To think my one year old goes to bed too late?

[Kickinguptheleaves]

Still up, and sometimes it is as late as 9, although mostly it’s around 8.

Am I a terrible mother?

@LBOCS2

Mine have always gone to bed at around 8 and they sleep through to 7.30-8ish. I don't want them getting up early, so this suits me!

Think of us poor parents whose toddlers go to bed at 9pm and get up at 5am 😭. He does have suspected ASD though.

Well I must be the worlds worst because my 1year old is still running around and probably will for another hour. My husband is wfh so she can sleep for as long as she likes in the morning and his mum comes to pick her up when she’s up. She has 2 good naps as well so it works for us

Mine is nearly 2 and whatever time I start the milk/bath/book/teeth routine he falls asleep between 8pm and 8.30pm.

He normally naps from 12.30pm or 2 hours, but even if he an earlier or later or longer or shorter nap for whatever reason he still falls asleep at the same time for the night. If I put him into bed earlier than that he'll just chat to himself or start calling for me until his normal sleep time. He wakes up between 6.45 and 7.15am.

It seems to just be the way his body clock works, and as above his total sleep seems to be within the normal range and he doesn't seem tired or grouchy in the day, so we just go with it.

@Spottybotty20 reading through the thread, I was thinking the same. Mine are now older, but at that age they weren't in bed before 10

No you are not a terrible mother. Dd used to go bed pretty early but Ds was always a nightmare and would be up until 8-9pm at that age. It got a little easier when he dropped naps but keeping him awake past 5pm then become a nightmare for a while. It gets easier when they are in school 😅

Why on earth do you think you're a terrible mother? Get a grip lol

My 22mo old has been going to bed at 8pm since she was 4mo. My 4mo goes to get at 8:30pm and probably will until she's a teenager (I can hope).

One of mine had an hours nap around 5pm. Their dad didn’t get home from work until 6:30pm so my LO went to bed around 8:30. They sat with us at the dinner table and we ate as a family.

Honestly I dont think it matters OP!

Nope, completely fine. Why people are obsessed with absurdly early bed times is beyond me.

My 20month is still awake at 21.34 and will drop of when ready I'm not forcing him to sleep, some days he's asleep by 7pm I'd rather him go to sleep relaxed and happy rather then stressed and forced, my girls have always been good sleepers and are asleep before 8pm most nights

@waterrat

Why does it matter ? Does she have somewhere urgent to be in the morning?!

In Europe .ie Spain children go to bed very kate and have siestas. As long as your child's schedule works for you who cares ?

I think British babies go to bed early and wake up painfully early.

Well if they are at nursery from 8.30am they have to be up early. So they need their 12 hours sleep which would be 6pm for 6am wake up or 7.30 for a 7.30 and so on

Mine goes to bed around 9pm. Doesn't bother me as he will wake up after 7am and I prefer him to wake later in the morning. All kids are different and there's no chance whatsoever no matter what I've tried for him to sleep any earlier than 8pm max, so I just go with it now.

Mine always went at 8pm.

No, you are not a bad mother.
No, your DC does not go to bed too late.

Every child is different. My friend's DD is 1 years old. She goes to bed at 6.30pm, sleeps for 12 hours and wakes at 6.30am.

My DC is 10 months old. She falls asleep between 8pm and 9.30pm most nights. Sometimes a little earlier, sometimes a little later. She usually wakes around 7am or 7.30am. She usually has a late morning nap (around 11.30am) and a late afternoon nap.

I don't agree with those saying "put them to bed earlier then" ....if I placed my DC down in their cot earlier than usual, they'd just cry!

Do whatever suits you OP. If it would suit you to have your DC go to bed earlier, perhaps wake them earlier in the morning, or shorten their naps times.

My just turned one year old sleeps around 8pm. I'm guilty of letting him sleep on the sofa next to me sometimes when I'm knackered after work (single parent now) and can then eat some food, watch married at first sight Australia etc. he'll go to bed properly when I do but sleep with me next to him

We did bed at 1900 because dts couldn't cope with more, they were early risers. Friends didn't 2100 or later because their kids actually slept past 5am. Completely depends on what works for you.

Nah. Mine was around 7.45/8 at age 1. It’s creeped up to 8.30 now at 2. She naps 1.30-3.30 though but doesn’t always need the nap and she still is late to bed. She sleeps through until 7 or later most mornings. People are horrified sometimes but she’s at nursery 3 days per week and not back until 6pm and will be the same once at school. I recently got warned by an someone about how late it was then he boasted his grandson goes to be bed at 7pm but lies there awake for hours🤷‍♀️ Only in the UK is this such an issue I find.

I think with babies it more important that they get enough hours. My one year old sleeps from 6pm to 6.30am with one quick wake up. We’ve tried everything to get her to sleep later but she isn’t having it. As long as they get from 11-14 hours sleep I don’t think it matters.

Both my kids, 7 and 2, go to bed at 8, works for us.

Both my children has similar bed times at similar ages. Not that it really mattered anyway, they still woke every couple of hours anyway

So she wakes up between 6 and 7, usually naps for 2-3 hours in the day.

The problem is I go to bed not long after her so don’t get much time to myself!

Mine has always gone to bed at 9 and woken up at 7:30 with at least 1-3 naps in the day. Provided he’s sleeping at least 14 hours in total per day it’s fine.

If it works for your family and your child is getting enough sleep overall then don’t worry about it. When mine was a baby, about 5-6 months old, she would fall asleep at 5.45pm on the dot and sleep for about 13 hours. I used to worry myself about it because even if she was in the middle of a bottle, she would just conk out at the same time. I used to try and get her bottle in her before then but she was also a slowwww feeder.

Now she’s 6 and most nights she goes to bed at 8pm but it’s rare she’s asleep before 9pm. I have to wake her in the morning for school but she gets up fine once awake and it doesn’t affect her negatively. She also seems to sleep really deeply so I guess she’s getting what she needs.

Things probably change according to need but there’s no need to change it for the sake of it. You’re not a bad mum at all.

It's fine don't worry

Mine has always gone to bed between 8-9 occasionally later. He is 2.5 now and along with his afternoon nap he has 11-12 hours per day which is fine. Just do what works for you and your child