always wake up with an ache in my heart of the way it should be instead of how it is.

Same here

I really hate the over commercialism of Christmas, endless spending, plastic, tat, unused and unwanted presents. The stress of buying, meeting expectations, spending on nights out, events and treats that seem to start earlier and earlier each year.

I love many traditions around Christmas, the joy of young children experiencing those little bits of magic. But I have had too many difficult Christmases to really enjoy it.

I'm a Jehovahs Witness. I haven't celebrated Christmas for 27 years now. I dont miss it one bit. We have other times of the year to exchange gifts. We surprise the kids with a present day a couple times of the year but mostly they have more than enough so even at those occasions it's a struggle to find something for them. We have a big family gathering in March for my inlaws wedding anniversary. We do what we call a secret Sandra but then also buy extra for the kids. Between us we have 10 kids and 11 adults. We used to have a family weekend away in March with the presents over the weekend but it's getting harder to find a place to accommodate all of us plus dogs 🤣 nothing is forced and there's no lists! So even though we don't celebrate Christmas we still have plenty of fun through the year and there's now pressure for a certain date. Our home is full of fairy lights all year round anyway and we decorate quite eclectic in many ways. We are definitely not boring. We use that time off work and school to see friends or family. There's usually a walk and then soup and cake back at someone's house or a pub if they are open en route. For many years we would take the kids to center parks 2 weeks before Christmas as it was super super cheap but they have cottoned onto that now and put prices up! So although we don't celebrate it we do use the time to have nice times with family and friends.

I enjoy Christmas from about December 20th onwards. Anyone who thinks that 'Christmas time' starts in November is going to think that I'm not a Christmas person. I spent years disliking and dreading it due to a difficult family situation. That's resolved now, so I can find some enjoyment in it - at the proper time. Unfortunately with things as they are it's a struggle not to be absolutely sick of it before that time comes!

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby
So sorry for your losses, and I hope you get your rainbow baby soon, Christmas just makes me tearful and sad like I should be waken up to a 3 year old or a two year old or a 14 month old or a 11 month old, so can see it far enough. 💐

@Chatwin thank you

@youvegottenminuteslynn thank you

I'm not a Christian, I don't celebrate Christmas, and the upheaval, hype, and general expectation of participation whether you want to or not gets on my nerves. It's easier to just say to people that I don't 'do' Christmas than go into explaining why, then yet again hearing all the tiresome same old 'but don't you...' in response.

I've always loved Christmas and my parents always made each one so special. When my darling mum died of cancer on 21st December 2019 I never ever felt like I could face Christmas again. I nursed her at home as per her wishes and felt like I was looking in on my life rather than living it.
Last year was so hard but I made myself "do" Christmas as I know she'd have been furious at me! This year it's a little easier (miss her like crazy every single day) but I know that I'll always do it in her honour and know that she's watching over us ❤️❤️

[quote Babyghirl]@HopingForOurRainbowBaby
So sorry for your losses, and I hope you get your rainbow baby soon, Christmas just makes me tearful and sad like I should be waken up to a 3 year old or a two year old or a 14 month old or a 11 month old, so can see it far enough. 💐[/quote]
Thank you. And That's just it, it's the picturing the what should've beens. I had a CP (5th Pregnancy) weeks after having my first Covid vaccine. That Baby would be due any time now.

Loved Christmas, tragedy happened and no longer find the emotional energy to celebrate, or participate. Tend to work Christmas now (and New Year) and enjoy down time in January.
From those who work Christmas because they are not Christmas people it tends be a mix of reasons, some similar to my own, some cultural, some personal: they wish to distance themselves from the sense of obligation to spend on food, decorations and presents, none of which are really needed, and socialise with people whom they would never see the rest of the year

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby- so sorry for all you have been through. xx

It's ok I just love summer it's so much better

I don't like this type of year at all. Days are far too short, and the long, dark nights.

The colossal pain in the arse that is Christmas comes smack bang in the middle of that. I do enjoy the day, having Christmas Dinner in a local restaurant with DH and our DDs, but I really could quite happily live without Christmas itself.

This Christmas is likely to feel rather strange as my Dad died earlier this year so it is the first one without him around. Certainly not looking forward to it much and will be glad when it is over.

Wake me up in January! I want to hibernate for a few weeks now.

Time of year

I am autistic & find Christmas one of the worst times of the year, I hate any kind of gathering, the change of routine, the pressure & build up. My favourite day is the day after Boxing Day when I know I have survived it & it is over for another year.

[quote covilha]@HopingForOurRainbowBaby- so sorry for all you have been through. xx[/quote]
Thank you

I'm not fussed now my children are older, I think it brings too much stress for me making sure I have everything also both my children have birthdays at Christmas. X

I work in retail. Often have to work Christmas Eve and Boxing Day and deal with rude customers right up until we close our tinsel-bedecked doors. Too tired on Christmas Day even to partake in any Christmas spirit...

I don’t like people
I don’t like forced fun
I don’t like the busy shops
I don’t like the cost
I don’t like the stress
I don’t like religion
I don’t like the idea that families have to be together

I enjoy Xmas but surely it doesn't take a great deal of imagination why some people don't?