Are there any jobs without gossipy and bitching staff?

[Romantique]

Sometimes feel like there aren’t, I know it’s also due to my lack of assertiveness and potentially the fact that I’m quiet.

In one job, I had a girl who kept making comments that I was ‘posh’ just because I don’t have the local accent I think, but for instance once I swore as something had exploded in the room, and she said ‘Wow, I thought you’d be too posh to swear’ or ‘I thought you were too posh to use that word’

In my current job, there is a girl I work with every so often. She was talking about a colleague of ours saying “Don’t you think she smells really bad.” I genuinely hadn’t noticed and even if I did I wouldn’t say something like that about someone so I said I didn’t know. She kept trying to goad me and saying come on, you must have noticed it.

I have short hair and like to change the colour and style often. She asked me if I were somebody who liked to experiment with different hairstyles. I said yes and she said “So is that why you’ve not got any hair left?”

She seems to mention every time that clients are ‘really happy to see her’ and I think it’s an insecurity thing really.
I may be overly sensitive but there are people like this in most jobs I’ve had, usually quite young.

I have to work closely with these people on occasion so ignoring them is difficult. Am I being overly sensitive, does anyone else have this ?

I've never worked in a bitchy/ gossipy environment (professional role). When my dh tells me how people speak to each other in his workplace I can't believe it (manufacturing). I have never experienced or witnessed someone speaking to someone the way my dh tells me.

@Starseeking

Yes *@Gwenhwyfar*, they're too busy to engage in unproductive, mean conversations, we don't have that kind of workplace culture. They've got time to have chit chat to pass the time of day though

So it's not about being too busy then? It's about the workplace culture.

[quote Leavisite]@Gwenhwyfar, no, not in the least in the situations I’m thinking of. I’d be surprised if an unpleasant word was spoken by the bully/bullies, it was more things like influencing committee/review decisions about career progression, unfair workloads, sidelining, exclusions from meetings at which something key to their work was discussed etc.[/quote]
Well, I'd call that being a bitch/bastard even if it's not bitching about someone in the sense of talking behind someone's back.

Depends a lot on the people, but it's nothing to do with sex, education, technical roles or anything else. It can happen anywhere. It's useful to know who the gossips are, but you don't have to reciprocate with other gossip, nor to pass it on further.

Of course, when men do it, it's networking and sharing of potentially useful information, not gossip.

Dont know if anyone has said this, but I always worked with men no gossiping or bitching ! ( Fire service) You have to tune out the footie talk though

@thereisonlyoneofme

Dont know if anyone has said this, but I always worked with men no gossiping or bitching ! ( Fire service) You have to tune out the footie talk though

I think the fire service are in a league of their own personally, I don't know why but I've never met anyone who works for them who isn't just a nice person 🤷‍♀️

I can say I’ve worked in professional roles and each time have met some very rude individuals

I'm the only woman in work. Bliss.

Its the same everywhere. I publicly shame them when they do it.
After a while they say nothing in front of me which suits me just fine, I don't want to hear it.

Every workplace I have worked in has had gossip and bitchiness to some extent.

I remember once that everyone thought a colleague had made an (easily fixable) error on a shared worksheet. Another colleague remarked that she'd be mortified if she had made that mistake. After a bit of a kerfuffle it was found out that mortified colleague had made the error, not the colleague everyone thought had made the error.

I like to think she learnt a lesson that day but I suspect she didn't.

@RicherThanYew

Hmm, possibly a groundskeeper at a cemetery?

@Sillawithans

I'm the only woman in work. Bliss.

I’ve worked in various teams that this was the case. The men did it too

I worked in an environment with mainly men. No gossip but they bullied and wound each other up relentlessly.

I’m a journalist and work in a busy regional newsroom of mostly women. It’s wonderful. Everyone is passionate and smart and cares about their jobs. due to the nature of the work people try hard to support each other. It’s different in larger newsrooms though, more competitive which brings out the egos.

Best way is not to get involved in it. We have one girl in our office who tries to go to lunch with everyone just to find out information and then delights in telling other people what she’s found out . I’m friendly at work but avoid office politics and have no desire to start going to lunch with any of them really.

I work in a very make industry. It’s great. No bitchiness. Men telll it how it is, might lose their temper a bit, and move on.

Other colleagues is the main reason I hate work. The workplace turns perfectly nice ordinary people into complete knob ends.

@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads

I work in a very make industry. It’s great. No bitchiness. Men telll it how it is, might lose their temper a bit, and move on.

I've seen so much bitchiness between men. That old 'men have a fight and then forget about it' just isn't true.