Look at my dead dad, and my arse

[blink1eight2]

Complete with 'sad face'.

Aibu to think she deserves all the backlash that she's getting for this?

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@thereisonlyoneofme.I so agree with you.Influencer,WTF! What sort of twats are influenced by this rubbish.

@doublemonkey

Best thread title ever!

Makes a change from the stories one usually reads about these people falling off cliffs and dying whilst taking a selfie.

Absolutely! I wasn't sure if I should dare click on it but this is one of the most bizarre and naff things ever definitely guilty giggle territory.

Reminds me a bit of when another 'influencer' was filmed having her mate obviously taking shots of her oh-so-carefully-curated outfit on a Black Lives Matter march, and then everyone was calling for her to be banned from all platforms and reported everywhere and TBH yes, while it was insensitive and fatuous, young people do do stupid fucking things without thinking sometimes so it's really not worth being angry about.

[quote BiLuminous]@apalledandshocked would you not have a little question in your head though before you a) took the picture and b) decided to share it in which you asked yourself "is this appropriate? is this tasteless?"

I just can't fathom that people don't. We also can't presume she'd hurt anyone. If I saw this from a member of my family I'd likely be hurt they'd used a deceased family member as social media fodder.[/quote]
Yes. But tasteless does not = sociopath, morally bankrupt, unable to tell right from wrong. Neither does, not having or listening to that voice in your head that says "is this a good idea?"
Jon Ronson wrote a book about this "so you've been publicly shamed" that feels even more relevant than when he wrote it

@HeyFloof

BiLuminous they're not comparable, but on page 4 there was a comment about women sharing videos with their dead babies, and then a few replies being shocked/obviously disgusted about it.

It's really difficult because people are obviously horrified by dead babies
Understandably. But when people comment so negatively about women sharing their deceased children, it makes it harder for all of us who have experienced the loss of a child and I just wanted to highlight that.

I'm very sorry. I cannot imagine what that loss feels like

I've always been very pro posting photos of deceased children. Especially families together and as mentioned above the Victorians did it all the time.

However I do also think there's a huge difference between sharing a picture of your precious child and sharing what this lady did.

I'd judge a mother who took at tits and arse pouty photo with their deceased baby in the background - because that's become about them and not the loss of the lives one and celebrating or remembering them.

Who does she hope to “Influence?”
Who would be foolish enough to be “Influenced “by such a shallow vacuous person?

Obviously it's not a great idea to pose for photos like this at a funeral, but I was a similar age when my Dad died I was crushed by grief and operating on autopilot at the funeral. I don't think it's very fair to be judging this woman when she might just be trying to continue on as normal as best she can.

Goodness what is she wearing! (Aside from the tacky photo opportunity) Surely people don't go to visit relatives in the chapel of rest looking like they're about to go out clubbing!

I think it's awful- but I'm old fashioned about stuff like this.

@AnneElliott

Goodness what is she wearing! (Aside from the tacky photo opportunity) Surely people don't go to visit relatives in the chapel of rest looking like they're about to go out clubbing!

I think it's awful- but I'm old fashioned about stuff like this.

God doesn't care what you wear

But other living humans, do.

You got their first @blink1eight2. Other people do care very much about people turning up at funerals inappropriately dressed.

Given the mindsets of some who care about these ridiculous "influencers" it'll probably start a fashion

Coming to a FB account near you anytime soon ...

Excellent thread title op.

Holy Crow that's tasteless.

I'm not judging her. She's young, she's grieving and finding ways to cope, and she's neck deep in social media so posing is like breathing to her I would imagine. Thanks for the (guilty) laugh at your thread title and post though!

Tasteless

? there appears to be the option to comment on the website itself.
people reading the original source might give a toss?

Disrespectful, pathetic attention seeker 😡

We have a weird attitude to death in this country and normalising funerals is important to take that stigma away,

Funerals already are normalised! This photoshoot was crass in the extreme. Pouting and posing in front of your fathers casket does little to 'normalise' funerals!

It's very Victorian! All those creepy memorial pictures with dead relatives, actually posed. Cultures change and revert back, apparently...

Well the poor old Victorians often had no other photo of their deceased child, so a photo portrait being taken post-mortem is understandable, unsettling as they are to our modern eyes. They needed a pictorial memento. This situation is rather...less Victorian I would say.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches, 🤷‍♀️ I honestly couldn't say.

And this woman's dad isn't exactly the subject matter, he's just an 'interesting' background feature for her selfies.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches, I don't know her, couldn't say.

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