To have objected to this parking? Diagram attached!

[Runinwithangryvet]

Parking thread! I've NC for this. Partly because I am perhaps the unreasonable party. We'll see shall we!?

So this morning, I look out of the front window to see a car parked outside the house, overhanging our drive enough to make it difficult but not impossible for me to get out of the drive. Diagram attached! Very annoying etc etc, but not the end of the world. Or so I thought.

When I went to actually leave the house, another car had parked on the other side of our drive. This second car had parked legitimately with no overhang. However with both cars parked as they were there was not enough space for me to get off the drive. I had to leave house within the hour.

Here's where I potentially am the unreasonable one. I peeked in the back window of the overhanging car. Lots of vet textbooks all over back seat. Well...we happen to live about 100m from a vets. So, I call them. Very polite, give reg no, ask could could it possibly be a member of their staff. If so, could they possibly move car. Etc.

Very shortly after the phone call, a lady scampers up the road into car and drives off. I then realise that between my call and her arrival, the second car has moved. Meaning that at the time she moved her car, I could have got off my drive. Ok with difficulty, but it would not have been impossible! Unless/until another car came and parked on other side of the drive again, of course.

Anyway, fast forward several hours and I'm walking my baby to sleep around the local park. My phone goes and it is our doorbell camera. She's come knocking on the door. Oh! I thought; an apology! I answered the door from the park (thank God).

It transpires she most certainly was not knocking on the door to apologise but instead to tell me she was NOT blocking me in, I COULD HAVE got off drive, she moved the car around the corner AND NOW HAS BEEN GIVEN A PARKING TICKET FOR BLOCKING ANOTHER DROPPED KERB! Oh, and she is VERY BUSY saving the lives of animals and could I PLEASE bear that in mind in future.

I've not previously used my doorbell camera to have a row in the park with someone I've never met, but there's a first time for everything I suppose.

I mean, I'm an animal lover and all that but I also like to be able to move my car should the need arise. So! WIBU to call her work and get her to move her car? 😁

@Tinkywinkydinkydoo

How did the convo go when you answered?

It was basically me starting off conciliatory, her launching into a rant about how I could have got off drive, me promising her I couldn't get out, her eye rolling and telling me how busy and important she is etc... we went around in circles for a while until I said we'd have to agree to disagree and said a very forceful and indignant "goodbye!" and put my phone away.

Only problem was the app crashed and hadn't closed properly, so I had her voice coming out of my handbag for about 10 seconds after my dramatic goodbye

Justheretoaskaquestion91, there was a form on our local council website under parking!

Only problem was the app crashed and hadn't closed properly, so I had her voice coming out of my handbag for about 10 seconds after my dramatic goodbye

Honestly OP, you didn't even flounce properly

LOOOOVE the idea of her speaking from the depths of your handbag OP!

@cjpark

Excellent diagram OP 10/10 for clarity. The vet is a CF. You are completely right to be riled by her behaviour. I would also be ringing the the vet practice and asking to speak to the clinical lead to inform him of her actions and request that he has a word with her.

So you assume that the clinical lead is male? Big assumption on your part. FYI there are female Veterinary Surgeons female clinical leads and shock horror even females who own and run their own Veterinary Practise. I am one and have my own Veterinary practise.

Irrelevant what their occupation is, whoever parks like that is a CF. I would be happy to have a chat with the OP

FYI there are female Veterinary Surgeons female clinical leads and shock horror even females who own and run their own Veterinary Practise

What??! How can this be - when did universities allow women to become vets?

She’s a CF - who the hell cares what she does for a living? Parking rules apply to everyone - I’m pretty sure the Highway Code doesn’t say ‘don’t park across dropped curbs - apart from vets who are definitely allowed to do this’.

Karma is a wonderful thing though - you’re not the one paying a parking ticket OP. Think on that lovely thought and enjoy the little warm glow it gives you when you think of her ranty wee face on your phone screen

Yanbu at all and you know it OP

She was clearly illegally parked over a dropped kerb and at the time you rang vet surgery you couldn't get your car off your drive as another car had parked legally the other side

Regardless of which blocked kerb she parked over, she got a ticket because she was illegally parked! No point in taking it out on you as she would have got a ticket for where she parked anyway had she not moved it

She clearly doesn't know her Highway Code.

Like you've planned to, I'd leave it for now but Yih are perfectly within your rights to ring up vet surgery if she does it again. You can't control when other people legally park the other side of your drive and she doesn't care who she blocks in. Being a vet is no excuse. Nurses GPs on call and carers can't do this either. Only ambulances or fire engines on emergency calls get away with parking over dropped kerbs

I have a drive that people love to overhang, despite the dropped kerb, most likely with the opinion that I can just about scrape out, with great difficulty. I just don't get when it became so common to be so inconsiderate towards people. I hate to inconvenience anyone, I would be so apologetic if I had unwittingly made anyone's life more difficult. But, there's an ever increasing part of society why 1) don't care and 2) are indignant and argumentative if challenged. It's really sad. Just because you can doesn't mean you should.

Most vet surgeries I know have allocated spaces onsite for their vets to park in. Same as GP surgeries.

