My 5 year old DC goes to a small school. Started in Sep. Very close knit community in the school, and definite cliques from the cohort that started just before my DC.
Now I am not for playground politics but something is really bugging me and I want to let it go. One of the other mums, who I have never had the chance to speak to, seems to have taken a dislike to me. She had done a couple of things that - to someone that notices everything despite being non chalant on the outside - were brusque or rude. Immediately after each interaction with me, she was effusive with another, mum who is not a newbie. It just pisses me off that she barely manages to rearrange her face into a 0.5 second smile when I try to say hello in passing - you can tell she didn't want to- yet is all sweetness and light with her friend behind me. In the whatsapp group she was really short with me then in the very next message, using loads of kisses to someone else. It made me feel a bit embarrassed to be honest.
If we had spoken even once I'd think, fine, she doesn't like me. Can't get on with everyone. But she seems to have taken a dislike to me from afar and I can't get past that! What is wrong with some people? There's a Christmas meetup soon and I am considering whether to go and force myself to strike up friendly conversation with her.... see what happens.
Why are some people such knobs though. I honestly try to be pleasant to everyone. Actually I dont try, it just happens. Not necessarily striking up big conversations or friendships, I value my own space too... but just a quick hello or a warm smile in passing. I do it, is it that hard for others? (Obviously knowing there are times when we all are distracted or have "off" days I get that). Or more to the point in in her case, how is it possible to dislike someone from afar??