Look at my dead dad, and my arse

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Complete with 'sad face'.

Aibu to think she deserves all the backlash that she's getting for this?

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Will the outraged deal relatives of these monsters NEVER speak out?

Balls. DEAD rellies. Not deal. Sorry.

I'm appalled at that.
She doesn't even look upset, despite the duck-like "sadface".
It just shows how self-absorbed and self-centred these bloody SM "influencers" are - narcs on steroids!

God that’s grim! Poor taste.

@TheOriginalEmu

No I don’t think she ‘deserves’ backlash. Everyone grieves and mourns differently and everyone’s relationships with their family are different. If her family aren’t upset by it, it’s no one else’s place to be upset by it. We have a weird attitude to death in this country and normalising funerals is important to take that stigma away,

Yes, what stigma do you refer to? I'm not sure many cultures encourage sexy poses for Insta in front of an open coffin.

Plus, you choose the life of an "influencer" you agree to take the criticism as well as the cash.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches may I ask, had your dear dad a touch of the Irish, perchance?

Maybe he was an awful dad, but agree seems very strange

Well she got attention. Job done!

@blink1eight2

people really do make bizarre decisions when they're grieving.

Agree

Agree, Also.... She's 20! I did lots of things when I was that age I cringe at now (anyone who is 20 and incredibly sensible my apologies - I don't mean everyone in their 20s is daft). Fortunately social media wasn't as all pervasive as it is now, so there isn't any record of it. But for lots of people her age almost everything they do or say is available as public record for anyone to call them out on now or in the future. Obviously its her choice to be an "influencer" and post things like this. But she hasn't murdered anyone or committed any awful crimes and she's 20 and she's just lost her father.

Well if people post stuff publicly then the public have a right to an opinion and clearly this woman is absolutely bloody incredible. I honestly am so amazed by this feat of awfulness that I think she should win an award. Not sure which one, something to do with tastelessness.

Putting the FUN back in funerals. Bless her and her arse.

As for normalising funerals? Funerals are fucking normal. We ALL die.

@GoodGrief100

I weep for what the world has become, with people like this called 'influencers'

I could not have out it better. It's like decency is a bygone quality.

@TheOriginalEmu

No I don’t think she ‘deserves’ backlash. Everyone grieves and mourns differently and everyone’s relationships with their family are different. If her family aren’t upset by it, it’s no one else’s place to be upset by it. We have a weird attitude to death in this country and normalising funerals is important to take that stigma away,

It has nothing to do with death and everything to do with a wanna-be 'influencer' posing and preening with father's coffin for likes.

@5128gap

Its not something I would do and can't imagine why anyone would. But its her dad and her bereavement, so I don't think anyone except their family and friends need be concerned.

I agree in principle but she posted it for the world - so she invited them to have an opinion.

Parody account.

No sense of decorum or dignity whatsoever. We live in a world where a pouty selfie in a place such as Auschwitz is just a photo opportunity, fatuous doesn't even to begin to describe such a lack of respect or sense of the gravity of a place or situation.

I have seen one woman, dancing making tiktoks with her deceased baby. She is obviously very young, incredibly distressed and struggling hugely with the reality of having had a stillborn baby. I don't think judging her is any help, hopefully she receives the support she needs and deserves.

I have photos and videos with my dead baby. Not dancing exactly, but walking round rocking him and singing to him, reading to him and telling him how loved he is and always will be. He was on the earth alive for 90 minutes. And then it was 2 weeks before he was cremated. Imagine having to fit a lifetime of love with your child into two weeks, all of it when they were dead. Should I not have taken pictures with him? Should I not share him? He is still my baby. It's all I have, and will ever have of my child.

The influencer though, hopefully has many other pictures with her Dad. Smiling, happy ones, where they are enjoying each others company and could have shared those, rather than these. It's probably the OTT posing which has turned do many people off to it.

FFS. I hate the whole concept of influencers and everything they stand for, but this is a young woman who's just lost her dad.

Cut her some slack. Have you not considered that, in her grief, her judgement might be a little off?

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches

My dad would actually find the wherewithal to momentarily re-inhabit his mortal form and bellow 'For the love of God would you stop that prancing in front of my coffin'.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches I think I love you 🤣

@ArchwizardTVampirebat

FFS. I hate the whole concept of influencers and everything they stand for, but this is a young woman who's just lost her dad.

Cut her some slack. Have you not considered that, in her grief, her judgement might be a little off?

I think if she didn't want to live her life on SM and didn't spend everyday trying to get likes and opinions I'd agree.

But this is her judge,ent on how to live her life. She's doing what she wants to do because she wants to do it.

I'm more concerned she's so hooked on SM likes that that has damaged her judgement - not the grief.

Lovely coffin - must get one , please post a link

Plus, I like how the Daily Mail choose the sexiest picture to use - meaning they got to run a story with

1. Picture of attractive young woman
2. Mildly thigh-rubbing description of said young woman's "revealing dress" (a change from "flaunting her curves"
3. Moral outrage at existence of said photo and behaviour of said young woman
4. Said head shake at society today and the degenerate behaviour of the (still attractive) young people responsible for it.

Literally its favourite thing ever.

It's like social media has absolutely destroyed her entire sense of right and wrong 😱

@HeyFloof

I have seen one woman, dancing making tiktoks with her deceased baby. She is obviously very young, incredibly distressed and struggling hugely with the reality of having had a stillborn baby. I don't think judging her is any help, hopefully she receives the support she needs and deserves.

I have photos and videos with my dead baby. Not dancing exactly, but walking round rocking him and singing to him, reading to him and telling him how loved he is and always will be. He was on the earth alive for 90 minutes. And then it was 2 weeks before he was cremated. Imagine having to fit a lifetime of love with your child into two weeks, all of it when they were dead. Should I not have taken pictures with him? Should I not share him? He is still my baby. It's all I have, and will ever have of my child.

The influencer though, hopefully has many other pictures with her Dad. Smiling, happy ones, where they are enjoying each others company and could have shared those, rather than these. It's probably the OTT posing which has turned do many people off to it.

The two situations are completely different and I think the last paragraph sums up why. Plus, the person taking these photos seems to be making it about her looks and not the motives you had for taking your photos.

@GoodGrief100

I weep for what the world has become, with people like this called 'influencers'

I couldn’t agree more.

The state of her! I fucking despair, I’m sure Tim Berners Lee sometimes wished he hadn’t bothered inventing the WWW.

@TheOriginalEmu

No I don’t think she ‘deserves’ backlash. Everyone grieves and mourns differently and everyone’s relationships with their family are different. If her family aren’t upset by it, it’s no one else’s place to be upset by it. We have a weird attitude to death in this country and normalising funerals is important to take that stigma away,

Posing with dead relatives is nothing new, google Victorian death photos and you'll see whole families in formal poses with deceased loved ones (including their dead children). Posing with your tits and arse front and centre with a "fuck me pout" thrown in for good measure and posting it for the world to see is in no way, shape or form normal.

@HesterShaw1

It's like social media has absolutely destroyed her entire sense of right and wrong 😱

How though? She hasn't committed any terrible crimes or hurt anyone. It shows a lack of proprietary (for want of a better word) and judgement maybe. But I'm really uneasy at the extent to which people are being jumped on in social media for perceived moral failings for doing/saying things deemed socially unacceptable (but not actively harmful).