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Original poster

To have taken my sweet time on purpose...

142 replies

FTM91 · 27/10/2021 18:17

(light-hearted just curious) In a service station McDonald's car park changing my baby on the front seat, so door open and me tending to her meant the space next to us couldn't be used (if that was completely unreasonable of me then fine)

The car park however was probably about 70% full...there were at least 6 empty spaces I could see from where I was standing and then some.

Woman drives in and decides she wants the space I'm stood in. She pulls half way in and REVS her engine loudly to make herself known. This pisses me off, so I take my time making sure every single thigh roll is sparkling clean, carefully apply barrier cream, put on new nappy...you get the gist. I then pick her up so revving lady can see I have a baby to faff with and maybe would wish to choose a different space. Nope she chose to sit there the entire time we strapped in and settled baby into the car seat. When she pulled in she gave me the weirdest sarcastic smile.

So:

YABU: Woman should be able to park wherever she chooses and if she wants to rev her engine and wait then so be it.

YANBU: any normal person would have just gone to a different space once they realised, and the revving was rude.

OP posts:
SickAndTiredAgain · 28/10/2021 07:55

I hate seeing people with their arse sticking out of a car as they strap kids in etc.

I've seen them do it on the side of the road where they might get their arse knocked off too.

What? How do you strap kids in? If you’ve got baby/child seats on both sides you need to do it from the outside.

5zeds · 28/10/2021 08:29

Were all the other seats occupied @BurntO ? Seems unlikely. @FTM91
didn't say she was changing the baby on her seat or mention other passengers filling the car.

Fanackapansy · 28/10/2021 08:36

@Puppermam

Yeah you were a total prick to take longer than you needed to. MacDonalds car parks aren't for changing nappies in so as you were doing that then you should have got the fuck on with it.
This thread is so insane. The aggression in this post for example… Confused

Another poster saying they hate seeing someone’s arse sticking out of a car as they strap a kid in. I don’t understand that. My one year old can’t strap himself in so I have to do it. Why do you hate that?!

The sheer aggression and vitriol towards the OP and indeed anyone who says they have changed a baby in the car, is totally disproportionate. I can’t keep track of this place.

If the OP had posted from the point of view of the driver, she’d have had her arsed handed to her then, too.

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 28/10/2021 08:39

YABU

If you needed to change baby then fine but there was no reason for you to take longer once you realised someone wanted the extra space you were jogging.

You sound a bit self centered.

Fanackapansy · 28/10/2021 08:41

And the mother and baby would have been defended, I meant to add*

Rainbowunicorn76 · 28/10/2021 08:55

You were petty and unhelpful. Fine if you needed to do it but why the need to go slower and deliberately make things harder. I don't get it. You were entitled to two spaces and she wasn't entitled to one??

Also sounds like she didn't do much in retaliation. She didn't get out and give you an earful, sound her horn repeatedly or block you in.

Don't think you have much to be proud of here 🤷🏽‍♀️

3scape · 28/10/2021 09:08

Yet again the angry impatient drivers are out in force. If someone is in the road or a car park doing something to or in their car they were there before your badly planned journey where apparently being held up for less than a minute is life critical. It's amazing some of these massive egos fit into standard cars. Hmm

Seeline · 28/10/2021 09:21

Sorry - you were unreasonable in the first place. Whether you have a baby or not, you are only entitled to a single parking space. Fair enough, strapping kids into a car seat is a legal requirement and usually means the space nextdoor is momentarily blocked, but you do it as quick as poss. Intentionally taking time over changing a nappy (which could be done without disrupting anyone else) is very unreasonable.

I always changed mine in the boot in carparks - had no impact on anyone.

Larryyourwaiter · 28/10/2021 09:30

Some people get fixated on certain parking spots or seats on trains. Someone sat next to me on a virtually empty train and then was pissed off when I moved (with my numerous bags).

I was putting groceries into a car I had once, it was tiny so you had to put them mostly on the back seat. The supermarket carpark was almost entirely empty, in fact I was the only car on my row. A woman beeped me to park next to me. So I had to take my trolley around the other side of the car to put the stuff in. I assume she couldn’t park unless right next to another car which was frankly stupid.

AdobeWanKenobi · 28/10/2021 09:41

@SickAndTiredAgain

I hate seeing people with their arse sticking out of a car as they strap kids in etc.

