my MIL wants me to tell the kids that HER presents come from her and not Santa?

[supadoula]

My DC are 2 and 4 and for the first time I have invited my family and DH family over for Xmas. My MIL phoned today and said that she's got a sackful of presents for DD (when we told her that the rule was 2 presents max!) and hence (probably because she spent a lot of money...) would like me to tell the kids that the presents come from her!
My DC being small I think that it would spoil the magic just a bit!!! I don't want to create a diplomatic incident but I also find it hard to agree with her!!
Shall I tell the kids the presents come from Granny's santa???
Any help on this thorny sensitive issue appreciated!!

I imagine I will be the same as a grandmother tbh. I think my mother scrimped and saved so hard when we were younger that now she has a large disposable income she just loves to treat everyone

YABU. It won't spoil the magic if the children are told that Graany brought the presents.It was always the rule in our house that Father Christmas just brings stocking stuff ( well actually a father Christmas bag). Everything else comes from us and relatives. My brother and sister do the same with their children. That is what my parents did when we were children.
I found doing it this way the children believed longer and it taught them to give to others.

Tis a cultural thing Supadoula.
I have the opposite problem - I'm British, living in France with a French DP, and I HATE the fact that ALL the presents come from 'santa'.
As others have said, how do they learn about giving to other people, the pleasure of choosing/making a gift for someone, knowing Granny (or whoever) gave them that present, saying thankyou, writing a thankyou letter...you see what I mean.
I feel it's really confusing too(well it is for me anyway!) The presents brought by auntie whatsit were left at her house by santa, yet the grown ups are all saying thankyou/do you like it/is it the right size? etc to eachother - you'd have to be a pretty dim kid not to realise that santa's not real. Whereas santa coming in the night and filling a stocking when everyones asleep - hell, I believe that!

Forgot to say, from the British side of the fence, YABU not to want Granny's presents to come from Granny, but maybe the 'sackful' when it should have been one or two is the real problem.

Sorry I haven't read the whole thread, in this house everything is from santa. This may change as they get older but for now it is so magical. My MIL would not agree to this so we don't go there for xmas anymore, they are my children so it is my choice to make our family traditions. This was how it alwasy was for me and I found it so magical. Ok when they stop believing then they have to thank people but isn't seeing them enjoying their presents thanks enough.

In our house the presents from all the Grandparents, Aunts Uncles etc all sit under the tree, and the presents from Santa go in a sack on the sofa. That way the DSes know they get presents from other people as well

My Brother's partner's children have always been told that all presents come from Father Christmas. This means that they never say thank you for any of their presents. I find it really rude to be honest.

I think a compromise would be good. Maybe small presents in a stocking or pillow case from Father Christmas, all other family presents from the person who bought them?

Yup FC brings the stocking & that's all. All other gifts are from the giver - not sure that I like the idea that everything appears by magic. People put time, effort, thought, love & money into giving gifts & they should be thanked not the beardy one

For us FC is a delivery service for parents and any other memebers of the family who wish to use him (almost all at the moment, lol). He will bring his own gift too. The others are labelled to say who they have come from.

How else would you do thank you letters/telephone calls?

We don't have any of DD's presents undder the tree in advance. Some of mine and DHs may go under, but I won't put my main gift out untl he has disappeared on Christmas Eve to bed - don't want him guessing!

There are presents from santa, which DH and I buy and then there are presents from family and DC are told that. However what irritates me is that MIL always wants the kids to open their presents when she brings them over and not actually wait for the day. She is going away this Christmas so is coming over this weekend and actually lied to DH telling him that I said it was ok for the kids to open them. I am really against presents being opened before Christmas.

what happens when there list is huge and comes to hundreds of pounds don't think santa will be helping u

Santa just delivers the presents in this house. It doesn't spoil the magic because (a) Santa still comes and (b) she sees us wrapping presents for other people which then disappear to "go to Santa".

We have never told dd that her presents are from Santa because I always thought that she would find it hard to understand why the only person dh and I don't buy a present for is her ...

Supadoula, that's interesting to know, I hadn't realised that in France ALL presents were from Santa. How does that work out with people you go visit on Boxing day (for example).

Stockings are from Santa, presents are from RL people. Now I just need to persuade dh to take that line.

Those of you who have Santa delivering presents. How come Santa doesn't deliver all the presents? i.e. what about the presents you get after Christmas when you visit other peoples houses. Why does Santa not deliver those ones straight to the dcs on Christmas day?

x-post, and much simpler put.