Look at my dead dad, and my arse

[blink1eight2]

Complete with 'sad face'.

Aibu to think she deserves all the backlash that she's getting for this?

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This proves what I already suspected, some people are now so disconnected from reality that they see every single situation as a photo op. I would not want to be a young woman these days, the pressure must be horrendous

BiLuminous they're not comparable, but on page 4 there was a comment about women sharing videos with their dead babies, and then a few replies being shocked/obviously disgusted about it.

It's really difficult because people are obviously horrified by dead babies
Understandably. But when people comment so negatively about women sharing their deceased children, it makes it harder for all of us who have experienced the loss of a child and I just wanted to highlight that.

@apalledandshocked would you not have a little question in your head though before you a) took the picture and b) decided to share it in which you asked yourself "is this appropriate? is this tasteless?"

I just can't fathom that people don't. We also can't presume she'd hurt anyone. If I saw this from a member of my family I'd likely be hurt they'd used a deceased family member as social media fodder.

I suppose she's got the attention she craves.

Didn't*

Sociopath

@HeyFloof

To be fair to the Victorians, these photos were the only way the bereaved family had to capture a likeness of their child and see a reminder of his or her place within the family.

Yuck. This really is in poor taste. What kind of world do we live in when people look up to these 'influencers'?

That is so distasteful, to be pouting and sticking your ass out next to your dads cold dead body?! Normalising funerals is one thing, but she's not showing respect to her father with these pictures.

I think what she did was inappropriate, but she certainly doesn't deserve this much backlash for her actions.

I'm surprised she's not flogging MLM, this is the exploitative sort of shit I expect from that lot.

I expect she's getting the reaction she wanted anyway. Shock value. Any attention is good attention, in the minds of people like that, and she's obviously going to be getting alot of traffic to her social media.

Mission accomplished I guess.

Very Josie Cunningham - esque.

Vomit.

My (also dead) Dad would say "Where's the rest of your dress did you only pay half and stop your face from tripping you up"

DailyMail Sad Face is

@toolazytothinkofausername

I think what she did was inappropriate, but she certainly doesn't deserve this much backlash for her actions.

What do you mean - "deserve"?

Backlash or praise make no odds to her, so long as her numbers remain high enough to maintain the 'influencer' charade.

She's an experienced social media manipulator, no matter her youth. She didn't post this without understanding the implications.

@MissChanandlerBong81

You can see one of your WhatsApp messages in the second screenshot, maybe ask MN to take it down as it could be outing?

Thank you

@TokyoTen

Personally I think the people who are highlighting this in the media, yes this includes the OP, are as bad as she is. They seem to glory in the mock outrage. Clearly whoever she is feels she needs the attention, and obviously she has her own issues.

My outrage isn't mock

TheOriginalEmu: Yeah but I don't behave like this 'normally' whether there's a coffin in the frame or not, and neither does any other woman I know. So in what sense is this 'normalising a funeral'?

She's lost any vestige of contact with the real world.

I still think about a Facebook post I saw from a friend of an American friend. Not quite as outrageous but she did a tribute to her grandmother on the day of her funeral and included a picture of the open casket. It felt very voyeuristic seeing a photo of a dead woman I've never met. I only saw it because my friend commented on the post.

Best thread title ever!

Makes a change from the stories one usually reads about these people falling off cliffs and dying whilst taking a selfie.

@LadyTiredWinterBottom2

Fucking hell

This is everything that is wrong with how people use sm. Literally disconnected from life events, the only thing that matters is how they look.

This, in spades

absolutely vile

@HeyFloof

I have seen one woman, dancing making tiktoks with her deceased baby. She is obviously very young, incredibly distressed and struggling hugely with the reality of having had a stillborn baby. I don't think judging her is any help, hopefully she receives the support she needs and deserves.

I have photos and videos with my dead baby. Not dancing exactly, but walking round rocking him and singing to him, reading to him and telling him how loved he is and always will be. He was on the earth alive for 90 minutes. And then it was 2 weeks before he was cremated. Imagine having to fit a lifetime of love with your child into two weeks, all of it when they were dead. Should I not have taken pictures with him? Should I not share him? He is still my baby. It's all I have, and will ever have of my child.

The influencer though, hopefully has many other pictures with her Dad. Smiling, happy ones, where they are enjoying each others company and could have shared those, rather than these. It's probably the OTT posing which has turned do many people off to it.

Sorry you went through that.

I assume you didn't share to SM?

I fund it completely tasteless and if it were my dad he would haunt me forever if I behaved like that.

However, I suspect she is thrilled with the publicity she has received and will now try cash in on it. She'll seek out every tv and magazine interview with the storyline of, I was grieving, not thinking straight, my father would have found it amusing etc......then it will turn to how she is the victim of online backlash, thrilling and bullying with a mental health sorry thrown in.

This vacuous approach gets attention and there were plenty who seek it out no matter what the circumstances. It's very sad and shallow.

Sorry you went through that.

I assume you didn't share to SM?

Why would you assume that blink1eight2?

I have shared a few pictures of my deceased baby like I have of my living child to my family and friends.

I'm not a prolific sharer. I don't use Facebook, I do use IG. I'm conscious of the internet footprint that I leave of my living child, and of his privacy and consent as he grows (despite my account being secure, you can never be completely sure) so I don't post much and didn't in the first place.

Obviously with my deceased child that's not so much of an issue and it's more about remembrance with him.

I shared his birth announcement, and then once or twice since. I will likely share something on his birthday/first anniversary.

Anyone who poses like that in front of their fathers coffin and then posts the photos in order to earn money is morally bankrupt.

Plus her “sad faces” are not remotely convincing. You’ll see better acting in a primary school nativity play.

It seems a little off to be against her posting things like this on social media then the media repeating it so people can be like why is this on social media?