Sister's boyfriend and his karaoke obsession.

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Sister has a boyfriend who I don't like but put up with to keep her happy. They are coming for Christmas staying with our parents. For the first time we are at ours for Christmas which I am pleased about. He has apparently paid to hire a karaoke machine for Christmas day. I hate karaoke I would have to leave the house for the day. He is planning on setting up in my hallway which is the main access to the rest of the house. The thought of not being able to talk for listening to him singing droney songs makes me mad. Ive told him no he is pissed off now he and my sister who I do want to see aren't coming. She is pissed off at me because I said no politely. I just said it'll be too much. Apparently it was a special treat and he has paid hundreds that he can't get back.
Unreasonable behaviour on my part or not?

@Namechangedforthethousandthtim

He's tried to do a nice and fun thing and you've spoiled it by being controlling and a killjoy. It's not all about you? You could compromise.

But he didn’t even ask anyone else what they thought? It’s fun for him and he presumed everyone else would feel the same way.

It’s pretty odd to shell out all that (non refundable) money without even asking.

Yanbu.

If feeling generous I'd offer a compromise and say he can do it from 12-3 and 7-8 or whatever. I'd also insist it was set up somewhere out of the way (not the hall)

Who pays hundreds to hire karaoke equipment to use on Christmas Day in someone else’s house?

That’s just utterly weird.

Yabu to say no to anyone's plans it should be a group decision and some give and take. I expect karaoke would have been a turn or 2 later in the evening rather than on the whole day.

Has he got an ‘obsession’ or has he just hired a machine this one time?

If you don’t like him though, you’d have probably been annoyed if he turned up with two stone of the world’s best chocolates, or a case of champagne.

He sounds irritating as fuck. I can possibly get it for Hogmanay because folk are in all night party mode for that! But Christmas Day is different. I’d be up to high doe if someone rocked up with that on Christmas Day, and I do like a bit of karaoke!

Tell him to grow the fuck up.

Im not controlling I really just can't stand karaoke at all. The problem is that the only space the could put it is the hallway which doesn't have any furniture. The only other rooms are the kitchen and living room!
To the poster talking about this making me look like the bad guy, it had crossed my mind. Her last boyfriend abusive so its a good point. He is planning on an all day option for anywho wants to sing. Is just not something any of us are into. He just wants to drone himself.

Honestly OP he sounds like a dick.

He works in a karaoke bar as he loved it that much!

Hes made it all about him. If he wants a karaoke machine then HE should host. Its as simple as that and he's being very rude and self centred.

Oh he is annoying. I bet he’s the sort of host who will just hog the mic himself pretending that no one is putting requests in, so that everyone has to hear him sing his country music songs. Actually Derek, Sheena put in her request to sing Turn Back Time about 45 minutes ago! Tosser.

I bet he can sing or at least thinks he can. Showing off? No thought for those of us who can't sing a note and would be mortified at having to sing in public?

Whatever it is, it's your house and you hosting, so he should respect your wishes.

I love karaoke but would never just hire it to someone else's house without asking. Let alone at a special holiday.

Get your sister a new boyfriend for Christmas!

I don't mind a bit of karaoke at the end of a night after a few drinks, but no way would I have it set up all bloody day in my hall! YANBU at all, your sister is a bit of a twit - presumably he mentioned it to her and she gave him the go ahead to book it?

It's your house. He can't book something for your house. Especially not something as irritating as a karaoke machine. Doesn't sound like he's much of a singer either.

he's bringing it to your house? that would be a hard no from me. Any other place? have at it.

YANBU. He sounds like the type of pratt who assumes everyone must love 'X' because he does.

If you go to someone's house for Christmas, they host and you accept you won't have Christmas 100% how you expect it.

YANBU. Your house, your rules. He can set it up at your parents and do it before and after they visit you. As a guest n someone’s house you don’t assume you can take something like karaoke with you

If they don’t come that’s up to them.

If the boyfriend paid hundreds for a karaoke machine to put in someone else's house, more fool him. He can probably swap his booking to another day.

Big fat no from me and if i meant my sister not coming for dinner, so be it. Imagine the bloody racket on xmas day. All day. Ergh.

What a twat

Well done, OP.

Karaoke is one of the circles of hell. Boring.

How big is it if it only fits in the hall and he's paid hundreds to hire it? I'm thinking disco lights, 4 ft speakers, dry ice and possibly a strobe?

The indignation and flouncing is the dodgy behaviour to pay attention to.

If a normal person inadvertently got carried away and crossed a bounds with a host - they would be apologetic and be respectful to their host.

This knob takes it as a green light to cause conflict and split a family up on Christmas Day.

It’s likely his aim to alienate and isolate - is that a pattern of behaviour?

If it wasn’t the karaoke machine it would have been some other “perceived slight”.

Don’t rise to it / him.

But deal with your DSis off-line one to one.