I know this is very late but the anxiety over this is actually keeping me awake! So my cousin is getting married in August abroad, and I was asked to be bridesmaid. Part of me really does want to as she was mine and we’ve talked about it since we were small, but she has changed a lot over the years and we don’t necessarily get along anymore. Anyway, the issue is this, my son has severe autism so me and my husband agreed there was just no way we could take him to a foreign country and expect him not to kick off, I know it would be too hard on him. So we compromised that just me and my youngest would go for 3 nights and my husband would stay at home with my autistic son. But now the time has come to book flights and it is only possible to go for 7 days. This is just too long for my son to be without me, and too long for my youngest not to be with his Daddy. I wouldn’t expect this of anyone. When I told my family this they put a lot of pressure on me saying I will “ruin” everything if I don’t go. I am completely torn. I know in my heart if the anxiety about being away from my son is this bad then I shouldn’t, but I do feel I’m letting family down and don’t want to hurt them. I wish I had more time to come to a decision but they are really piling on the pressure with “you need to book flights NOW!” I should also mention she wants the hen do abroad, and the costs just keep going up and up and up and while I could technically afford it it is causing stress because we are talking thousands. I’d be grateful for advice on how to handle this