Confident Families

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My husband was wondering why me and my siblings are unusually confident. I think it was because we were exposed to lots of people from a young age. I think our parents had many and varied friends that were interested in us.

We also lived abroad for any years.

We were all very satisfied. We were all very pleased with ourselves.

Ok. Enjoy the laffs.

Apparently £30k a month earnings (beard) but not rich, many (many) attention-seeking selfies, labours apparently consisted of no pain whatsoever, supreme self confidence…

Interesting mix.

Oh, right - I’ve never heard of that. Never met anyone who’s had a totally painless birth. I thought it was not making any noise!

Although if I’d had a painless birth I’d be satisfied and pleased with myself too.

How do you know you’re in labour if there’s no pain?

@Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow

How do you know you’re in labour if there’s no pain?

google it, silent labour. I had prayed for one... alas

Me and my siblings are confident, too. It's in large part because we had to be. Our parents are lovely, but extremely timid, risk-averse, socially anxious people whose only ambition is to go on doing what they've always done, not to stand out in a crowd, and to be inoffensive. Having watched them be walked over by other people, and learning in early childhood not to worry our parents about anything wrong, because it wouldn't help, and would only make things worse because they were worried and still felt unable to intervene (I'm thinking about things like being bullied by a sadistic teacher in primary) -- we all learned to stand on our own feet at an early age, and are extremely confident adults.

Top Knob?

Brilliant. Even best at being a Knob.

I salute you OP.

I had silent labours too. Was crazily dangerous because my cervix doesn't dilate so my first and also my last could've died (along with me).

Every morning I come across such wonderfully "confident" people. They are the private school parents who drop their children off at the bus stop which is where the state school plebs also wait for the bus.

They are so "confident" that they block the road with their giant SUVs or Jaguars and then get out of the car, having dropped their children, to chat "confidently" to each other whilst being totally unaware that some of us plebs need to drop our kids off too.

I suspect from their behaviour that they are also extremely "pleased with themselves".

My daughter was described as 'quietly confident' in her most recent school report.

She may not volunteer for every task, put her hand up to every question, want to be front and centre of every play or approach teachers constantly for praise and validation.

He did say, however, how utterly confident in her own ability she was. She might not put her hand up, but he knew if he asked her she would know the answer. She would carry out any task given to her without fuss or needing hand holding. She's quietly exceeding all her targets.

But most importantly to me - she's kind and respectful. To both her teachers and her class mates. She will sit and help a friend with their work - even if that's at her own detriment. I'm so proud of her. At her yeah before lasts nativity, behind all the ballsy, extroverted kids at the front giving it bells - there she was at the very back singing along quietly and contently.

I won't ever push her to be more confident to or come out her shell more - she is enough just as she is :)

Well, this has been an entertaining read.
Still not sure what YABU or YANBU about though.

@Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow

How do you know you’re in labour if there’s no pain?

It feels a bit squeezy.

Just a tightening.

My first labour was a surprise. I was an obstetrics patient. It was my last appointment, I stood up, my waters broke and I was examined and 7cm dilated. I felt nothing. Really. And sat around waiting for something to happen. Crowning was very stingy for DS

DD, I felt a twinge, it was a planned home birth. The midwife came and had a look when I called her, 7cm again.

Two midwives came, I offered them tea. It was all very calm.

I felt a bit rubbish because there wasn't anything going on.

After about three hours I stood up and shouted 'fucking hell' the midwives were over the other side of the room. DD was just breathed out. DH says I fell to my knees, put my hands under, caught her and immediately put her on my breast.

It doesn't make me any better though. It is just something that happened.

To be fair, my first three births were very similar. No pain as such, silently breathed through the babies being pushed out of me while in my own little world. The fourth was excruciating hell on earth, fuck the pain was out of this universe. Not silent!

Anyway, digressed… you don’t really come across as overly confident in your responses. Kudos to you if you believe you are though. Being quietly confident is perhaps one of the greatest gifts. Being overly confident, thinking you’re the world's greatest gift usually = being arrogant. That’s not something to be proud of.