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AIBU?

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To have taken my sweet time on purpose...

142 replies

FTM91 · 27/10/2021 18:17

(light-hearted just curious) In a service station McDonald's car park changing my baby on the front seat, so door open and me tending to her meant the space next to us couldn't be used (if that was completely unreasonable of me then fine)

The car park however was probably about 70% full...there were at least 6 empty spaces I could see from where I was standing and then some.

Woman drives in and decides she wants the space I'm stood in. She pulls half way in and REVS her engine loudly to make herself known. This pisses me off, so I take my time making sure every single thigh roll is sparkling clean, carefully apply barrier cream, put on new nappy...you get the gist. I then pick her up so revving lady can see I have a baby to faff with and maybe would wish to choose a different space. Nope she chose to sit there the entire time we strapped in and settled baby into the car seat. When she pulled in she gave me the weirdest sarcastic smile.

So:

YABU: Woman should be able to park wherever she chooses and if she wants to rev her engine and wait then so be it.

YANBU: any normal person would have just gone to a different space once they realised, and the revving was rude.

OP posts:

Skysblue · 29/10/2021 14:34

@Basicbitch40 because she had a perfectly good space available to do it in her car, which is WAY more hygenic for the baby (and mum) than some poo-spattered public baby change station? Particularly in a pandemic?

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 29/10/2021 14:40

@PheasantsNest

You were rude. You get one space not two. Why didn't you use the back seat?

how would using back seat have made any difference? you'd still have to leave a door open to actually lean in and sort it all out. what a daft comment

5zeds · 29/10/2021 14:46

@Charlene1971 You don't see what the issue is with swapping seats, yet you don't seem to be able to see that that would be more hassle for the OP, than it would have been for the arrogant driver to change spaces why do you think the driver is particularly arrogant? She saw an empty spot and went to park her car. OP was the one inconveniencing the driver not the other way around. The only one causing an issue was the OP who went out of her way to make a strangers life more difficult.

Minesril · 29/10/2021 15:09

She does sound like hard work. I hope those thigh rolls had a few raspberries blown on them

Smashingspinster · 29/10/2021 15:30

If there were other empty spaces of course she should have gone there. I had something happen like this the other day - except there was only one space, the woman had doors on both sides open and was completely away with the fairies faffing around in her car. Eventually I rolled down my window and asked politely if I could pull in. She was apologetic. If I could have parked elsewhere I absolutely would have.

Rainbowunicorn76 · 29/10/2021 15:34

@Skysblue

She’s a bully and she chose the space because you were in it and she wanted to make you move.

Well done for standing up to her OP 👏

And you know she was a bully because???? All op has said is that she revved her engine and then smiled "sarcastically" I would love it if the driver of the other car appeared on here with her side of the story because there will be one, every story has two sides.

CheesyWeez · 29/10/2021 15:34

Revving woman was just daft. I often park on the periphery of car parks as I am lucky, I have legs that work and can walk to the shop door from there and have a choice of many spaces.

Someone always comes in and parks next to me in a row of otherwise empty spaces. So annoying.

Maybe she can't make decisions and has to copy you by parking next to you?
Or can't judge how to park in a space so needs to line up with you? Thought she recognised you then realised you weren't her friend Betty after all?
Can't reverse easily and once committed not confident enough to go to another space?

People like that drive me nuts. Unless there was something good about the space such as it being a disabled space or a staff space she was being silly.

sunglassesonthetable · 29/10/2021 15:46

Yet again the angry impatient drivers are out in force. If someone is in the road or a car park doing something to or in their car they were there before your badly planned journey where apparently being held up for less than a minute is life critical. It's amazing some of these massive egos fit into standard cars.

Too right. Honest to god park in another space if someone is obviously busy doing something . Or just wait the extra minute or two. How rude.

sunglassesonthetable · 29/10/2021 15:47

So do posters on here regularly 'revv' at others in car parks?!!

Jeez. get a life.

MissChanandlerBong81 · 29/10/2021 15:59

I think it’s rude to rev your engine but I also think it’s pretty rude to take up two car parking spaces in a car park for a long period of time, irrespective of how busy it is.

5zeds · 29/10/2021 16:11

She pulls half way in and REVS her engine loudly to make herself known. This pisses me off, so I take my time making sure every single thigh roll is sparkling clean, carefully apply barrier cream, put on new nappy...you get the gist. I then pick her up so revving lady can see I have a baby to faff with and maybe would wish to choose a different space. so the woman didn’t know a baby was involved she just saw someone and made her presence known then waited while OP did her slow nonsense then smiled once she was finally out of the way and parked.

Next time either apologies and explain you’ll be a few minutes or get INTO your car and out of the way.

sunglassesonthetable · 29/10/2021 16:31

I think it’s rude to rev your engine but I also think it’s pretty rude to take up two car parking spaces in a car park for a long period of time, irrespective of how busy it is.

'a long period of time...'

god help us, that you can't park in that space exactly at the moment you wanted to.

MissChanandlerBong81 · 29/10/2021 16:36

@sunglassesonthetable

Well, OP is very clear that she did deliberately take a long time - changing a nappy and undressing/redressing a baby in the way she’s described would take at least 5-10 minutes. I just think it’s inconsiderate. Personally I always changed my baby in the boot when I need to do a car park change - more space, flat surface, and you don’t inconvenience others.

sunglassesonthetable · 29/10/2021 16:53

Yes - OP did take her time.

AFTER impatient parker REVVED at her.

And so impatient parker waited for 10-15 mins whilst there were other spaces available?

So many ridiculous people around.

I doubt it was 10-15 mins.

TheEvilPea · 29/10/2021 23:13

@WonderfulYou

YABU if there was only about 6 spaces left I too would have saw an empty one and waited for it.

She also didn’t get out and shout at you she waited for you which I would have thought was quite polite.

It annoys me when people take up 2 parking spaces for any reason.

Because with a back car door opem and an adult leaning in it is pretty obvious that there is a high likelihood that someone is trying to settle or strap in a small child.

5zeds · 30/10/2021 10:16

How would you prefer the driver to indicate her presence?

brokenbiscuitsx · 30/10/2021 10:35

@LadyTiredWinterBottom2

I bet she finds the one train seat where someone has put their bag on the seat.

Yes this 🤣

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