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To have taken my sweet time on purpose...

142 replies

FTM91 · 27/10/2021 18:17

(light-hearted just curious) In a service station McDonald's car park changing my baby on the front seat, so door open and me tending to her meant the space next to us couldn't be used (if that was completely unreasonable of me then fine)

The car park however was probably about 70% full...there were at least 6 empty spaces I could see from where I was standing and then some.

Woman drives in and decides she wants the space I'm stood in. She pulls half way in and REVS her engine loudly to make herself known. This pisses me off, so I take my time making sure every single thigh roll is sparkling clean, carefully apply barrier cream, put on new nappy...you get the gist. I then pick her up so revving lady can see I have a baby to faff with and maybe would wish to choose a different space. Nope she chose to sit there the entire time we strapped in and settled baby into the car seat. When she pulled in she gave me the weirdest sarcastic smile.

So:

YABU: Woman should be able to park wherever she chooses and if she wants to rev her engine and wait then so be it.

YANBU: any normal person would have just gone to a different space once they realised, and the revving was rude.

OP posts:
HeckyPeck · 27/10/2021 18:19

YANBU. Revving lady should just have gone to any of the other empty spaces!

She was being annoying and rude and I'm glad you took your time.

ALongHardWinter · 27/10/2021 18:22

If there were other spaces available,then no,you most definitely weren't BU!

Sparkletastic · 27/10/2021 18:26

She should have parked elsewhere

Babyfg · 27/10/2021 18:27

God I hate people like that. The same people that in a near empty car park with two or three cars will park next to you with a two inch gap.

I would have done the same as you. I hope she was late to where she was going. Why do people have to be so up in other peoples spaces.

Fetarabbit · 27/10/2021 18:33

As there were plenty of spaces, and assuming the one you were stood in wasn't the last accessible space or something then yanbu. I swear some people leave the house each day just looking to make problems for themselves and cause aggro!

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 27/10/2021 18:37

To be fair she can park in any free space she chooses, but she shouldn't have picked that one then shown her displeasure by revving her engine.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 27/10/2021 18:38

I bet she finds the one train seat where someone has put their bag on the seat.

BigYellowHat · 27/10/2021 18:41

How annoying.

For the other driver. The world doesn’t revolve around you because you have a baby.

Ihaveamagicwand · 27/10/2021 18:42

YANBU
What make of car was she driving? My money is on a ............!

Bimblybomeyelash · 27/10/2021 18:46

So she waited until you were ready, and then she smiled at you? I think you are making a bigger deal of this than you need to.

SickAndTiredAgain · 27/10/2021 18:47

@BigYellowHat

How annoying.

For the other driver. The world doesn’t revolve around you because you have a baby.

🙄 of course not.

But if I was in a not very full car park and someone (for whatever reason, baby or not) had their car door open and was doing something, I would just pick a different space. Why make a problem when there doesn’t need to be one?

OP you were maybe unreasonable to deliberately delay, but provided the space you were blocking wasn’t the last available parent/child space, or accessible space or something, the other driver was being difficult for the sake of it.

Timetable99 · 27/10/2021 18:47

I'm sorry you breathed in her petrol fumes, I would have had a go at her for that alone.

Pottedpalm · 27/10/2021 18:50

@Ihaveamagicwand

YANBU What make of car was she driving? My money is on a ............!
A what? Otherwise you can claim you were right whatever the answer.
CrazyTimesAreOccurring · 27/10/2021 18:50

YANBU - sounds an eejit. I would have done exactly the same as you -plus picking baby up and cooing and singing to them midway to really stretch it out

Thatsplentyjack · 27/10/2021 18:52

I once had an older man do this to me while I strapped 3 young children into the back of the car. He started beeping the horn ( I am actually really quick at putting kids in the car and I was on the second child when he appeared, so it took me all of around 10 seconds before he started beeping). Once I closed the door I asked him what the fuck he was beeping his horn at and I was strapping my children (they were not actually mine) into the car, apparently he thought I was (just standing with my arse hanging out". He got an absolute mouthful from me.

WonderfulYou · 27/10/2021 18:54

YABU if there was only about 6 spaces left I too would have saw an empty one and waited for it.

She also didn’t get out and shout at you she waited for you which I would have thought was quite polite.

It annoys me when people take up 2 parking spaces for any reason.

summersYs · 27/10/2021 18:54

In her defence could she actually see what you were doing ? Also she probably expected you to finish up quickly - she wasn't to know it would take as long as it did
If she could see what you were doing and there was another space she could see then yanbu but I think we can allow her some level of not actually realising what was happening here

summersYs · 27/10/2021 18:55

And maybe her smile was actually a rueful "kids hey" smile and she could have beeped etc

RedHelenB · 27/10/2021 18:56

YABU. Why deliberately take longer, very petty.

LowlandLucky · 27/10/2021 19:02

What was wrong with you using the baby change unit in the loos ?

namechangedtoaskaquestion · 27/10/2021 19:03

@LowlandLucky

What was wrong with you using the baby change unit in the loos ?
Because they are often disgusting I would choose to change my baby in my clean car over a changing unit any day.
DamnitFanny · 27/10/2021 19:05

I went very early to a popular shopping centre close to Christmas one year. Got a space near the door as it was raining and had two under 2s with me. Leisurely shop with twin shopping trolley, came out and car park had got really busy. As I got to my car a young fella pulled up with his partner, revved his engine, made unflattering gestures - you get the picture. Took my time getting the kids out, strapping them slowly s as no carefully into their seats, unpacked my shopping into the boot etc. He was getting more and more agitated so imagine his face when I turned round, put the trolley back (trolley park was beside my car), came back, reopened my boot and got out the double buggy and started to get the kids back out of the car. I genuinely thought he was going to run me over! Made my day. Once he screeched off I let the next patient driver into the spot.

Berlioz23 · 27/10/2021 19:05

YANBU unless you was blocking one of them click and serve spaces and it was the last one, even then she could have just waited patiently.

Basicbitch40 · 27/10/2021 19:06

Why not go inside to change the baby? I've never changed a baby in a car.

Cryalot2 · 27/10/2021 19:07

Was it a parent and child or disabled space?

If so maybe she needed them.
She could have had a good reason for wanting that space , who knows .