@Changemusthappen

10/10 for diagram 0/10 for car likeness, I thought a Fiat 500

The only thing I would have done differently was not to row with her. I would have calmly repeated what she said (like i was talking to a child) eg. 'so you got a ticket for parking over a dropped kerb' and then calmly said 'well there you go, you were clearly wrong by parking over my dropped curb and the other, you are the weakest link, goodbye'

Lastly, people cannot go around breaking the rules because they think they are 'special'. Frankly everyone seems to think they are special these days so it's even more important we stick to the rules re parking etc otherwise it will be carnage.

What you would have said is also arguing though change

And that’s fine, arguing is fine.

Oh for God’s sake, talk about not taking responsibility for your own actions! Just don’t block a drive.

Two things:

1. Wouldn't she have got a parking ticket anyway, even if you hadn't asked her to move, as she was overhanging your dropped curb?

1. Do you have a pet? If so, is there alternative vet practice?

@NailsNeedDoing

It does seem a bit unfair that she was the one who was inconvenienced when there was nothing wrong with her parking but the person who was parked badly had no consequences. I’d be pissed off if I were her too tbh, she didn’t do anything wrong you just took the easy option (for you) by calling her work.

Eh? The vet was over the dropped kerb so was parked badly

@cjpark

Excellent diagram OP 10/10 for clarity. The vet is a CF. You are completely right to be riled by her behaviour. I would also be ringing the the vet practice and asking to speak to the clinical lead to inform him of her actions and request that he has a word with her.

Quite right, tell THE MAN of the practice to get his silly women under control.

Honestly 🙄🙄🙄

Best diagram ever!!

Her job has nothing to do with this and doesn't give her Carte Blanche to park inconsiderately

She's v unreasonable for trying to guilt trip you and blame you for her poor choices

1. I think so but am now unsure because of the grey area around the sloping kerb stones raised by a PP. She was wholly over one of the sloping stones and partially over a flat stone.

1. I was thinking the opposite actually, quite tempted to book my rabbits in for a nail trim now! Would take great pleasure in her reading my address on the paperwork. The advantage of making myself look like a tit in the park by arguing via doorbell camera is she doesn't know what I look like

@Runinwithangryvet

1. I think so but am now unsure because of the grey area around the sloping kerb stones raised by a PP. She was wholly over one of the sloping stones and partially over a flat stone.

1. I was thinking the opposite actually, quite tempted to book my rabbits in for a nail trim now! Would take great pleasure in her reading my address on the paperwork. The advantage of making myself look like a tit in the park by arguing via doorbell camera is she doesn't know what I look like

Sorry this was in response to @BlackAmericanoNoSugar

Her reasoning is such bullshit. I hate people who do this, it doesn't matter if you can squeeze out of your drive or not, no one has the right to block a drive like this. When I moved into my house there were a bunch of visitors to the houses either side who would park like this regardless of the fact there was space for them not to. And I was told several times that they would move in 'just a minute'. I explained clearly that my leaving my drive was not at their convenience and there was no excuse for them to do what they did. The message eventually got through. I have an elderly parent and if he falls over I need to get out asap, but I don't need to explain that or beg for them to park legally. The only vehicle where this may be remotely ok is an ambulance engaged in a life and death situation. This woman is a self important fuck wit. Sounds like she is a student vet and some of them are just too important for words. I would go back to the vet surgery, talk to the practice manager or the main vet and explain that this is completely unacceptable.

If she was adamant she was not blocking you why did she move! She was angry she got a ticket and was looking for someone to blame.

@Whereismumhiding3

Most vet surgeries I know have allocated spaces onsite for their vets to park in. Same as GP surgeries.

This. Her behaviour in returning to harass you was beyond the pale, however it’s not impossible there were mitigating factors for her bad parking, at least. Does the clinic do its own on call, or might she have been coming from another clinic with a short turnaround time before her first appointment? If she had very limited time to find a space, she might have panicked and dumped and run.

I’m also a vet and I know lots of vets in the UK are massively struggling at the moment. I know lots of other people are too, but being a vet is tough enough already without being short-staffed, which many clinics are.

Ultimately, her employers should be ensuring there is enough space for their employees to park, in my opinion. Her behaviour in coming round to blame you was 100% wrong though. What happened was in no way your fault and returning to shout at you was completely inappropriate.

Crikey - what an entitled idiot she is. She's not driving an emergency vehicle and she clearly had enough time to get to your house and shout her head off. Perhaps if she turned up earlier for work she'd have the pick of the legitimate parking spots or even get onto the vets car park if they have one.

It's not your fault that she parked like a dickhead, twice

If she had very limited time to find a space, she might have panicked and dumped and run.

That would explain (but not excuse) the bad parking. But if she's so busy, how does she have time to phone the OP and verbally abuse her? It's hard to imagine what is so urgent that it can't wait 5 minutes for walking a bit further..after all the op could have to go somewhere urgent too and might have had to wait much longer than 5 minutes to get out.

@SnackSizeRaisin

If she had very limited time to find a space, she might have panicked and dumped and run.

That would explain (but not excuse) the bad parking. But if she's so busy, how does she have time to phone the OP and verbally abuse her? It's hard to imagine what is so urgent that it can't wait 5 minutes for walking a bit further..after all the op could have to go somewhere urgent too and might have had to wait much longer than 5 minutes to get out.

From what the OP wrote, I assumed she came back when her shift was ending. There’s no excuse for that. Bad day or not, none of it was the OPs fault.