I had a day annual leave today didn’t tell my family

[Mylittlesecret10021]

I had some of half term off last week. I wfh and my other half goes into the office so leaves 8am and is back around 6.30-7pm. My mum usually see’s my nana so will sometimes pop in for a tea during the week at random times. I just wanted a day to myself to do whatever I wanted without expectations or interruptions. I thought if my mum knew she would defiantly be over and I couldn’t use the excuse of being busy at work. I ended up doing some cleaning and tidying, long dog walk, some shopping and watching the end of the bbc drama showtrial. It was bliss. Is it bad I didn’t mention in advance? It just didn’t come up in conversation and tbh my other half does a sport on a Monday evening so only seen him for 5 mins and he didn’t ask how my day was.

We all need a TLC day every now and then. Definitely not unreasonable

Brilliant idea. We are totally allowed to have time to ourselves - even if we have to lie about it sometimes.

Sounds perfect

YADNBU

I think it's strange not to mention it to your partner but why would you feel you need to tell your mum?

I've done this before, not told a soul. It was bliss!

YANBU, I’ve done this and it’s bliss

Well they pick up my son on a Monday and we speak daily so she would usually ask about my day. I just didn’t get into with her. I knew if she knew I was off she would come round and I just wanted to be left alone.

Tbh I would of told my partner but the day came along and we were just in the usual routine of getting ready this morning and it didn’t come up. If he asked what I had on today as sometimes does then I would of said actually I’m off!

I’ve got a day off tomorrow and I’ve cancelled my cleaner and told my husband to go to the office. Kids in school- I’m so excited I cant remember the last time I was fully alone, we all need some time to ourselves.

@Capricornqueen86 it felt like I was wagging school 🤣

Oh, I’d love to have a secret day off! Unfortunately, DH is WFH so it’s difficult…although I could pretend to go to work and do something instead. 🤣 Don’t feel guilty about it, OP!

I am so jealous. WFH DH taking his first post covid work trip this week and I cleared two days to be at home. Then DS taking uni placement exams, one from home. Not only will I not be alone, I’ll have anxious exam taker around needing lifts.

I would love to be alone. We’ll done OP.

I honestly do not understand feeling a moments guilt for this.

Everyone needs some alone time.

@Mylittlesecret10021

Well they pick up my son on a Monday and we speak daily so she would usually ask about my day. I just didn’t get into with her. I knew if she knew I was off she would come round and I just wanted to be left alone.

Tbh I would of told my partner but the day came along and we were just in the usual routine of getting ready this morning and it didn’t come up. If he asked what I had on today as sometimes does then I would of said actually I’m off!

Did they pick up your son today?

Sounds lovely! Not at all unreasonable; more power to you! 😁

@TupilaLilium

I am so jealous. WFH DH taking his first post covid work trip this week and I cleared two days to be at home. Then DS taking uni placement exams, one from home. Not only will I not be alone, I’ll have anxious exam taker around needing lifts.

I would love to be alone. We’ll done OP.

I feel your pain@TupilaLilium. DH was away last week and I planned to WFH as much as possible just to be alone for a few hours. Then DD caught a nasty cold ( didn’t test positive for Covid, just a normal head cold) and she gave it to DS! So they each had a day off school during my “alone” time! Now I’ve got the cold. 😂

YANBU, but I looked after my grandchild last month on my day off while my daughter said she was working, and I saw her clothes shopping in the middle of the day, so I was well conned! Wasn't bloody happy, but as long as you weren't taking advantage of anyone, yes, crack on 😀

Not unreasonable. Don't tell DH, but I've done this every so often for years! I had a secret afternoon off a couple of weeks ago to meet my sister and just have a seaside walk, a coffee and chill time. DH just wouldn't understand. Enjoy!

I read a quote a few days ago which said 'people shouldn't interpret your free time as you being available' which really stuck with me. I work full time and the weekend is when I recharge. I have a friend who doesn't understand this and thinks I'm being rude when I don't see them (they don't work) . I want to use my free time to do what I love, read, knit and bake at home after 50 hours of a very busy job throughout the week.

You deserve tlc without anyone around. I hope you had a lovely day!

YANBU, except for making me sooooooo jealous!! I would love a day like this!

I have secret days off and they are bliss. Try and do another but without house work. Go to cinema, have a coffee/lunch, meet a friend. If you get found out just say it was a last minute thing

Why lie? Your mum, fine (unless she was picking your child up today thinking you were at work and then not fine), but your partner? No. That’s weird. Having the day to yourself is great. Lying about it is not.

Why have I never thought of this - brilliant idea!

I took a day off once and bought a Groupon health spa day to go with my friend- it was bliss

Sounds lovely.
But you should be able to have a day like this if people know you’re off too. You can say no to your mum coming around.

Bet it was nice though. Sounds chilled.

I did this today. Cleared out the garage and went to the tip then spent the afternoon watching what I wanted to on TV. It was bliss.

As long as it doesn't impact on family leave necessities for your DCs between you and your DP, YANBU.