Look at my dead dad, and my arse

[blink1eight2]

Complete with 'sad face'.

Aibu to think she deserves all the backlash that she's getting for this?

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@blink1eight2

But other living humans, do.

They might just be used to it and glad she's there. It's hard enough without being judged for what you wear.

The posing is a bit disrespectful though

It's very Victorian! All those creepy memorial pictures with dead relatives, actually posed

I didn't think the Victorians were into clubbing outfits, trout pouts and showing off their boobs?

This crass and awful woman,should have used her so called influencing powers, to recommend a good undertakers, as it's difficult to find one who would allow a posing woman , who want's a photo opportunity, in their premises.

It’s beyond crass, in my opinion. I detest the cult of the ‘inluencer’ though.

She makes her fathers funeral purely a vehicle for herself. Dressed for a nightclub, using his open coffin as a prop for her photos.

Victorians had to pose for photos because cameras in those days took a long exposure. You had to stand very still for a long time if you were not to come out all blurry (or not appear at all). That's probably also why they always looked stern; it's much harder to maintain a smile for several minutes whilst not moving a muscle.

I think the worst bit is the way she’s posing carefully and trying to look fierce for camera.

It's the #dadless that gets me.

WTAF

Putting the FUN back in funerals.

Bad taste aside, she only has 1200 followers on Instagram, how does that make her an influencer?

Putting the FUN back in funerals.

I'm sure it's what he would have wanted

@DanceForMeColin

Bad taste aside, she only has 1200 followers on Instagram, how does that make her an influencer?

Apparently she's big on tiktok and OnlyFans and Instagram have closed down her account

@1forAll74

This crass and awful woman,should have used her so called influencing powers, to recommend a good undertakers, as it's difficult to find one who would allow a posing woman , who want's a photo opportunity, in their premises.

What are you talking about? All undertakers leave you in privacy with your dead loved one for as long as you want within reason. Obviously if they wanted to check you were all right or suspected you of necrophilia they would knock on the door. But otherwise why should they intervene?

@silveryslade

It's very Victorian! All those creepy memorial pictures with dead relatives, actually posed. Cultures change and revert back, apparently...

Oh, now I get it!

She wasn't arbitrarily sticking her arse out - it was a bustle.
As you were.

@hotmeatymilk

We have a weird attitude to death in this country and normalising funerals is important to take that stigma away, Yeeeeeesss… but no one poses all bummy and pouty in front of a casket as part of a funeral ritual, do they? She’s not normalising a regular ritual. And I’m quite happy with there still being some stigma around “social media arse shots in front of corpses”.

I’m not saying it’s what I’d do. But grief affects people weirdly and none of us know what she’s thinking.

@blink1eight2 when I said stigma, that was probably the wrong word, but we don’t talk about death and funerals and grief. In some countries funerals involve dressing the dead up and celebrating with them, taking photos and having a party. This isn’t so far removed from that perspective on death.

Either way whatever you think of her, her dad just died. She could be having a mental breakdown for all we know so I don’t think she is deserving of a load of abuse online at a time when she may not be thinking at all clearly.

@GreenLunchBox ah that makes sense, I’m too old for Tik Tok!

@TheOriginalEmu

No I don’t think she ‘deserves’ backlash. Everyone grieves and mourns differently and everyone’s relationships with their family are different. If her family aren’t upset by it, it’s no one else’s place to be upset by it. We have a weird attitude to death in this country and normalising funerals is important to take that stigma away,

The only thing you’re trying to “normalise” is self obsessed arseholery

Memento Mori (Victorian Death Photography) is a really interesting subject.
If you are sensitive or squeamish, don't read on!
As has been said, photography was in its infancy and exposure times were very long which is why people posed the way they did otherwise the picture would come out blurry.
Because it was so rare and expensive, people often did not have their photographs taken at all, and a death portrait was often the only picture one would have of a relative, particularly a child.
Sometimes it was taken days after the death, and there are obvious signs of early decomposition in the photos. You can often spot dark extremities (hands or feet) where the blood has pooled (livor mortis or lividity). Sometimes you can tell from the facial expression (or lack of) who the deceased person is but surprisingly it is not always immediately obvious.
Elaborate rigging mechanisms were used to prop up the deceased person to make them look as though they were standing or sitting.
Siblings were often found posing next to their deceased brother or sister (as infant mortality was large because of disease etc).
Rarely eyes would be painted into the picture after exposure if the eyes of the deceased were closed, and even more rarely the eyes would be painted on the closed eyes of the deceased person.
If you have pictures from your own family going back to Victorian time, the chances are reasonable that you have a 'memento mori' and just don't realise it!
Death was such a big part of Victorian life that they just got on with it, it wasn't a taboo subject because life expectancy was short for most people, and lots of families lost children very young (partly why families were so large).
There is an excellent book called "Beyond the Dark Veil" full of Victorian death pictures, some of which are very sad, a few gruesome ones, but a lot of lovely pictures. I have a copy and its a lovely book.
There are also some pets photographed after death.

But there was always a great respect for the deceased. Not like this young woman, who in my opinion, is an arsehole.

I'd imagine that she is just so used to taking her own photo at every opportunity that she just did it automatically

I've noticed that American's take a lot of photos at funerals. An American friend of mine recently lost her brother and she posted loads of photos of the funeral including one of her and her siblings grinning over the ( closed) coffin of theri brother and one of the wife and children of the deceased smiling and laughing over the coffin of dear old dad.
I though that was very strange and slightly distasteful, but when people are greiving I'd try not to judge.

Anecdata =/= evidence. What one family does is not representative of 300 million people.

Approved of, not approved with. A good job she's not a language influencer but she's typical of much of today's mannerless and ignorant society.
It's a shameful display of disrespect and to put it on SM is the pinnacle of trollop-dom.

Ah well at least he’s wiv the angles now