Confident Families

[ShrikeAttack]

My husband was wondering why me and my siblings are unusually confident. I think it was because we were exposed to lots of people from a young age. I think our parents had many and varied friends that were interested in us.

We also lived abroad for any years.

We were all very satisfied. We were all very pleased with ourselves.

I remember you. From the hair thread.

You shared many, many, many selfies.

Yep @LoveGrooveDanceParty that's the way it goes.

@ShrikeAttack

Yep *@LoveGrooveDanceParty* that's the way it goes.

What goes? Extreme confidence?

It's the way anything goes.

@GreyhoundG1rl stuff. Really.

What do you mean silent labour? Did you not make a noise the whole time? Is it a deliberate thing like a meditation type thing or did you just not feel the need to speak?

I think Scientologists have silent births, don’t they?

@Kanaloa, silent labour is not feeling any contractions. It's feeling nothing.

[quote ShrikeAttack]@Kanaloa, silent labour is not feeling any contractions. It's feeling nothing.[/quote]
And the baby just falls out, much to everyone's surprise?

@Ionlydomassiveones I'm neither rich not thick.

@PurpleOkapi.

Bit like that. I did breathe DD out, thanks to the wonderful midwives.

I am enjoying this, actually.

OP, thanks for the late night cheer.

Tedious.

@Nancydrawn.

Thank you.

@Rathmobhaile

I too think loudness and attention seeking behaviour is often mistaken for confidence when there are plenty of times it is actually a disguise for lack of confidence and almost a nervous and overwhelmed reaction to a situation and not confidence at all. I always think truly cobfident people are quietly so. Assertive when they need to be but in a firm way - not loud but not meek either. Confident people are very attractive people I think - as in they attract others to their company.

As for what makes a confident family - strong attachment as a child, ideally a strong nurturing environment - with the aim of building a resilient adult is what I think.

I agree, @Rathmobhaile. Someone who is truly confident with good self-esteem doesn't need to broadcast it, they're likely to be friendly and interested in other people, because they're content with themselves (inner peace, I suppose).

I think that supportive parents who aren't overly critical of you or other people can definitely build good self-esteem. Also encouraging children to try new things and understand that everyone has strengths and weakness. You're not a failure if you don't excel at everything, because no one does!

Absolutely wetting myself at ‘ I breathed it out’.

[quote ShrikeAttack]@PurpleOkapi.

Bit like that. I did breathe DD out, thanks to the wonderful midwives.[/quote]
Neat trick. I thought they came out the other end?

I did breath DD out with no labour pains at home.

I'm not sure why thats such a point of hilarity

That's how my daughter was born.

I do think, that for all your confidence, you’re definitely missing the sense of humour gene.

Sometimes there's a pack of social awareness and focusxon the self. I know a couple who genuinely don't seem to think about their family unless rhey are righ tthere in front of them. They come across just like OP, confident, but in a really odd way that seems to lack any self awareness. The self is wonderful dont ya know.

@LoveGrooveDanceParty

I remember you. From the hair thread.

You shared many, many, many selfies.

I just realised realised OP is also on the thread about large salaries with their £30k a month income (after tax obvs) but she's not rich..

Gah typos.

LACK of self awareness. This couple dont really consider anyone else but themselves and their "wonderful" life. They probably think they do. When they come over they just talk about themselves. Its hard work.

30k a month?!
Hmmm she said she's not rich so some discrepency there.m.

I do sometimes think my daughters ASD diagnosis is pertinent to me too..

Maybe our family's confidence is actually non-NT
behaviour.

It seems I try very hard not to be a wanker but only the people who truly know me understand that. Everyone else just thinks I'm a top.knob.

And that's ok. Maybe I am. I'm quite happy to accept I am just an absolute twat.

I must post at this point in my tedious manner to say that I’m only here for the giggles. 🍿