Distract me please - DM 'missing' abroad

[Littlebitworried7]

NC just because I post a lot and don't want it linked to my posting history.

My DM went on holiday this morning. We texted most of the taxi journey to the airport, and I last heard from her when she had boarded the plane.

The plane landed at 5pm (I have checked), and it should be a 90min taxi to the hotel, plus getting baggage and covid checks at the airport first. I expected to hear from her 2-3 hours ago.

She always texts to let me know she's arrived, shows off pics of the hotel etc. I haven't heard anything and my WhatsApp is stuck on one tick so not delivered.

Of course now I'm worried about an accident or something. Her friend who she has gone with also has some quite serious health problems, although deemed fit to fly, so wondered if something had happened with him but if she had had to go to hospital with him she would have found a way to let me know I think.

I'm supposed to be working but can't concentrate. Luckily I'm self employed so it only affects me. If any kind posters can keep me company for a while id appreciate it as I doubt I'll be able to sleep until I at least get two bloody WhatsApp ticks!

And I've disabled voting as I'm obviously BU... I'm normally pretty laid back but this is really out of character.

I'm glad your mother is safe but your reaction was a bit OTT. Most people would assume that there was a perfectly reasonable explanation for her not getting in touch straight away rather than automatically thinking the worst.

Glad it’s all fine, although in future you might find it beneficial to relax and rationalise a bit more! I don’t know if you’ve ever had bad news in a situation like this, but it is unbelievable how fast bad news travels. So not hearing anything for a few hours after you were expecting to, is generally not a need to panic. If something awful had happened, you’d have heard quicker than you realise.

Anyway, glad she’s fine, and totally jealous of the pool and the heat!

Glad she's ok!

I really hope though that hotels don't actually tell callers whether a guest is checked in - is this really a thing? I've been stalked before and frankly I find that idea scary.

Perhaps you could let her know that you worry about her. She probably didn't realise you would be so anxious

I'm glad your mother is safe but your reaction was a bit OTT. Most people would assume that there was a perfectly reasonable explanation for her not getting in touch straight away rather than automatically thinking the worst.

Sorry but I have to agree with this.
My 18 yo son went to New Zealand to work for 6 months after leaving school. It would often be 2-3 weeks between text messages or emails.

I'm glad your mother is safe but your reaction was a bit OTT. Most people would assume that there was a perfectly reasonable explanation for her not getting in touch straight away rather than automatically thinking the worst.

Nah, it was night time and just 'the chimp'. OP said she felt more reasoned this morning.
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I'm glad your mother is safe but your reaction was a bit OTT. Most people would assume that there was a perfectly reasonable explanation for her not getting in touch straight away rather than automatically thinking the worst.

Sorry but I have to agree with this.
My 18 yo son went to New Zealand to work for 6 months after leaving school. It would often be 2-3 weeks between text messages or emails.

But it is all dependent on what you expect. Op is used to her mum saying she arrived safe so it was unusual for her to not message. My children always text me when they land then I won't hear for them until they are about to fly home. I don't worry in-between but would be concerned if I didn't get the arrived text as it would be unusual.

Wind and rain AND you're now sleep deprived Hope you're having a treat dinner and some wine tonight after all that.

Glad to hear all is well. Enjoy your weekend.

Pleased to hear this OP. I'm exactly the same and my mind runs away with me.