I've seen them do it on the side of the road where they might get their arse knocked off too.

What? How do you strap kids in? If you’ve got baby/child seats on both sides you need to do it from the outside.

Presumably the poster means strap them in on the pavement side, rather than having a door open on a road. I very much doubt she expects people to do it via the sunroof.
5zeds · 28/10/2021 10:02

Perhaps the driver wasn’t aware the baby was there to start with and she needed a space on that side?

NoDecentHandlesLeft · 28/10/2021 10:11

@meltingappointment

Sorry but most people with babies get a free pass for lots of things and that’s the way it should be. Eg letting parent and baby go first in a queue etc.

I must have missed a memo somewhere Confused

Me too. I have never let a parent and baby go first, well, unless it was for the toilet ad someone is with a toddler who is doing the wee wee dance.
Sweetleftfood · 28/10/2021 10:50

I am with you OP, very weird and silly of her. I do have a theory that I have discussed with a friend about people being weird parking next to others when there are other spaces available.

Shit parkers find it easier to park next to a car rather than an empty space with empty spaces around, which is very weird in itself but generally people/drivers are not very good at parking Grin I am of course the best.... I am quite good actually, my dad taught me and he could get in to the smallest space on earth

PheasantsNest · 28/10/2021 11:16

You were rude. You get one space not two. Why didn't you use the back seat?

mygenericusername · 28/10/2021 11:20

You need to grow up. She didn’t know you we’re changing a baby when she started to pull in.

The polite thing to do would have been to point at baby and gesture two minutes instead of being a passive aggressive arse.

ineedsun · 28/10/2021 11:24

@BigYellowHat

How annoying.

For the other driver. The world doesn’t revolve around you because you have a baby.

Yes! I can’t believe the number of people saying the OP is NBU
Rainbowunicorn76 · 28/10/2021 13:37

@3scape

Yet again the angry impatient drivers are out in force. If someone is in the road or a car park doing something to or in their car they were there before your badly planned journey where apparently being held up for less than a minute is life critical. It's amazing some of these massive egos fit into standard cars. Hmm
Holding other drivers up and expecting people to wait politely is absolutely fine. Holding a driver up longer than necessary then boasting about how long you managed to spin it out for...., no that's not ok and not really the fault of the other driver.
FateHasRedesignedMost · 29/10/2021 07:14

Was something wrong with the other spaces? Maybe she thought she couldn’t fit into them or she’d been told to wait in a certain section? Eg the drive through collection spaces are separate from the main car park though rarely labelled clearly?

Charlene1971 · 29/10/2021 14:00

[quote 5zeds]@BurntO I’m not sure what the issue is with moving a baby to change its nappy so you can get out of the way? Changing a baby doesn’t take two parking places. I’m not sure the relevance of the size of car unless you’re suggesting there was no way the OP could do anything else than fill two spaces in a car park?[/quote]
@5zeds

You don't see what the issue is with swapping seats, yet you don't seem to be able to see that that would be more hassle for the OP, than it would have been for the arrogant driver to change spaces 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 29/10/2021 14:03

given that were other spaces she was a twat.
I would've done the same as you

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 29/10/2021 14:07

In fact I have done the same a few times.

the most memorable and extreme situation was when I was sitting in my favourite seat on the bus, I was all by myself for several stops.
the this dude gets on, marches towards me and demands that I give up my seat because that's where he wants to sit, it's his favourite.
I couldn't believe it. There were 3 people on the bus: him, me and the driver. The fucking cheek.
I told him no, it was my favourite seat too and I'm not getting up. He argued some more but I ignored him.
At the next stop he got off, still sulking.🤣🤣

sunshinelover69 · 29/10/2021 14:08

You were being a twat. Maybe the other spaces weren't big enough to park in? I hate it when people take up the space next to them by leaving their car door open.

AdobeWankenobi · 29/10/2021 14:13

@sunshinelover69

You were being a twat. Maybe the other spaces weren't big enough to park in? I hate it when people take up the space next to them by leaving their car door open.
Really? You're going with that? 😂
sunshinelover69 · 29/10/2021 14:28

Saying it like it is! Grin

Skysblue · 29/10/2021 14:29

She’s a bully and she chose the space because you were in it and she wanted to make you move.

Well done for standing up to her OP 👏

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