About BIL and SIL

[IDontLikeMondays88]

My BIL and SIL live in Canada. We’ve not seen them for two years due to the pandemic.
BIL and SIL recently told us they intend to spend a month in Europe over the summer and invited us and my MIL and FIL to join them for a week in a specific country. Although it was never specifically discussed I assumed we would rent a house together or perhaps apartments in the same block or something like that.
However BIL and SIL have now booked an apartment in a resort for themselves without any discussion with the rest of the family as to the choice of resort of accommodation. They’ve just booked and now expect us to fall into line and book the same resort and accommodation. In fact they expect us to share with MIL and FIL while they stay in a separate apartment. I don’t mind staying with MIL and FIL but think it’s odd/bordering on rude that we are expected to stay with MIL and FIL but they want to be separate. The resort isn’t what I would pick. The accommodation also isn’t what I’d pick - serveral reviews say it is not accessible when we have a 2 year old (ie are going to have to carry a buggy up and down lots of stairs) and FIL has a disabled badge. MIL also has problems
walking.
AiBU to be pissed off by this? I feel it’s thoughtless at best. I also feel a bit like they don’t want us to come on their trip (but they invited us🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️)

@Chocolatewheatos

I wouldn't go. They don't seem to actually want to see you. Just that they feel a bit awkward that they're coming close after so long not visiting and still not visiting so have invited you to also holiday in the same place while not actually making any effort to compromise or work with you.

Yes and OP has picked up on it in her first post! OP as pp have said how do your PIL feel about going on their own?

*first post as well :D was agreeing with you chocolayte

I think they would go on their own even if we don’t go, as they really want to see their other grandchildren

@IDontLikeMondays88

I think they would go on their own even if we don’t go, as they really want to see their other grandchildren

Problem solved then!

"Hi BIL and SIL. It was a great idea to meet up in (country). But I've just looked up the place you've booked, and it will be unsuitable for PILs. You may not realise how much less mobile they are these days, and they'd really struggle there. I could book somewhere suitable for them, but it would be quite a distance away, so they wouldn't be able to see as much of you and the kids, which is what they're desperate for. Sharing accommodation with us, and away from you, is no treat for them. They see us all the time, but have missed you all dreadfully.
Is there any chance you can change your booking to somewhere that works for them?"

I wouldn't go not to that place.

If you really want to see them suggest another place they can join you at another week.