To think my one year old goes to bed too late?

[Kickinguptheleaves]

Still up, and sometimes it is as late as 9, although mostly it’s around 8.

Am I a terrible mother?

Put them to bed earlier then

Mine usually went around 8-8.30. We didn’t get home from nursery until 6.30.

Our 19 month old grandchild is ready for bath and bed by 6.30 pm and sleeps 12 hours most nights but of course each child is different.

My one year old goes to bed any time between 7.30 and 9 depending on how naps have been that day. Any earlier and he'd be up at 5 (not fun for anyone). If it works for you don't stress about it at all. You're definitely not a bad mum

Of course you're not a terrible mother. What's their sleep schedule/day schedule?

Do what works for you and your family. I preferred a later bedtime and a later start in the morning. Those with older kids may have to be up earlier in the morning, as well as having a need for some peace and quiet by 7.30pm.

Why does it matter ? Does she have somewhere urgent to be in the morning?!

In Europe .ie Spain children go to bed very kate and have siestas. As long as your child's schedule works for you who cares ?

I think British babies go to bed early and wake up painfully early.

It only matters if you think it matters. Do you want them to go to bed earlier? Bedtimes are what suits us, really. If 9pm-8am works better for you than 7-6 or whatever then there's no issue.

At that age it makes no difference what time they go to bed as long as they are getting enough sleep. It only becomes an issue once they need to be up for school or nursery.

I think that’s fine. Since going back to work after my first mine have always gone to bed at 8-9. It’s just when we manage to get them to bed after dinner and bathtime.

I can't tell which way to vote as you've asked two different questions, but you are not a bad mum and YABU to think your 1yo goes to bed too late as long as the timings work for your family.

You probably do want to adjust it a bit - 7.30 is a good time. But it's not awful and you are not a terrible mother

My 2 year old goes to bed around 8/8 30. He naps from 1-3 still so needs a slightly later bedtime. He usually up at 7/7 30. This works perfectly for us (I'm a sahm so I really enjoy the daytime nap still!!)

If you think it’s too late, put him to bed earlier. If you don’t, keep doing what you’re doing.

It depends when they get up really. We both worked full time in central London when DD was little (have since moved areas and WFH). We were home at 7pm and earliest I could get her to bed was 9pm. She did nap more during the day. It was fine. As long as your LO gets enough sleep overall don't stress about it.

Depends if you work and what time he needs to be up

@waterrat

Why does it matter ? Does she have somewhere urgent to be in the morning?!

In Europe .ie Spain children go to bed very kate and have siestas. As long as your child's schedule works for you who cares ?

I think British babies go to bed early and wake up painfully early.

Agreed on your last point! A friend puts their baby (well 18month old) down at 6.30 religiously but they get up at 5 or earlier each day. Sod that! Give me a later bed time and a normal wake time any day! Plus we don't get in and have our evening meal until past 7 so I'd be fucked if I had a 6.30 bedtime to stick to

If you think its too late, put them to bed earlier?

Mine's always gone to bed at 8ish, and sometimes closer to 9 if he has a long nap or is extra hyper. It just works with our lifestyle - he's not home from nursery until gone 6.

He sleeps until 7/7.30 so it works for me!

Does it matter as long as he gets the right amount of sleep overall?

Do what works for you!
No point in putting them to bed early as they'll wake up early. Unless you prefer to have more evening time and an early morning.
We've never forced a bed time and he'll now ask to go to bed when he's tired ( it's rarely after 7:30) instead of doing the bed time fight which takes hours and sounds exhausting

Mine never went before 8, usually nearer to 9, dd1 was often still awake at midnight because she wasn't in nursery until 2.5

My four year old has always gone to bed around 8:30 - it has only crept forward to 7:45 now that he has started school and is home for tea earlier, and is more tired (used to be in nursery until 6pm).

I can’t imagine any child falling asleep at 6pm - obviously I know some do, but I find it really hard to imagine. Mine is still bouncing around and keen to play at that time.

I used to try and put DD to bed earlier, but she just. would. not. go. to. sleep.

I was envious of parents with 7 - 7 sleepers, but DD was never tired at bedtime, not even when she started primary school.

Sadly, as a young adult she now has CFS and falls alseep during lectures and exams

And yep DS doesn’t fight bedtimes, come downstairs in the night, or wake up at 5am. Civilised 7:30 wake up every morning.