I had a day annual leave today didn’t tell my family

[Mylittlesecret10021]

I had some of half term off last week. I wfh and my other half goes into the office so leaves 8am and is back around 6.30-7pm. My mum usually see’s my nana so will sometimes pop in for a tea during the week at random times. I just wanted a day to myself to do whatever I wanted without expectations or interruptions. I thought if my mum knew she would defiantly be over and I couldn’t use the excuse of being busy at work. I ended up doing some cleaning and tidying, long dog walk, some shopping and watching the end of the bbc drama showtrial. It was bliss. Is it bad I didn’t mention in advance? It just didn’t come up in conversation and tbh my other half does a sport on a Monday evening so only seen him for 5 mins and he didn’t ask how my day was.

This is my day today!
Although I haven’t ‘advertised’ clearing my dosry, I have done just that. I am having breakfast in bed watching things I love. Choosing a winter wardrobe on line. Have a bath and enjoy some silence.
I see this as essential to protecting my mental health and preventing burn out, so good on you op.

Diary

I hadn’t seen the other thread. I think I felt guilty as I didn’t mention it to my partner and that’s what feels off. We’ve been hectic and away last week and it’s just not come up. For those that mentioned I have loads of annual leave and work is flexible for anything urgent I might need off if it came to it.

I don’t want to go into loads of details but given some circumstances I know my partner would not of be begrudge me doing it. He would actually be happy it had the desired impact. It helped my mental health not to have and build up of pressure to the day and I did some jobs for us I have wanted to do.

For some it seems this is a regular thing and I would defiantly do this again if only once a year.

In regard to grandparents I pay for a weekly driving range visit with coffees and cakes which they love and happens to be a Monday so I didn’t interfere with that because it’s something they enjoy doing so they picked my son up and went there.

I suppose it’s shown we don’t discuss our days in great detail some days but Mondays are generally manic and we don’t really see each other much to discuss anything.

In that case, then I think you did a great thing and shouldn't feel guilty! I mean, I'd tell my partner, but I certainly wouldn't tell my mum. I asked about childcare because it was unclear whether it was a favor or fun; this clearly sounds fun.

My friend has a rule to take 10% of annual leave for herself, however that best suits. Sometimes she saves it up and goes away for a long weekend with friends; sometimes she just takes quiet days by herself; occasionally there's a spa day. It keeps her feeling grounded, sane, and happy.